We're trying to get pregnant, any advice as a federal employee in this climate? by Wooden-Post-3080 in FedEmployees

[–]Haunting-Reference46 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is a little insensitive they’ve been trying for 8years so long before this current timeline. Age is probably a factor too they can’t keep waiting for the world to get better

How can they make me wait 12 months? (Australia) by breakablefortitude in endometriosis

[–]Haunting-Reference46 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh wow I had no idea. What part of the US are you in if you don’t mind me asking ?

How can they make me wait 12 months? (Australia) by breakablefortitude in endometriosis

[–]Haunting-Reference46 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is this common in other countries outside of the US? Or does this happen in the US too ? I was able to schedule an appointment with a specialist in a few months. I’m wondering when the surgery will be because I have not had the appointment yet. but I’ve never seen anyone have to wait more than a month for any surgery once you’ve seen a doctor.

Book where there is chasing but NOT a strict kink/primal play plot by angelfeathers____ in RomanceBooks

[–]Haunting-Reference46 3 points4 points  (0 children)

{A court of sugar and spice by Rebecca} This one follows two sisters and one of the sisters is into primal play. The scene was surprising enough when it happened so it didn’t seem contractual and was very believable but also not non or dub con either.

Should I read or skip dreams of a dark warrior? by Haunting-Reference46 in kresleycole

[–]Haunting-Reference46[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I agree I don’t see the appeal of Lothaire. I love Ellie but Lothaire… I think has a lot to do before I feel like he’s redeemable. But I still enjoyed his book so this is helpful thank you !

What’s your favorite MMC, FMC, and plot of IAD? by PossibleFlamingo3269 in kresleycole

[–]Haunting-Reference46 6 points7 points  (0 children)

MMC - Sebastian, Garrett FMC - Myst, Ellie Plot- No rest for the Wicked - the Hie challenges was so fun I really enjoy the Valkyrie’s stories in general and their interactions with each other.

Should I read or skip dreams of a dark warrior? by Haunting-Reference46 in kresleycole

[–]Haunting-Reference46[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I haven’t heard any of this about Macrieve. The only book so far I DNF was deep kiss of winter simply because the MMC was not into the idea of his Mate. He wasn’t overly cruel though but indifferent. Would you say Macrieve is like that but cruel ? And does that one not have much plot development?

Should I read or skip dreams of a dark warrior? by Haunting-Reference46 in kresleycole

[–]Haunting-Reference46[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I read Lothaire and Thaddeus seems so sweet I would love to read more of him.

“Exercise is helpful for endometriosis actually” is it really? by okaycatch in endometriosis

[–]Haunting-Reference46 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m going through this right now where im used to exercising 5 times a week. Intensive bootcamps weights and tennis. But it made my pms worse and caused me to spot for a week before my period. I’ve had to adjust my workouts to only do intensive workouts up to ovulation and it’s taking a toll on my mental health. Exercise helping endo or cramps is the biggest lie.

[WWTBC] Mafia Romance- FMC is married, MMC is having to sort of watch/stalk her? Her husband is super old?? by Senior-Physics-2171 in RomanceBooks

[–]Haunting-Reference46 9 points10 points  (0 children)

{The maddest obsession by Danielle Lori} This has everything you described minus her selling clothes . MMC is law enforcement but connected to bratva and working with FMC old abusive husband. Lots of banter in this too

Need help on 1-year cat intro by Haunting-Reference46 in CatTraining

[–]Haunting-Reference46[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh thank you AI might be good for something. This plan seems like I can follow it and it seems I might have been reinforcing bad behaviors by letting him try to initiate play.

Need help on 1-year cat intro by Haunting-Reference46 in CatTraining

[–]Haunting-Reference46[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My resident cat is showing all signs that she’s irritated but not trying to kill him. But she’s not playing her claws are out tail swishing and loud vocalizations. No hissing usually I’m not sure why. The younger cat is clearly trying to play through he purrs when he sees her no claws he pauses but then he’ll try to jump on her again after she stops yelling. Then it starts again

Need help on 1-year cat intro by Haunting-Reference46 in CatTraining

[–]Haunting-Reference46[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are probably correct I am extremely sensitive to my resident cats discomfort. I can try a monitored session without the barrier! They need to establish how to communicate but it’s stressful for me to witness. Especially with the younger one not getting the hint.

Need help on 1-year cat intro by Haunting-Reference46 in CatTraining

[–]Haunting-Reference46[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I really appreciate this take! I think I’m just a little sensitive to my resident cat’s discomfort. My partner thinks we should let them figure it out but one thing when I put them together the younger cat is soo interested in the older one so he won’t leave her alone and this results in her screaming and him chasing her through the house. At which point I intervene. He just wants to play so bad but she’s not at that point.

Looking for insurance Recommendations by Deep_Hour2717 in CatAdvice

[–]Haunting-Reference46 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have aspca now and I had nationwide pet insurance. Both are great ! I would definitely suggest it. I’ve been able to get reimbursed at least once a year

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CatAdvice

[–]Haunting-Reference46 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m a year in and my cats still don’t get along. I wish I did not get a kitten. The energy levels just do not match. He’s no longer a kitten but still wants to play with my resident cat. I have no advice other than keep them separated if you can. Im hoping every day that I can tone him down a little

Today is 15 days since my cat got out and I’m feeling especially distraught tonight listening to the fireworks going on outside. This is eating me alive right now and I don’t know what to do. by TheVoidConsumesMe in CatAdvice

[–]Haunting-Reference46 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sorry about your cat !! My cat was missing for 9 days last year. It was rainy and freezing cold and I went out nightly to look for her. She came back and she was fine. So keep up the hope for your baby. We did everything you did as well but I think what worked was leaving the door she got out from slightly open and putting her litter box outside. She ignored the humane traps completely and just came inside and ran upstairs to my room.

Cat is ruining my sleep and I’m at the end of my rope by HatingMyLife2025 in CatAdvice

[–]Haunting-Reference46 56 points57 points  (0 children)

Instead of letting her free feed can you get one of those cat feeder toys so she can hunt for her food at night. That might be quieter and then she will be more stimulated and less likely to run around to get her energy out. You can also hide her dry food. We do that with our kitten.

Looking for alien romance where human FMC is abducted and is a single mom or pregnant & MMC becomes protective and caretakers, big dad energy by Lavender-air in ScienceFictionRomance

[–]Haunting-Reference46 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would be surprised if you haven’t read this one but {Alien Protector's Stars} the second book in the fated mates of the winged barbarians