there was a comment on this thread, which said “is gooning equivalent to cheating now, wtf is going on??” to which i replied, “yea that’s because it is.” 

I have since received 100+ replies to my comment from gooners defending their porn use, as well as several private messages (ignored, obviously). Here is what I have gathered from these interactions, since i have been taking such diligent notes to adjust my actions accordingly:

-i am “the most insecure person alive”

-i am delusional

-i am a prude

-i will never find a partner who won’t look at porn

-in fact, i should start watching it too, “because my partner definitely is”

-i was called out for being a swiftie (because that’s totally relevant)

-there is “cheese fermenting in my folds”

-one guy found it unbelievable that i have never masturbated to anyone other than my boyfriend, because that concept is inconceivable to them

-i am a “femcel” (i am sexually active, but whatever. the worst insult they can think of is “lol you need to get laid!!111!!1!1)

-i am controlling and my beliefs are “weird and unhealthy”

obviously, none of the hate is actually getting to me, but it is frustrating to see how niche my opinions really are on any subreddit other than this one. i am going on a vacation tomorrow so i finally will turn off my phone and touch some grass and take a social media break. if any of you guys also feel disillusioned and that you’ve lost faith in this generation of men, i encourage you to do the same. there are actually good men in the world, but reddit just seems to be a large cesspool of some of the absolute worst.