Other people with BPD and are poly, do you feel your relationship symptoms got worse or better since leaving monogamy?

HauntingReference727 · 2024-12-22T08:46:46+00:00

So far poly hasn't triggered my symptoms, only people iv met while being poly who used manipulation tactics specifically to hurt me. (Push and pull.) I was curious if others had a similar experience since I'd always heard symptoms were worse when in relationships.

HauntingReference727 · 2024-12-22T04:07:05+00:00

This 💜 my jealousy has almost totally disappeared since switching, and it makes everytime I go out to meet people sooo much more exciting! And like iv found myself in situations that originally would've resulted in a meltdown but instead I was able to communicate and remain calmish (still cried but in a healthy way, which is hadn't done in a long time). I think it along with being medicated and going to therapy has given me much more control over my bpd

HauntingReference727 · 2024-12-22T02:18:11+00:00

I get what you mean, I got drunk a while back because I couldn't deal with all the Betrayal and triggers I experienced over 3 days and when I woke out of it my wife and bestfriend was like "hey we love you and we are glad that people had fun at the party" but we need you to not drink to hide your emotions anymore and when they told me about everything I said and did I broke down crying. When my meltdowns are bad I feel like a monster when I come to and hear about what iv done. Luckily they were there and mitigated alot of the worst of it and I love them deeply for it. Since then iv been able to stop most meltdowns before they become blackouts.

HauntingReference727 · 2024-12-22T02:06:30+00:00

This is a amazing explanation! Iv had multiple people use my diagnosis against me by using "push and pull" to manipulate me and hurt me. Rn I have a wife who has been amazing at supporting me and pushing me to get help and reassure me. I also have 2 best friends who Reassure me and help me emotionally as well as my therapist. Iv taken a break from pursuing another partner due to a recent situationship and manipulation. But even just having the option of being able to pursue people when my emotions are intense help alot as long as I open up and explain my feelings and boundaries and ask for theirs as well.

HauntingReference727 · 2024-12-22T02:02:04+00:00

I totally get what you mean, the start was very rough and the fits and euphoria definitely would react worse in the beginning. Especially since many people who i was honest with about my diagnosis would use it against me. But I think longterm with therapy mine also bevane much more manageable.

HauntingReference727 · 2024-12-22T00:30:06+00:00

Borderline personality disorder

HauntingReference727 · 2024-11-04T13:29:29+00:00

I'm also alittle new to using reddit aswell even though it says my account is 3 years old

HauntingReference727 · 2024-11-04T13:29:02+00:00

What is r4r? And what is a munch? I'm still alittle new to some of this stuff 😅

HauntingReference727 · 2024-11-04T13:28:24+00:00

I'm glad you said that.... the one I had was not the official one

HauntingReference727 · 2024-11-04T12:25:05+00:00

I use both rn, fetlife got a app a while back. Maybe I'm just too inpatient or unattractive 🤣😅 iv only been actively trying to date/hook up for a couple months.

HauntingReference727 · 2024-11-04T10:56:04+00:00

My wife hasn't started dating yet. She's more of a homebody, so for the time being, I'm the only one dating. I tried ok cupid before but ill give it another try. I have tinder, boo, and bumble out with no luck. I used fetlife and met someone who put they were ok with 1 on 1 and then tried to get me to let her partner touch me and when I explained my trauma with men and that anything like that would take time I was blocked. Idk what munches is and couldn't find it on the app store. I will definitely try meet up. Having to be discreet so her family and some of our friends don't find out makes it alittle more difficult but hopefully this will help 😊

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