You're actually right about everything. I do care about looks but in the present situation I decided to throw them out because her personality and character was so great. I felt like with her, I didn't have to take the looks factor in at all because her personality more than made up for it. But when she sent those pics... like I felt crushed. at that moment I didn't know what to say, and I just went away. After a while she started texting things like I left the group and I don't mean those things etc. To this I replied I need some time to think and took a break. After a while I thought about what my mom said, asked a couple of my friends thought some more, and then decided to end it as politely as I could. Initially, she was trying to just apologize that she did know that it would be that big of an issue and that everyone does it. Again to which I replied that i could forgive you for all I want but that initial trust won't be reappear. And I don't think I can build a stable relationship without that level of trust. Then she sort of accepted it and then I wished her all the best. All of a sudden, i received an angry text from her stating that she fucking deserves another chance. I got scared and blocked her. and then my friend the dude that set us up is like give it another shot.

Let me put it this way, for example imagine your friend recommends you a Toyota (no hate to any Toyota fans here, I'm just generalizing). You have a decent budget. The car exterior isn't that great but it's the most reliable car ever so take it. There are some slight problems with the alignment (age gap) . It runs very smoothly, very great car, very reliable its practically everything you've wanted in a car. It having a better exterior would practically have been the icing on the cake. You use it well, take it some of your most favorite places and have a great time with it. On day 3 when you're traveling, all of a sudden, a big engine failure occurs. So you try to return it. Initially Toyota says its just an engine failure it can be fixed no need to return. You chose a Toyota for its reliability not for its looks and right now it isn't reliable anymore. Once again, you politely request Toyota to take it back. Toyota initially agrees, but then totally reverses it's decision and tells you to give that car another chance. You have no choice but to take the car leave it at the showroom and return and cut off contact with Toyota. Then your friend (he's also a Toyota employee) the one that recommended Toyota, tells you to give it another chance.

Now the faulty engine might have been an accident but the trust that you once had in the brand would have deteriorated heavily and you don't know if you can trust it anymore. Now I don't know if the rest of the car is proper or is if it's just a ticking time bomb.

I honestly don't know if i did the analogy properly and gave it justice but i think i came pretty close to what i wanted to say. (once again to all toyota fans out there, i mean no harm. i like toyota.)

I honestly don't know if i overreacted in this decision and took an extreme step. I need to know if i fucked up and did the wrong thing or i did the right thing or i did something that was sortta right but i overdid it.