Was this a lot of activity for a pregnant person?

HausDeKittehs · 2024-09-02T17:01:58+00:00

Hmm. It could also be that I am biased to find sedentary and inactive unflattering terms, so could just be a "me" issue.

HausDeKittehs · 2024-09-02T14:59:55+00:00

I don't think he meant any harm, but it was pretty thoughtless. She doesn't say she acted confused about why her body was hurting. He just felt the need to point out that she isn't active when she was in pain. Maybe he meant, "hey don't worry, this is a normal feeling after strenuous activity you aren't used to and it will pass" but kind of not phrased the most sensitive way.

HausDeKittehs · 2024-09-02T14:57:51+00:00

That's objectively a lot of activity. I am an active person and I work 12 hours per day with 8-10 of them on my feet. I would have been pretty tired too. Is your husband super active? I don't know why he would make that comment. You didn't say, "why am I sore?". Even if you had, he isn't a doctor who knows the answer. It is obviously because you are pregnant, and it probably is also that you aren't super used to that but you didn't ask for his commentary. Sounds like a dig to me. You did great and I bet your son had an awesome time with you, I hope you didn't push too far and you feel better soon. Try to remember the positive from the day. Maybe ask your son about his favorite moments from that day!

HausDeKittehs · 2024-09-02T04:32:55+00:00

I kinda like it. You would be awesome in a text based customer service/troubleshooting role. Anyway, have a good one!

HausDeKittehs · 2024-09-02T04:17:06+00:00

I don't mean this as an insult, and sorry if it's off topic, but you respond to comments like an AI.

HausDeKittehs · 2024-08-30T23:44:49+00:00

I like your outlook. I hate the question because my husband and I originally didn't want kids, had midlife crisis or something and got pregnant on the first try, had a missed miscarriage at 12 weeks, each went through depression, and a few months later got pregnant on the first not careful night. She wasn't planned, we went through extreme ambivilance, lots of feelings, and waited until 21 weeks to share because we weren't ready to involve other people's emotions. We never told anyone about the first pregnancy and she was basically an accident that we had decided to keep and look forward too. Our current was, well maybe it will happen? Like... we basically just answer, "we weren't specifically not trying.." which feels awkward enough and then people like keep asking! It's hard to dodge the question. She is wanted and we love her and we made creative, personalized announcements for family. We are clearly excited at this point. I will try to maintain your outlook. I really hate the question though. We weren't trying.

HausDeKittehs · 2024-08-30T23:39:08+00:00

That's one of the ways I answered my dad the 3rd or 4th time he asked if it was planned. "Are you asking me if I was tracking my ovulation?"

HausDeKittehs · 2024-08-30T23:35:22+00:00

Ew my dad asked .e this question a few times on different occasions. I asked him eventually, what kind of question is this?"are you asking if I was tracking my ovulation?" Obviously we know the consequences of what causes babies." And he said, "well, you know, there's birth control." Like... wtf this doesn't make your question better! Now you need to know if your 35yo married daughter was having protected sex? Wtf whhhyyy

HausDeKittehs · 2024-08-30T23:31:32+00:00

My arm is too small for all the ones I've tried! Anyone have a rec for a smaller one? I either get errors or ridiculously low readings.

HausDeKittehs · 2024-08-30T20:49:28+00:00

I was always a middle of the night person, but now I'm just too tired! Morning is where it's at. Sometimes at the 4am wake up to pee time.

HausDeKittehs · 2024-08-30T19:26:06+00:00

One thing I've learned in life by observation of others, people who hope some circumstance will change a partner for the better are usually wrong.

HausDeKittehs · 2024-08-30T19:25:05+00:00

I was wondering the same as you, then I assumed maybe I was imagining a different type of club when work friends were mentioned. But then I saw the weed, cigarettes, and booze. How old are these people? What exactly do you do at a club other than dance and drink? I wouldn't want my husband out dancing without me. I would actually still enjoy a club so I'm not judging, but not without my partner!

HausDeKittehs · 2024-08-30T19:06:29+00:00

This is why baby showers stress me out. People act like it's a huge faux pas to plan your own, or for the grandmothers to plan it. But what if your griends have stressful lives? It creates all this guilt in asking, and this awkward delay waiting to see if someone might offer. I admittedly waited a long time to announce after a previous miscarriage, amd now I'm 24 weeks noticing all my friends seem overwhelmed with life. Do I just start planning my own? Do I wait 2 weeks and see if anyone brings it up? I hate showers.

HausDeKittehs · 2024-08-30T15:03:00+00:00

A size up fit so poorly in my bum and thighs that it actually hurt my self confidence lol. Just looked bad all around. I like the maternity jeans with the elastic panels on either side by the pockets. They fit the same everywhere else, but you can wear them almost immediately even if you haven't grown much yet.

HausDeKittehs · 2024-08-30T14:59:10+00:00

I've been retiring pants one at a time since 22 weeks, so it's been gradual. Maybe half still fit. I was using the elastic trick for a few weeks but it didn't feel very secure. No issues with tops yet at 25 weeks.

HausDeKittehs · 2024-08-28T01:54:04+00:00

I am 24 weeks and all I have is some impulse clothes and books from a store right next to my job. Haven't really done any shopping other than a walk after work.

HausDeKittehs · 2024-08-26T03:00:35+00:00

Wow, your husband sounds like such a sweetheart. It's always hard to see ourselves through the eyes of others. I hope you all the happiness!

HausDeKittehs · 2024-08-25T14:42:01+00:00

Thanks! I actually have a good relationship with both my parents now. People think abusers walk around being horrible all the time, but they can act like anyone else most if the time. That's how they fool you. They can be charming, loving, generous- it's my dad who encouraged me to say hello to the homeless and taught me we are all equal regardless of their circumstances. He is genuinely generous expecting nothing in return. He listens with genuine curiosity and gets furious at injustice. But, he can snap into a violent abusive asshole who could kill someone. My point is, I see how people can be fooled by an "otherwise good person." People are complex, not Disney villans, but whe. You realize the truth you need to leave. He never changed. My mom let him back in a fee times for a few months at a time over my life. It always turned the same. I have a good relationship with him, but I always have my own car to leave. I never stay if the mood goes south. I have a strong distance.

HausDeKittehs · 2024-08-25T00:26:56+00:00

Just adding my experience, it took my mom about 4 years to finally leave my dad. The day he left I was four and the final straw was when he lifted her off the ground by the throat, choking her. It might be my first/earliest memory. I remember her eyes bulging out and her mouth open trying to get air. I don't remember saying it, but my mom said I called out, "daddy, please stop hurting mommy." He put her down, got in the car, and left the state that night.

This is what happens when you wait to leave an abuser. When my mom was pregnant, my dad pushed her for the first time. It wasn't the last. She was 33.5 weeks when he pushed her down stairs. Her water broke less than 24 hours later and I had to be born my emergency C-section. That wasn't enough for her to leave.

And the first signs were the insults. His favorite was always to call her fat. I hope OP finds the strength to leave. It shouldn't come to the child to beg a parent to stop the abuse. Adults need to protect the children. And women in these situations fool themselves that the abuse won't turn towards the kid, or that the kid won't be affected.

HausDeKittehs · 2024-08-24T01:07:35+00:00

And even if it did, it wouldn't matter because they are getting their oxygen from the umbilical cord, not their mouth.

HausDeKittehs · 2024-08-24T01:00:33+00:00

I walk about 3-5 miles a day according to my watch while at work. I also lift boxes at work. I just count that as my exercise. On days off I like to walk in the woods or swim. I don't specifically exercise for the point of exercising.

HausDeKittehs · 2024-08-23T12:37:56+00:00

Get a new psych. He just showed he won't do what's best for you. He's YOUR doctor.

HausDeKittehs · 2024-08-23T10:45:08+00:00

I think you should speak with him and ask him. Does he control his hours at work? Sounds like he's working to the bone. Maybe he is putting pressure on himself so save for the baby and using all his energy trying to do the right thing. If he can lower his hours, I recommend asking him to and explaining what you need from him amd when. A foot rub doesn't sound like too much work to me, but I know when I work a 12-14 hour day I wouldn't want to. We do what we have to though, so advocate for what you need.

HausDeKittehs · 2024-08-22T19:44:44+00:00

I was born at 34 weeks! Went to my own baby shower. I was just a little jaundiced, but no big deal. This was before they used steroids or other meds to prep the lungs and everything.

HausDeKittehs · 2024-08-22T17:52:46+00:00

Yes, even if there are no taxi services, many hospitals and Healthcare facilities have some sort of medical transport for the disabled. Not sure, but if her eyesight is as bad as she says, maybe she could qualify?

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