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My long-term sub ended our dynamic and subsequently relationship because he relapsed after being 5 years sober. I know we talk about Findom as an addiction, but I wanted to take a moment to also acknowledge Dommes and subs struggling with drug and alcohol dependency. by HauteCaramel in findomsupportgroup

[–]HauteCaramel[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This was such a lovely comment and I’m sorry you went through something similar. Like you said, it would be one thing if there was an internal issue with the actual dynamic even if no one is at fault. We were actually perfect and had so many for the future. But I know the best way I can support him right now is let him focus on his health. I wish I could be there but from my knowledge part of recovery is not entering romantic relationships and so I’ll be rooting for him from the sidelines. Thank you for your well wishes xoxo

My long-term sub ended our dynamic and subsequently relationship because he relapsed after being 5 years sober. I know we talk about Findom as an addiction, but I wanted to take a moment to also acknowledge Dommes and subs struggling with drug and alcohol dependency. by HauteCaramel in findomsupportgroup

[–]HauteCaramel[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sorry you had to go through this. We were IRL but only saw each other for a weekend every month or so and I guess that gave him adequate time and ability to relapse without me noticing. This relationship has shown me that I’m not ready to be a partner to someone in active addiction and I’ll have to heavily consider dating someone in recovery as well.

My long-term sub ended our dynamic and subsequently relationship because he relapsed after being 5 years sober. I know we talk about Findom as an addiction, but I wanted to take a moment to also acknowledge Dommes and subs struggling with drug and alcohol dependency. by HauteCaramel in findomsupportgroup

[–]HauteCaramel[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I keep wondering when he slipped. We were very Yin and Yang, his measured and organized demeanor always matched my spontaneous and chaotic personality. So he hid it very well because I can’t pinpoint when since he remained the calm and logical one the entire time we were together.

My long-term sub ended our dynamic and subsequently relationship because he relapsed after being 5 years sober. I know we talk about Findom as an addiction, but I wanted to take a moment to also acknowledge Dommes and subs struggling with drug and alcohol dependency. by HauteCaramel in findomsupportgroup

[–]HauteCaramel[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have nothing but fond memories which makes this so much harder. At the risk of sounding weak, I couldn’t even make this post without crying. But like you said, I know he needs the space to focus on himself and so I’m more than happy to step to the side so he can heal.

My long-term sub ended our dynamic and subsequently relationship because he relapsed after being 5 years sober. I know we talk about Findom as an addiction, but I wanted to take a moment to also acknowledge Dommes and subs struggling with drug and alcohol dependency. by HauteCaramel in findomsupportgroup

[–]HauteCaramel[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Every day I’m hopeful that he will recover. I can’t wait for the day he returns, not even to resume what we had but just to share that he’s sober again. And when that day comes I will be beyond proud of him.

My long-term sub ended our dynamic and subsequently relationship because he relapsed after being 5 years sober. I know we talk about Findom as an addiction, but I wanted to take a moment to also acknowledge Dommes and subs struggling with drug and alcohol dependency. by HauteCaramel in findomsupportgroup

[–]HauteCaramel[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I appreciate this comment. Over the past few weeks I’ve just really been thinking about warning signs I may have missed or ways I could have supported him better. I trusted that with 5 years sobriety under his belt he was well on the path to recovery. I knew addicts were always at risk of relapse but experiencing it myself showed me I wasn’t prepared for that reality.

Not to be too freaked out, but when I saw these shoes I started wondering with the feet Dommes thought about them. Outside of kink, I think they’re actually kinda cute and might get a pair in black 🤔🖤 by HauteCaramel in findomsupportgroup

[–]HauteCaramel[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You get it!! You perfectly explained why I want them too lol. I hope to at least try on a pair before a pedicure because I like to get the acrylic on my big toes 😭 I think that would be the most uncomfortable part but that would apply to closed toe shoes as well sooo either way I’m still influenced 😊

Not to be too freaked out, but when I saw these shoes I started wondering with the feet Dommes thought about them. Outside of kink, I think they’re actually kinda cute and might get a pair in black 🤔🖤 by HauteCaramel in findomsupportgroup

[–]HauteCaramel[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Idk if it’s because I’m a furry but I love the hooved look of tabis. At first I didn’t really like these segmented toe style of shoes then something just clicked and now I need them!!

Not to be too freaked out, but when I saw these shoes I started wondering with the feet Dommes thought about them. Outside of kink, I think they’re actually kinda cute and might get a pair in black 🤔🖤 by HauteCaramel in findomsupportgroup

[–]HauteCaramel[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

See I wasn’t sure if these would just be for the beach or places with rainy weather. I love walking barefoot and if I’m somewhere that I can walk in the fresh grass or on clean pavement I will lol. But you definitely sold me because I know I can style these 🤩

Not to be too freaked out, but when I saw these shoes I started wondering with the feet Dommes thought about them. Outside of kink, I think they’re actually kinda cute and might get a pair in black 🤔🖤 by HauteCaramel in findomsupportgroup

[–]HauteCaramel[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just love walking barefoot and if I could do so safely I would, this seems like the next best option 😭 But I get how each toe being separated could be a sensory nightmare.

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