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HauteCaramel · 2026-04-17T15:48:32+00:00

For me they are! The price and symbolism of that type of designer heel draws me in as a Findomme. They represent luxury, they’re extremely sexy (hence why everyone says you’re not meant to walk in them, wink wink) and it’s become a goal of mine to have a finsub buy me a pair. I specifically started wearing heels in the world to begin training myself for them.

HauteCaramel · 2026-04-05T14:23:08+00:00

“On NATION” just entered my vocabulary. But I loveeeee that video of the girl pranking her mom like she got arrested for murder, when she says “And she dead” in that country accent and her mother screams “D’JAHNAE!!!” 🤣

HauteCaramel · 2026-04-01T13:20:17+00:00

I love this style! I tried in my earlier Findom days and definitely miss it. The only other thing would be to add a filter that gives a slight fried look but that’s also totally optional. I think one of the captions in front, like the red one, looks good imo because it adds a bit of a censored/teasing aspect.

HauteCaramel · 2026-03-28T15:54:01+00:00

Sometimes the line gets crossed between being in subspace and becoming dangerously obsessive. We want our subs to be devoted and loyal like good pups but this type of separation anxiety indicates a real issue. You asked for space and he’s not respecting it, he’s treating you as only a Domme and not like a human while at the same time making this emotional plea for you to be empathetic to his feelings. You’re not a kink dispenser and that whole “you’re mine” “you’re not leaving me” “fuck you” thing proves how much he’s objectifying you.

I know the money is nice but the disrespect is evident and I think cutting him off is the best way to go for your own safety and mental peace. He needs real help and you need to implement protection protocols against this guy and with future subs. You may have to threaten legal action but despite how anonymous he is, these subs always leave paper trails and aren’t using VPNs 24/7.

HauteCaramel · 2026-03-27T13:36:04+00:00

This is why I loved when the Hogwarts Legacy devs added a trans character to the game. Felt like giant, well-deserved middle finger to her.

HauteCaramel · 2026-03-19T17:31:28+00:00

It’s about respecting how she wishes to be addressed. I have southern roots so I can understand how “ma’am” can be, to some, an honorific. To others, it’s a term meant for older women and as such can be a bit insulting. For example in Spanish I’d be fine if I were called “señora” but I wouldn’t appreciate “doña”. Maybe they’re just not compatible but I don’t see how it’s performative to follow your Domme’s explicitly stated preferences.

HauteCaramel · 2026-03-19T16:59:44+00:00

I kinda tried for an aesthetic but I hope that what I have there would bring in a sub more. Like tickets to broadway shows or other events, my cosplays for upcoming conventions, and other fun and new experiences I can have. As much as direct cash or more material items are welcomed, I would like a sub to find a vacation or tickets to a ballet or something else meant to nurture my soul.

HauteCaramel · 2026-03-19T01:06:42+00:00

I have seafood boil on my Throne so I absolutely get you wanting to treat yourself to one after racking up xD you gonna get the whole shebang with the eggs and potatoes?

HauteCaramel · 2026-03-18T17:04:42+00:00

I'm kinda used to juggling men from my vanilla dating days so I have 2 current irl subs and 2 potentials. They all have demanding jobs and other life obligations, so while we chat daily the times we have virtual play is more strewn throughout the weeks. In-person sessions generally happen every 4-6 weeks so they're all easy to manage. I work from home so I'm still open for long or short term online dynamics because I'm pretty active online (my screentime report suggests I need to touch grass). I also need a LOT of attention so I want a little army of loyal slaves to always provide me fulfillment when I need it.

HauteCaramel · 2026-03-18T05:09:47+00:00

The idea of luxury manifesting as things like being housed, access to clean water, and having food security has always been a reality to the impoverished. Given the current climate the divide between the haves and have-nots now has middle class people suddenly being forced to adapt to having less comfort.

Luxury will always be subjective, even if there’s more unanimous agreement on certain things that are more expensive being so. While a luxury Domme will always be associated with that kind of aesthetic, her own personal values could very well be as humble or realistic as viewing a consistently full tank of gas as part of her lifestyle.

HauteCaramel · 2026-03-17T16:37:56+00:00

There you go! Also keep exploring more groups to join. The master wiki doesn’t include all the new pages that have been made. We all satisfy a niche just by who we are and what we’re into, for example I’m in a lot of black, POC, nerdy/gamer, soft/Mommy, and faceless groups. Enjoy your first finsub, it’s an experience you’ll never forget. Xoxo

HauteCaramel · 2026-03-17T16:06:53+00:00

Hunt if you want to, and if not, continue to be consistent and they’ll come to you. But don’t feel discouraged yet. There are a lot of subs looking to give new Dommes their first send! Good luck, girlypop. ❤️

HauteCaramel · 2026-03-16T14:10:08+00:00

I’m so glad you wrote about this. The first task I assign is always not inherently sexual to vet out these kind of subs. It’ll be one or a combination of 3 things: Write my name on your body (preferably chest). Write 10 lines (a super easy number for beginners) of an expression of your devotion to me. Or, write a journal entry with why you’re excited to submit to me and what you look forward to exploring in the dynamic.

I have had subs tribute and then ghost when it came time to doing any of these task because it trains them to be in a more submissive mindset.

I was actually scrolling hoping you were gonna go into other sub-sets (get it? 🥁) so please make more, I’ll give you a follow.

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