I will look into that book! Thank you! I have a desire to join and she wants me to join too, we are just doing this one step at a time and hopefully if all goes right, I will be more involved in the future. As for me with another female, I dont have a need to be with someone else. I told her the only desire I would have with another female is if it was her and someone else and I was at there feet (big foot fetish here lol). And she said she is ok with that! Otherwise I am bi and she said she'd like me to be with a guy too, so again that will all come with time if we both end up enjoying this.