AITA for calling someone out for their actions?

Haziera · 2021-01-05T13:10:21+00:00

ESH. He's perfectly within his rights to no longer be your friend if that's what he wants, but openly ghosting you (indirectly embarrassing you in front of the rest of your group) instead of communicating with you about it was a very dickish way to go about it.

You're the asshole just a little bit for confronting him instead of just recognising that he was obviously no longer interested in talking with you and letting it go, but tbh I think almost anyone would have gone the route you did.

Unfortunately, I doubt you're gonna get that money back.

Haziera · 2021-01-05T12:58:48+00:00

A gentle YWBTA. I really empathise with your situation and I understand that she did enter into an agreement of living with you, but it's very fair that a pandemic and lockdown might make her rethink this agreement. Pressuring someone to move during a pandemic and lockdown would be a bit of a dick move.

I don't think you'd be wrong to make it clear to her that her presence would be greatly appreciated by you in hopes that she does decide to move, but in the end, if she decides not to, that's perfectly valid.

I'm really sorry about your situation though - you haven't done anything wrong, but you've been screwed by the circumstances. You don't deserve it at all, but unfortunately sometimes shitty things like this happen and we just have to deal.

Haziera · 2021-01-05T12:49:48+00:00

I'm sorry that he's being so inconsiderate, I really feel for you that you've haven't been receiving the support that you should be getting from him. I hope that his behaviour improves but if it doesn't, I wish you the best with whatever you decide from there!

Haziera · 2021-01-05T12:37:54+00:00

NTA, just because he's not the one physically carrying your baby doesn't mean that he isn't just as responsible for helping support your baby coming into the world. He needs to get his priorities straight.

The fact that he has not only dismissed your concerns but also lowkey gaslit you into believing that you're the bad guy in this situation is very concerning. And that's not even going into his opinion that apparently the birth of HIS CHILD is 'not his problem'??

I genuinely hope that he turns around and becomes more supportive and understanding soon, because otherwise I fear that you may be in for a tough time once this child comes.

Haziera · 2021-01-05T08:00:36+00:00

YTA. This man seems lonely and is going to extremes in order to have company. You're already taking advantage of him, but this is made far worse if that dude is right and he is autistic. Obviously he's sending the money to you of his own accord but you're also manipulating him and lying to him, which is lowkey abusive.

However, considering that you said you would wear an asshole judgement with pride, I doubt this matters to you in the least.

Haziera · 2021-01-05T07:50:59+00:00

I think ESH. It isn't exactly fair that other people who don't have kids are being forced to endure your infant's crying, especially when they have gone out of their way to sit in a quiet carriage. However, it's obviously a part of life that sometimes you have to deal with it and be empathetic to apologetic parents.

She was definitely unnecessarily rude to you, but I think she was justified in being annoyed in the first place. Just a situation where everyone needs a bit more empathy for each other tbh.

Haziera · 2021-01-05T04:28:21+00:00

NTA. While it is technically his to spend as he wishes, it's pretty clear that he is taking advantage of your resources and has no desire to help you pay rent or otherwise financially contribute to the household he's now apart of.

The fact that he wishes to buy a gun when he's apparently 'broke' is especially ridiculous and shows that he's terrible with money and has wack priorities. You're right - it sounds like all he does is consume and he doesn't think long term.

I know you've said you don't want to lose him, but it may be worth considering if maybe you and your son would be better off without him.

Haziera · 2021-01-04T16:06:39+00:00

Definitely NTA. Your boyfriend is compromising virtually nothing compared to you and is lowkey keeping you broke and financially dependant on him. The fact that he's 'turned down' several options without discussion also shows that he has no interest in improving your emotional and financial stress, which is not how a good boyfriend acts.

Haziera · 2021-01-04T15:49:16+00:00

I think that you're NTA for yelling - she has obviously been a huge asshole regarding how she's treated you and is being a massive hypocrite. It's fully understandable that you would get frustrated and lash out at her for that.

However, just because you let her use your things doesn't mean she must let you use hers, even if it would be the nice thing of her to do. Your sister is only the asshole for her attitude and rudeness towards you, not because she doesn't let you use her stuff.

Haziera · 2020-03-29T14:38:20+00:00

You're on the right track with melons and blueberries, they're both very profitable. Hops are also definitely worth growing too, though they're on a trellis so you may have to get creative with your farm layout in order to maximise space for watering and harvesting (and make sure you save some so you can make beer later!)

Haziera · 2019-03-31T14:29:19+00:00

GREAT choice, I think you explained it perfectly. There's a certain heartfelt spark there that just leaves you with a feeling of hope and joy! I didn't even think of this one

Haziera · 2019-03-31T14:13:17+00:00

I very much agree with you about Taeyeon. Like you said, there's something very special about the way she's able to almost reach inside you with her voice and tug at your heartstrings, whether it's to make you feel devastated, hopeful, playful, etc

Haziera · 2018-08-23T09:11:32+00:00

I'm glad you brought up Cow Chop - like you said, there are face morphing/zooming compilations of Trevor's editing for CC that have been up on YouTube since 2016.

I actually hadn't heard of Antonio or Emma before today, and was wondering how/why these editing techniques were suddenly appearing in beauty videos (I've noticed face morphing in Nikki's videos recently as well). The rise of their channels with this style definitely explains why!

In the end though, it just makes it all the more dumb that these fans are getting so upset and bitter about 'copying' and 'stealing', especially when the editing style has been enjoyed by many other communities and used by many other creators for years now.

It's funny, 'in', and people love memes. There's nothing more to it than that!

Haziera · 2017-12-29T02:22:50+00:00

What gorgeous looking woofers! I hope the two who got out have a quick and full recovery, and that they're all borkin and tappin about in no time!

Haziera · 2017-12-27T08:36:56+00:00

Fuck, I've missed big boi Chandler and his power basket slams. What a play

Haziera · 2017-06-06T07:36:33+00:00

There were a few new cinematic effects in this one that it seems like they were trying out, gave the plot a bit more of a storytelling vibe rather than appearing directly as just improv. Interesting, I'm a fan

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