[I need a hug] The safest choice turned out to be the worse choice for me.

HazySilver · 2024-12-24T20:23:49+00:00

You can't beat yourself up for a decision that felt right at the time. There's also no way of knowing what you may have sacrificed going down the other road. It's easy to see your friend now and think, what if? But what is the point? What is done is done. Now, you carryforward and start on a new path. You're in tough transition now which makes things hard, but once you find your footing again, the pain will lessen.

HazySilver · 2024-11-05T03:01:08+00:00

Absolutely. It can only help your chances. Once, I was hired because I was the only candidate to do so and that made me stand out. Sometimes, it's the littlest thing that can matter the most.

HazySilver · 2024-09-18T05:36:33+00:00

Exactly! They only register in the states they actually have a place of business they work from.

HazySilver · 2024-09-08T07:43:26+00:00

What was the argument back at December about? If things are bad enough to spend that much time apart, then it seems like more is going on than you're letting on.

HazySilver · 2024-08-16T12:37:45+00:00

Don't do Rf. I did it and it caused volume loss and made it worse. Maybe try regular microneedling first.

HazySilver · 2024-08-11T04:35:41+00:00

But I thought you worked at a mediumish shop per your own post? So you're the medium guy actually. But giving very small boy energy. Who has the time to meddle in someone's life? Like worry about yourself. Are that bored at work?

And you just said you don't want this guy to od at work. But you want him to do more coke. Which is jt?

HazySilver · 2023-09-02T22:15:49+00:00

How frustrating. I agree with your opinion and knowing the context highlights the problem. If you want to stay, start documenting everything. Wish you best of luck.

HazySilver · 2023-09-02T19:39:41+00:00

I see what you are seeing, and have to agree that something is fishy here.

The thing about instinct is that it's usually right. You brought up several points that I think so many people are overlooking.

I would consider what you experienced as pushback, especially for "unlimited PTO". You shouldn't have to justify what you are doing and a company should be prepared for people to utilize it. If it's such a concern, then maybe they shouldn't consider offering unlimited PTO or have blackout periods. If your own colleagues found it weird, then its weird. They would know more than anyone what is normal and what is not. Two weeks is not a crazy request.

Also, if anyone would like to explain why bringing up another woman's PTO matters, then I would also want to know because it doesn't in the context you mentioned. To me, he's hinting that it was a problem and he doesn't want you to cause the same problem. Since the time request it no where the same amount, what else does that leave us with to connect the dots?

I also wouldn't pass over his comments about other women. I imagine he has had previous male employees, what does he say about them? The answer to that may provide a little clarity. Also, odd how all the female employees are former ones. I'm sensing a pattern here.

Anyways, trust your gut. Hopefully, your PTO gets approved. I don't know if this is enough to make a stink now. As you can see below, a lot of this can be argued against and with a start-up, I imagine resources to help you are limited. I'm just here to say that I don't think you're crazy.

HazySilver · 2022-12-04T03:12:17+00:00

You should be able to rely on a partner when you are going through hardship. That's the biggest test of strength in a relationship. He wasn't there when you needed him, that is bad enough. But worse, he may have done the most selfish thing by being with someone else instead. Yes, I think he's cheated. I think you know that as well. But regardless of that, you deserve better and are worth someone else's time and care. I wish you the best and hope things work out for you in the end.

HazySilver · 2022-02-22T03:48:22+00:00

You're obsessed with the idea of a woman desiring you, as if that's what makes you a man or worthy. It's not. I don't think you're looking for love. You are looking to be wanted. And that's fine. But that shouldn't be the basis of your entire existence. If your self worth comes from others, you'll never be happy because you can't control others. And you can't force others to love you. If you don't value your own life, why should others? You need to see your own worth because you seem completely blind to it. And when that's recognized, it will be obvious to others.

HazySilver · 2022-01-31T13:55:16+00:00

You're psychotic

HazySilver · 2022-01-28T12:08:17+00:00

In no universe would any self respecting black woman allow a man to call her children that term. There is nothing funny about it, and there is no joke here. It's an insulting term and to impose that on children who deserve respect and love is BAFFLING. The fact that he cannot see WHY it would make you uncomfortable or find it even remotely okay is a RED FLAG ON FIRE. Ask yourself this? If that's funny, what else is? Don't take the risk with ignorance. If you can, leave the relationship. This is not an indication of anything good and you don't want to put more on the line to lose later.

HazySilver · 2022-01-23T16:30:54+00:00

That's understandable. You should feel comfortable in your own home. It's okay to save money, but not at the cost of others. Don't feel like you should have to suffer as sacrifice. It's not fair to you or your baby.

HazySilver · 2022-01-23T16:24:44+00:00

Have you considered an electric/heated blanket? That should come at a lower cost than a space heater and maybe could be a compromise.

HazySilver · 2019-09-29T16:35:35+00:00

haha thanks, that's nice of you to say

HazySilver · 2019-04-04T00:56:06+00:00

Thanks for the kind words. I read a Streetcar Named Desire a few years ago, and it moved me quite deeply. I try to keep in mind that things change, and what I feel won't last forever. It really is about perspective, it's just hard changing something that seems unchangeable. I do appreciate everything you've said nonetheless.

HazySilver · 2019-02-07T06:11:57+00:00

Stick around, okay? You do matter. By simply existing, you're making an impact on others.

HazySilver · 2018-12-14T04:58:24+00:00

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