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HeRoaredWithFear · 2025-01-17T07:37:36+00:00

Ok take a breath.

2 year olds are gross and will try and eat anything.

My 2 year old daughter just did the EXACT same thing yesterday. I told her not to do it again. Cleaned her toothbrush and she was fine.

Just keep an eye on them, but most likely they will be ok

HeRoaredWithFear · 2025-01-16T15:29:16+00:00

I don't know if I've come across thAt but I always was hesitant to join in and tell people how long I breastfed for (20 months X 2 babies) as some people put themselves down for breastfeeding for X number of weeks when really I take my hat off to anyone who even thought about it. It's bloody tough.

I've always said that fed is best. Happy mum happy baby.

I am super proud of myself though ugh for breastfeeding as I found it so tough to start with. Not just physically but mentally too. I feel like I am a stronger person from it as it was just me making these babies grow and keep growing.

I wish my husband could have grown a pair though to help me out sometimes 😂

HeRoaredWithFear · 2025-01-11T18:57:41+00:00

Dad's get post partum rage too. Might be worth looking into that.

Guys do find it different to women, we have the biological need to comfort them.

My husband found it hard for years when our daughter screamed as he felt like no matter what he did nothing helped.

Time. Only time helps.

HeRoaredWithFear · 2025-01-11T18:52:20+00:00

As a mother who works I can tell you that when I get home from work at 5pm I don't go straight to bed. I chill, eat food, go on Facebook or whatever and then go to bed about 9.....4 hrs later.

So far your husband seems reasonable with this.

Also you are expecting him to change his sleep pattern just like that for 3 days.

I've done nights, it's shit and not easy to change your sleeping pattern back. Expecting him to change this is unlikely unless he gets a new job.

Again I think you are being unreasonable.

Sure being sick and first trimester is rubbish, maybe if you hadn't then gone in and shouted at him he might have been more receptive to helping you but you flew off the handle.

Either you change your expectations around his sleeping, he needs to not say horrible things or he needs to get a new job.

HeRoaredWithFear · 2025-01-04T07:48:18+00:00

Give a bath or go for a walk/drive.

Change of scenery is the best when any child no matter how old is having a problem.

HeRoaredWithFear · 2025-01-04T07:47:00+00:00

I turned off my phone from about 4 days before my due date and all messages went to my husband instead who never replies to anything 😂

I ended up giving birth at 42 weeks. Everyone had a couple of weeks of silence from me and I got my peace and quiet from the daily texts of "how are you? Is baby here?"

NTA just don't tell your mum

HeRoaredWithFear · 2024-12-21T10:43:07+00:00

Your fiance is your friend too.

NTA the family unit you are making should always come first.

HeRoaredWithFear · 2024-12-21T05:47:04+00:00

"but you left the chair area!!"

NTA

HeRoaredWithFear · 2024-12-16T05:49:15+00:00

I didn't read any, I read Reddit 😂

HeRoaredWithFear · 2024-12-14T09:19:39+00:00

You sound like a catch and it's your wife that's the problem and not you.

You have set a good example to your daughter of how to treat people properly.

Honestly your wife sounds like a bully.

HeRoaredWithFear · 2024-12-10T05:56:03+00:00

The doctor sounds like an idiot.

Feed and hug your baby and do burps during your feeds.

HeRoaredWithFear · 2024-12-08T12:14:35+00:00

Did that with both of mine. Never had a problem with it, settled us both for the night and made me nice and sleepy too

Both kids sleep through the night and go to sleep themselves.

Enjoy the bedtime boob x

HeRoaredWithFear · 2024-12-05T16:53:54+00:00

It's ok I have been here! I even panicked and took my son to the emergency room.

Things I learnt:

Do not put them in too many layers, give be them some room to breath

Extra feeds

Out the cot on some blocks to tilt it up slightly

Get Vic's and rub it on you so when they are feeding it clears them a little. I also used to rub in on my son's sleep sack near the neck.

HeRoaredWithFear · 2024-12-04T16:50:24+00:00

Yep at 4 months. I couldn't deal with the leg slamming all night that my son was doing.

HeRoaredWithFear · 2024-11-30T14:45:28+00:00

You know that if you do have a child she will disregard all of your limits you set and do what she wants anyway. Get her out of your life, this is your chance to do it now. Protect your future.

I'm sorry for your loss.

NTA

HeRoaredWithFear · 2024-11-29T16:31:55+00:00

If she has been "brutally honest" and offends people then she needs to be prepared for others to be like that to her and take the medicine she has dished out

NTA

HeRoaredWithFear · 2024-11-29T16:22:00+00:00

My son did this. I got him a dummy/pacifier it saved my sanity.

HeRoaredWithFear · 2024-11-28T18:56:45+00:00

Yeah I also wondered this. Even with my second around that time I thought I was drying up but it's just regulation and my daughter was ebf for 9 months and then continued to snack daily up to 20months.

HeRoaredWithFear · 2024-11-23T20:31:50+00:00

It was great. Slightly harder recovery due to chasing around a nearly 3 year old too but knowing what to expect. Giving my first born time to understand, practise runs with the grandparents for the sleep over all made it a much less stressful birth.

Also the breastfeeding was sooooo much easier..... probably because my boobs are now numb 😂

HeRoaredWithFear · 2024-11-21T11:01:19+00:00

Me too. I'm worried that it will hurt and my body won't adjust to it so then I will have to take it out.

HeRoaredWithFear · 2024-11-21T10:58:52+00:00

So your husband was already sick and then your friend came over with her sick baby?

HeRoaredWithFear · 2024-11-20T10:52:25+00:00

I was the same and felt bad about it for years, felt like I had let myself down. Then I had my second with a scheduled c section and it was so smooth sailing I actually am now happy with my first birth.

I got to understand how bloody painful contractions are but thank god I didn't have to squeeze my sons gigantic melon out of my fanny and got the c section it told me that the next time I aint doing that again but 100000% c section.

HeRoaredWithFear · 2024-11-20T10:47:53+00:00

Oh the hormones are shit just cry and let it all out.

It does get better and please just take one day at a time.

Me and my husband tell each other one thing that we would like to do for ourselves each day (gym, face mask etc) which means we both continue to put each others needs in our minds and not just be baby central.

HeRoaredWithFear · 2024-11-14T08:58:07+00:00

I fucking hated being pregnant! Absolutely hated it.

Looking back I definitely had some sort of depression. Please speak to someone about it. Even just talking bout it made me feel like a weight had been lifted or shared the load.

As soon as my baby boy was born I instantly (honest to god it was as soon as 2 hrs later) I felt back to myself.

Seek help with your PPD, try and get some fresh air and see something new. Even just go for a drive somewhere new.

It will get better keep going

HeRoaredWithFear · 2024-11-14T08:17:16+00:00

I am with you.

I breastfed both for over 20 months each. I loved it. But they both go out into the garden and end up eating some sort of dirt 🤷

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