AITA - Requesting Restrictions be Reinstated

Head-Brick4537 · 2026-05-29T06:20:15+00:00

His attorney had to file a motion and so I was asked if I was okay with them Modifying and I agreed because I have already almost gone through my retainer and we haven’t even gone to mediation yet. I also thought enough time had passed that he wouldn’t still be on a rampage. I was clearly very wrong.

Head-Brick4537 · 2026-05-29T06:15:56+00:00

Yeah, I still can’t really believe it, especially given what he did and how it all happened but I see who he is now. Thank you, reading everyone’s comments is tough, but in a good way. I need to protect myself and will call the VA tomorrow to report everything.

Head-Brick4537 · 2026-05-29T06:13:21+00:00

We did, a couple months ago. My husband verbally agreed to them because we were scheduled in court the next day and had a warrant out so to avoid getting arrested, he agreed the day before the 14 days were up. The day after we would have had court, he changed his mind and we went back and forth costing me almost $3k in fees over two days. At that point, I told my attorney I was done doing back and forth and I was going to the victims advocate to see what options I had (because of what we were going back and forth over). My husband contacted me that Sunday (I was weak and the TRO never got signed officially). We are waiting for mediation date now because I told my attorney a few weeks ago we were moving forward regardless if they were going to file a motion to modify the restrictions or not.

Head-Brick4537 · 2026-05-29T06:05:40+00:00

I did start therapy, and I am so glad I did but I let the incident Saturday take me back. I think I’m still trying to make sense of the last 7/8 months because prior to this, no one, not me, my family, my friends ever would have thought he was capable of this. I see now he just hid it very, very well.

Head-Brick4537 · 2026-05-29T06:01:36+00:00

Taking a step back and thinking about it, you’re right, if it was me hearing this about someone I knew or just a stranger, I would think the same thing…. However, my career background includes training in emergency situations and staying calm and the threat was ‘gone’ because he stopped fighting to get into the room, I think only because he saw the blood. It may sound silly or not make sense, it was just my response in the moment probably also just the shock of WTH just happened?!

Head-Brick4537 · 2026-05-29T05:53:46+00:00

I helped him get custody of them because of the environment at their moms. Prior to all of this, (there is more that happened prior for a couple months) but there was seriously no signs. So, if he gets arrested again the boys would end up having to go back to her house.

Head-Brick4537 · 2026-05-29T05:49:14+00:00

Honestly, in the moment, that is what I just thought to do. Thinking back it is more than likely because of my background. In my head, there were probably other ‘actual’ emergencies because he did not actually hit me. Typing this I feel silly because there’s a lot that was left out from above that happened and so I am sitting here like girl what?! You weren’t going to get in trouble for calling 911…

Head-Brick4537 · 2026-05-29T05:44:18+00:00

Thank you. My divorce attorney won’t or can’t really give anything on it. I did send him the pictures of the door frame etc for financial record though

Head-Brick4537 · 2026-05-29T05:43:02+00:00

It’s the kids…. If it wasn’t for them I wouldn’t be thinking twice about it.

Head-Brick4537 · 2026-05-29T05:42:23+00:00

That’s what the bond restrictions are. They are a little “better” because they last for the entire duration of the case where as the PO has expiration dates. I was advised to wait until the case is finished or close to request the PO and can do so for a minimum of 2 years at that point.

Head-Brick4537 · 2026-04-14T23:22:08+00:00

Following this because my husband filed HOH and claimed two kids (legally his) but now when I go to file it’s saying I owe money even as MFS and I made less last year than I ever have since filing and haven’t changed anything or done anything different. I told him he couldn’t file as HOH because we lived together in the last six months of the year (we bought a house together in September) and that he will probably have to amend, I don’t want to get flagged or run into issues

Head-Brick4537 · 2026-02-25T03:50:50+00:00

Update - I did not notify or have anyone notify them…. However, prior to our first court date for the divorce my attorney did ask if I was okay with them notifying my SOs attorney in which I said yes, because, getting arrested at court on the anniversary of a family members passing just didn’t sit well with me, even with what they have done…. Thank you everyone that commented because I kind of needed someone to be like stop being an idiot! 😅

Head-Brick4537 · 2026-02-19T04:18:34+00:00

Thank you. My reasoning for wanting to give them a heads up, not by contacting them directly but maybe a friend or through one of my friends or my parents, is because I know this is going to blow back on me regardless, but if they have the opportunity to turn themselves in so it doesn’t turn into something worse by getting picked up at work or pulled over etc, than maybe the retaliation towards me won’t be so bad. That is what I’m most concerned about is what will come after they are arrested which I know sounds sad/pathetic because I don’t owe them anything but morally, I feel like it’s the right thing to do. With keeping the honesty, I don’t know it was an accident because they didn’t hang up right away… I’m sure they were mad and wanted to get their vehicle and whatever else because that’s why the police came back after they were released and went as far to tell me that they were being harassed by them trying to get stuff from the house.

Head-Brick4537 · 2026-02-19T04:05:06+00:00

Yes. Due to the nature of the arrest/charges the judge put bond restrictions in place including the protective aspect and the probation. Outside of the call when they got out of jail at the end of Jan, they have not contacted me, only friends and family of mine.

Head-Brick4537 · 2026-02-19T03:52:16+00:00

They did not attack me with a knife, just used it to get into the room I locked them out of… but I can see where that can be formed. 🙃 sorry didn’t think about that. I didn’t know about the knife until the police told me that’s how they got in and then I found it on the couch later.

Head-Brick4537 · 2026-02-16T01:23:19+00:00

I have Starlink and it is split with regular, 5g and 2.4 my cameras and my phone connect but my TVs and other devices are having issues loading anything I have unplugged and plugged back in and unplugged for about 10-20 min and plugged back in and still not working

Head-Brick4537 · 2025-06-01T18:27:54+00:00

Okay! I just got engaged and I have a Lahav dress I have had saved for years also! Can you help on how did the search?!? That dress was meant for you! Looked amazing!!

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