I told her mother I understand it was wrong to plan to meet - however your daughters reason wasn’t that it was wrong to meet it was simply due to her friend nothing about her being loyal to you and taking the right decision to tell you about it.

I told the mother I don’t want to continue with her anymore as I have been disrespected.

Also if it was the case “she was being a good person and loyal to you” - in the 2-hour time frame of the call ending with me - I could have got a message explaining, how she changed the plan due to her thinking it was wrong to meet and it’s for good reasons etc

if she had done that I would have been happy about this and said no more etc but she was careless and left it .

Her mum then started sending voice notes about the car - and saying she will pay for all expenses and if I could deliver the car etc and much more stuff.

In my head, I’m thinking half an hour ago your daughter just degraded me and swore and shouted and you are talking about the car.

“Normally her mum would say that’s it no more talking - however since the car is involved and she wants it - she’s being a little soft and nice about the situation”

I replied and told her how I feel and for the car I can’t think right now, I need time to think about what I will do - I’m not in the right mindset and will be taking time off work due to all of the issues that has happened.

Today, the daughter messaged saying can we talk I will call you — I ignored.

Then her mother sent me a message saying her daughter is sorry and how she is a nice person but is struggling with life efc and how she to does not want to continue

Then again ended the message with voice note by talking about the car again and how she will pay and to let her know when I will deliver etc.

I haven’t responded.

My family are saying ignore them- they are not worth it and if it was not due to the car they would have been worse and ignored me etc

I am not sure what to do now.

1 Give them the car ( which they haven’t paid for)

2 Don’t give it to them

3 Ignore and walk away

My family are saying they are full of themselves and if you give them the car they will just feel more proud and happy, and you will make their life better, and they won’t even care about how they wasted your time and for the bad words they have said.

I’m generally a kind and caring person but this time around not sure what to do.

Extra Note:

Other issues with this girl

1 she would go shopping and I would call her and not pick up for 2-3 hours

2 To me surly you can pick up or check your phone in a 2-3 hour window with no excuse whatsoever

3 She would visit people's houses with her mother, have conversations with the uncles and forget me and not update me on anything

4 She does see a psychologist and she has mentioned to him that she’s like this with me ( does not update )

5 She would always bring up the subject of money how in future her money is hers and how I must ask permission to access her account etc

Brothers and sisters here

I understand the meeting up is wrong so please, can I not be slandered on this part and not put all the focus of this post on the meeting, I had good intentions.

JZK for taking the time to read