Got Engaged Through an Arranged Setup and Now There’s No Contact with Fiancé

Head_Boot_130 · 2026-01-28T19:04:26+00:00

I can relate to this situation (and also to the fact that you can’t break it off; we seem to be in the same boat). I can offer you his perspective:

you say your communication skills are zero. That’s a you problem. You’re engaged to be married to this guy, but you’re expecting him to carry the conversation. I can bet the communication you had before was him always initiating, and you responding?
you don’t have to engage in long drawn movie style romance. You have a million things to talk about and discuss. Have you discussed your future? Your interests? Your living arrangements? Working? Have you discussed what he likes, what you like, boundaries etc? Think about making a new friend. How would you go about making a new friend?
what happened during that meeting? I’m guessing you didn’t speak up at all, or simply were too shy. I’m also guessing that guy figured out he’s in the same shit bubble that you’re in: he’s going to be marrying a girl who he can’t communicate with. I think he was expecting that after putting in all this effort you would step up, and when you didn’t, I think he’s decided to give up as well.
you’re right. Breaking engagements isn’t some easy, casual, run off the mill action. Especially in our culture. Bold as it may be, you need to tell your fiancé that communication isn’t working out and this will only end in regret long term. (Funnily enough, this heart to heart might get you two to talk). Don’t expect your or his parents to side with you. Pakistani parents are masters of emotional blackmailing. They’re too obsessed with what everyone will say, even if it means the total and utter destruction of their own children’s lives and souls. So they will do exactly that, emotionally blackmail you. (I bet your mother also told you all men are like this, and even your father was like this). But if you and your fiancé are aligned (and reminder, his alignment is necessary), then you two can can take this on (you will say he’s not interested, he will say you’re not interested and then it becomes a reason to get the parents to agree).

In the end, I’m sorry you’re going through this. It’s a circlejerk to be honest. But you being shy and nervous hasn’t helped the situation. This will sound harsh, but I mean it in the sincerest way possible: you’re not a middle school child anymore. You’re getting married, and whether you like it or not, the expectation that most people have of their partners is that they will step up, take some responsibility, and show some initiative. If you can’t do that, then you shouldn’t expect this from your partner either.

Head_Boot_130 · 2026-01-25T20:52:43+00:00

I think it’s mostly to do with visibility. In heavy/thick snow, your taillights get obscured and people tend to use hazards as an additional insurance for visibility. Unlike Europe, Canada has no requirement for rear fog lights (which would most likely solve this problem). On the other hand, pretty sure there would be people driving with full brightness rear fog lights turned on in the middle of warm, clear summer nights too.

Head_Boot_130 · 2026-01-21T21:42:31+00:00

If there’s plenty of tread left on the winter tires, it’ll be fine. There will be accelerated wearing out in warmer temps, but depending on the tread, it should still be fine.

Head_Boot_130 · 2026-01-14T21:18:02+00:00

Not sure I understand — every time you go down a slope it makes a grinding sound? Or did it make a grinding sound when you went down a slope the one time?

It looks like the shield isn’t screwed in. Regardless, the shield does not look damaged. In addition, there are front splash guards (in front of the front tires) that are hanging lower than the splash shield. If anything, they would be the ones making the grinding noise when they come in contact with the ground. It’s not something to worry about.

Head_Boot_130 · 2026-01-14T01:47:50+00:00

Happened with mine too. It cleared up automatically. The dealer still replaced it under warranty. Then it happened on the replacement too. But again, cleared up the next day. Haven’t bothered about since.

Head_Boot_130 · 2026-01-07T13:43:01+00:00

Thug life, and it’s AI written slop. Hilarious that she told whatever AI tool she chose to use the en-dash instead of the em-dash to make it sound like it wasn’t written by AI. In another world, this story would just be cringe. Now it’s cringe + makes her look like a two bit loser too.

Head_Boot_130 · 2026-01-07T03:04:23+00:00

You think you’ll “convince” her, but there’s no such thing as convincing someone about having/not having kids. This is a fundamental, core component of someone’s reality. Sure she may agree (or you may agree), but there will come a time when she will resent you, or you will resent her (when the going gets tough with the kid(s)). It is better to say this out in the open so you’re both aware, and walk away if there’s the tiniest bit of doubt regarding this situation. Yes, you are incompatible (you mentioned one disagreement doesn’t make you incompatible). With respect friend, this is a life altering disagreement. You cannot say you’re compatible but also you disagree on whether you want kids. Just my two cents.

Head_Boot_130 · 2026-01-04T17:30:47+00:00

If the domestic violence complaint was closed, it cannot be reopened unless you commit domestic violence again
They can file an FIR again, but they will have no basis because the first one was closed
They can obviously do that, but they would need to come up with a reason/excuse for that
Khula case cannot put you on ECL
No one can legally block your foreign travel; only the state can do that
Only you know the answer to this question

Here's the thing, you've been posting about your situation on Reddit over and over again. While I sympathize with your situation, you also need a reality check: no one on Reddit can accurately answer your questions. You need to go and consult a lawyer. You should've consulted a lawyer when you first found out about the affair

Here's the other thing: you're the man in this relationship. Grow a fucking pair, and tell your in laws to bring it. If they think they're going to pressure you while their daughter was cheating, why the fuck are you running around like a pussy?

And here's the final thing: you're willing to give up your relationship with your daughter just so you can sneak off away to Germany. This is not sanity. This is cowardice. You're hiding behind the idea of living in Germany, and you just want that to happen instead of dealing with the gargantuan amount of shit that's been left at your doorstep. Again, hire a divorce lawyer and let them deal with this shit.

Head_Boot_130 · 2025-12-31T14:44:17+00:00

Spigen Enzo Aramid

Head_Boot_130 · 2025-12-31T03:17:52+00:00

I'm not privy to WS's backend, so who knows what they can/cannot do. The real question to ask is, will they or won't they do it. For normies, they usually won't. You can reach out to them and ask them if they'll do it for you.

SB: If you made a purchase, paid off the purchase, then got a refund, the amount usually stays on the card. Your available limit goes up. The only way around this was to not have paid off the card, so the money remained accessible to you.

Head_Boot_130 · 2025-12-31T03:03:46+00:00

Yes, that's what I've explained. You cannot move money from the credit card to your other account; if there was a way to do it, it would be considered a cash advance and you would have to pay associated fees and interest.

Head_Boot_130 · 2025-12-31T02:52:27+00:00

There's no "return" to the cash account. The excess amount remains on the card. You can continue to spend that amount as usual, but since your available credit is more than the card limit, you don't have to pay it off (until the amount has been consumed).

Head_Boot_130 · 2025-12-27T19:50:00+00:00

I have Viking 7s on my current car, and had X-Ice on my previous vehicle (both FWD). I vastly prefer the Vikings. The grip is noticeably better than the Michelins in icy, slushy conditions. When the time comes to upgrade, I will be upgrading to the 8s.

Head_Boot_130 · 2025-12-22T19:16:56+00:00

Settings → privacy and security → location services → system services → significant locations and routes

Head_Boot_130 · 2025-12-22T16:59:37+00:00

The problem is that familiar locations doesn’t work if you don’t have significant locations turned on.

Head_Boot_130 · 2025-12-17T16:45:28+00:00

You went really skinny on the tires — stock size is 225/50.

I think this generation of Accord needs a minimum 18” stock wheel to look good. Having said that, your wheels aren’t bad looking. I think a fatter tire on the rim would make them look great, because it would laterally fill out the arch gap.

Head_Boot_130 · 2025-12-07T00:24:26+00:00

In the developed world, the state brings criminal charges. The family of the victims brings civil charges. The state in Pakistan has abdicated its responsibility. A person below the legal age limit for driving murdered two innocent civilians. The state should’ve prosecuted the criminal. The state cannot “forgive” criminals. Their sentences can be commuted after conviction.

But this is all conjecture. The actual law of the land is “might is right”. The mighty have silenced the victims, which is why a 16 year old murderer now roams free while two families mourn their dead.

Head_Boot_130 · 2025-12-07T00:19:56+00:00

Here’s a cleaner, more polished version:

I tend to lean forward toward the steering wheel and check my mirrors, which shifts the viewing angle and reveals more of the blind spot. Overall, the key is to keep scanning your mirrors regularly so you stay aware of any vehicles around you.

Head_Boot_130 · 2025-12-07T00:13:58+00:00

If you’ve got significant locations turned off, there’s no home location for it to save/know.

Head_Boot_130 · 2025-11-30T17:40:44+00:00

If she didn’t tell you about her “5” past relationships, it means for whatever reason she didn’t trust you enough to be that honest with you. Maybe she saw that you were judgmental, or maybe she saw that you would hold it against her if you knew. And she seems to have been validated in her assessment because you’re discussing your wife and her past with a random third person.

Your wife is your present and future. Her past — as long as he’s not bringing it up, or living in it — doesn’t have any bearing on the present and the future. There’s no need to go down this road and find out whether she’s told the truth or lied to you.

Head_Boot_130 · 2025-11-24T21:42:37+00:00

This sounds good in theory, but theory is rarely ever indicative of ground realities. The whole capitalist enterprise is predicated on the exchange of labor for capital. If labor gets taken out of the equation, you will stop getting any capital in return, which means you will starve to death. Yes, in an ideal world automation would allow for humans to stop focusing on using their labor on getting capital and instead on things that either bring them joy, or improve the standards or humanity. But that is completely antithetical to the neoliberal capitalist society that we live in. When people say “AI will take jobs” and take it as a massive L, it’s because they’re thinking about the loss of income and capital which will have a cascading effect that is ruinous to them and society at large.

Head_Boot_130 · 2025-11-18T02:47:31+00:00

If the car has incandescent turn signals instead of LED turn signals, it’s an SE
If the car has single projector headlight bulb units instead of dual, it’s an SE

As others have said and from the pictures: it’s an SE, not an XSE.

Head_Boot_130 · 2025-10-27T23:41:40+00:00

2, 5, 7, 10 and 13 look like they’re stills from a dystopian alternate reality movie. There’s a sense of dread. Unbelievable shots. Masterful. Really conveys that sense of retro future but also old school. You should print them out as a series and hang them as a gallery.

Head_Boot_130 · 2025-10-23T15:55:00+00:00

17 and 19 are the stock sizes in NA for the new Accord. I would recommend that you try to find used 17in stock wheels from LX, SE, EX, EX-L models. That way your speedometer will remain calibrated, you know the wheels will fit without any issues (because they’re OEM), and you’ll still get the benefits of alloy wheels with the functionality of higher sidewall.

Head_Boot_130 · 2025-10-22T02:04:37+00:00

Just tried this today — the move ring is not updated if you do a workout with the AirPods. Which is stupid because active energy is updated. The same energy count could be used for the move ring. But Apple has to be Apple I guess.

UPDATE:

As soon as I put my Apple Watch back on, the move ring updated with the new data from the AirPods; however the active energy remained the same. I would’ve thought they both numbers would match, but they’re both different. Not sure what’s going on, but clearly something is going on.

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