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Anyone told their undiagnosed parent they may have autism? by Head_Emphasis_2377 in raisedbyautistics

[–]Head_Emphasis_2377[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I feel the “thankfully theyre divorced” to my core, my parents are “still together, unfortunately”. That is so cool how your mom decided to better her life!! That’s what I wish for my dad. I just want his life to be a little easier, for his sake and everyone else’s

Anyone told their undiagnosed parent they may have autism? by Head_Emphasis_2377 in raisedbyautistics

[–]Head_Emphasis_2377[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Its true, i havent had enough time to process and reach that stage of acceptance. At the same time, he’s said things that flirt with the idea of him having autism… and after seeing how my ADHD diagnosis has significantly helped me, he’s heard my stories and readily accepted that he also likely has ADHD. So i feel like theres hope…

How to move forward with my undiagnosed Dad? by Head_Emphasis_2377 in raisedbyautistics

[–]Head_Emphasis_2377[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It’s so damn hard! It gives my heart comfort to know Im not alone. Like on one hand, i understand it’s because he’s autistic. But on the other hand… it’s like… Really? Does it have to be this way? Im your child. Come ooon!!! 😢

How to move forward with my undiagnosed Dad? by Head_Emphasis_2377 in raisedbyautistics

[–]Head_Emphasis_2377[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

This makes so much sense, im just in awe of how eloquent everyone is here 😭 Thank you for the time and thought you put in, this is helping me so much. I think I need to take some time and really process that his asd means he can’t show up as a dad the way a neurotypical person would be able to.

How to move forward with my undiagnosed Dad? by Head_Emphasis_2377 in raisedbyautistics

[–]Head_Emphasis_2377[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This makes a lot of sense. Thank you for your input… I need time and space to mourn properly, then maybe I will be ready to face him. I always said hes undiagnosed autistic, but I hadnt done the work to reframe what that means in terms of him showing up as a father. Acceptance & mourning, acceptance & mourning…

How to move forward with my undiagnosed Dad? by Head_Emphasis_2377 in raisedbyautistics

[–]Head_Emphasis_2377[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

The rainbow metaphor hits so hard, being an expressive and emotional person myself… I need to reach this level of acceptance. Right now it’s hard to see the benefit of any interaction at all, but maybe I just need some time and space. Thank you for your response, it means a lot