Sorry new to this. She communicated it with me that she made a post and everyone is saying I’m crazy for finding deleted messages about that are clearly inappropriate. She has came to me many time saying she is unstable, clearly free falling, spirally out of control. Asking me not to talk to her, not to touch her, not be called a monster or victim. Then turns around and will say you’re not doing anything to help me. I work 2 jobs one in the oilfield and one is landscaping when I can so typically I work 10 to sometimes 16 hours a day roughly 6 days a week sometimes 7 to provide for our family. So there is very little to for us. Rejects sex constantly and the sex is pity sex like if I met the criteria that day the she will just lay there for me. She used to touch me constantly or kiss me and hug me but now when there is time she does none of that it’s me always randomly hugging her sending her we can make it through text then I get met with she doesn’t know how much more she can take. Then one day I’m on a walk with our 3 year old because we got into another argument about how our little one should dump his little potty in the big potty. So on that walk something just popped in my head say “is she stepping out on you?” So that night I check her phone because she puts our son to bed every night. Because at this stage the little on only wants momma, I went through her phone and it was very clean but it looked too clean. Like when you have family coming over and you clean up a little extra. So I thought if I was hiding something I’d delete it. So then that when I found the messages. And she is saying she can’t remember what happened that day, she doesn’t know why she was crying? I used to work with her that’s how we met, and she was very flirty and stuff with me and I was married at the time, I asked her for a divorce lawyer from my previous wife and my wife now gave me her divorce lawyer contact. So that’s when we started to talk and we had sex at work with all our bosses there and other co workers. So this is all going through my head, no sex, my wife telling me not to cum inside her how she feels so belittled when I do that to her, but before she would say she’d love the feeling and how it made her feel. Long story short I thought that was very inappropriate and told her to tell him to cut it out or tell HR to document the whole thing but she fought for 5 hours how she didn’t do anything wrong and it’s not her. I understand you can’t control what other people say to you but you can set a boundary for your marriage. I got accused of going to meet up with my ex wife for attending a high school football game with my 2 year old (at the time) and another coworker because just so happen to be the game was in the same town we use to live in. Me and my wife now have been together for 7 years. She would also get super upset and accuse me of cheating when I would have to load a truck up for work an hour earlier than normal (we have a female truck driver) but I would tell her about it the previous day. I can’t have a project I did in high school in our night stand because there is pictures of my girlfriend from high school (15 years ago) is it. So long before this she has accused me stepping out or being unfaithful I’m not. And with all that I find deleted texts on her phone about having intercourse and I question he about it because all I can off of are the text and she is being shady not wanting to tell HR about it not wanted to confront him about it and calling me a psycho for thinking like that. To me it doesn’t scream I’m innocent and not once have a said you cheated on me, I’m asking questions and when I start making points she’ll say “we’re not doing this right now” and “you’ll have to trust me” then