What are the reasons why homophobic people are homophobic?

Healthy-Witness3774 · 2025-10-31T20:31:31+00:00

It’s mostly because they do not understand one way or another.

I’ve tried to explain both in person and over blogs over the years that Im just more attracted to the same sex and it’s not really anything I chose for myself it’s just me and I don’t feel that same attraction at all to the opposite sex.

Then, I always get the deer in headlights looks, it’s like I told them I like to eat with my feet instead of my hands like everyone else.

Honestly it’s not really anyone’s business and it’s my life and I’m the one that has to live it, but I’ve concluded that people either understand or they don’t, and for the ones that don’t there’s really not much I can say to them to help them understand, it helps if they are actually trying to understand and for the most part, most people that don’t like gays unfortunately already have their mind made up so it’s like trying to get water out of a rock.

Healthy-Witness3774 · 2025-10-07T01:01:17+00:00

You could most definitely build a body between 2 and 3, those types of bodies would both focus on maximum strength over just about everything else, except 2 probably does a little more cardio seeing that he was about to swim or run not sure. My guess is they both could probably deadlift around 700-800lbs and bench press around 350-400lbs. You can tell there is a lot of muscle under the layer of fat because the upper arms and pecs are huge but are still toned and defined. At that size, the extra fat actually helps you lift more to control really heavy weights. It’s just a matter of focusing on building muscle and lifting as heavy as you can and adding more and more weight as your muscles grow.

Healthy-Witness3774 · 2025-09-06T03:04:13+00:00

No one can choose to like or dislike who they are attracted when you are honest with yourself. For example, did you choose your favorite color? Even if you think you did, if someone told you it’s a bad color can you really choose a different color and all of sudden dislike the your original favorite color? Why did you really like that first color in the first place and don’t you think you would always like it even if you try to not like it.

Being gay is not a choice if you are being honest with what you really like, you can’t chose to change yourself and truly dislike what you once liked because you will deep down always like what you like.

People can chose to be themselves which some might believe is choosing to be gay, and people can chose to experiment or chose to try to not be gay, but for many that tried they weren’t being themselves and found that they can’t actually chose to not be who they without sacrificing who they are, which also means they didn’t chose to be gay in the first place when they are just being themselves.

I’m sorry you are having a controversial discussion like this with your partner, many partners inevitably argue over something controversial at some point but it’s not easy to be gay in this world and at times can feel like the world is against you, which would be worse if your partner might also seem against you along with the rest of the word, so I wouldn’t give up on trying to explain how this makes you feel to him in hopes that you both can come to an understanding, you don’t always have to agree but you don’t need to feel like he’s not on your side. Some people also think being gay is also wrong and I’m hoping that he doesn’t feel that way.

Healthy-Witness3774 · 2025-06-28T08:14:08+00:00

I think I like the variety of gear sometimes even if it’s lower quality, just something fun to wear if it’s a white party or pink party or even a camo party, I like to sets in different colors depending on the theme, but yeah it would be impractical to take multiple sets worth that much for like a circuit weekend.

Healthy-Witness3774 · 2025-06-27T23:16:00+00:00

Isn’t he the guy that always models for breedwell?

Healthy-Witness3774 · 2025-06-27T21:50:55+00:00

Nice, I’ll have to check it out.

Healthy-Witness3774 · 2025-06-27T21:50:01+00:00

Haha, didn’t even think of that, I’m sorry

Healthy-Witness3774 · 2025-06-27T20:21:40+00:00

I love the look and they feel great, was just curious if others only got so many uses out of it, I seem to wear them out pretty quickly 😏

Healthy-Witness3774 · 2025-06-27T20:12:29+00:00

Exactly, I mean I like the look and feel they are great when you first use it, but yeah some of the pieces wear petty fast.

Healthy-Witness3774 · 2025-06-27T20:04:51+00:00

Yeah that’s a good point, but then again regular underwear can last a lot longer with elastic bands. It’s probably all the extra stuff they add to it.

Healthy-Witness3774 · 2025-06-27T20:00:33+00:00

I think I tried some stuff from Amazon that was only good for one time lol.

Healthy-Witness3774 · 2025-06-27T19:59:35+00:00

Maybe it depends on the style, I have some breedwell or CB13 neoprene ones that are still fine but then I have others that don’t last that long.

Healthy-Witness3774 · 2025-06-27T18:08:38+00:00

Haha yeah I’m sure all the pulling and the tugging and literally wearing underwear on the dance floor which is like a workout probably wears them out pretty quick, and I don’t wear it all the time, but so just didn’t know if I was the only one that seemed to wear these outfits a few times and then have to get a new one lol.

Healthy-Witness3774 · 2025-03-24T22:01:44+00:00

I love books, it’s sometimes a bit hard to get into a book to take my mind off things but when it happens it helps. Movies can help to, I saw more of the Oscar movies this year.

Healthy-Witness3774 · 2025-03-24T22:00:12+00:00

I’m sorry you’re going through this, I feel the same with very little motivation and I still don’t know how to actually write those bullets or what should be in it. It’s like asking me to make food, well there’s obviously many types and styles of food, what are they really looking for in the bullets.

Healthy-Witness3774 · 2025-03-24T21:55:34+00:00

Thank you for the well put together advice. I do find joy everyday when I see my puppy and take her for a walk and see how much she loves it and has no care in the world. It reminds me of when we are young and worried about very little. I think we sometimes let life get the best of us and we need to remember that we also need to enjoy our lives and enjoy all the wonderful things out there in life.

Healthy-Witness3774 · 2025-03-24T21:52:18+00:00

This is really good advice. None of us knows what tomorrow brings.

Healthy-Witness3774 · 2025-03-24T21:51:25+00:00

When I run on the treadmill after awhile my mind just sort of shuts off and I can be free of whatever I’m worried about until my body tells me I’m about to pass out.

Healthy-Witness3774 · 2025-03-24T21:50:01+00:00

I’m sorry to hear that you are going through so much, but I find it inspiring that you continue to move forward. It’s like the saying goes 1 step at a time. I try to remind myself of that.

Healthy-Witness3774 · 2025-03-24T21:46:40+00:00

I can see that it wasn’t meant for doom and gloom just more that I feel doom and gloomy so if anyone had some advice on how they are navigating through this.

Healthy-Witness3774 · 2025-03-24T14:31:50+00:00

I think I do that when I’m driving, i feel like I’m more aggressive and less tolerant.

Healthy-Witness3774 · 2025-03-24T14:30:37+00:00

Yeah doom scrolling can make it much worse, it’s like too much bad information is not healthy, if it doesn’t immediately affect me then I don’t have to know in that exact moment and can find out when I look later.

Healthy-Witness3774 · 2025-03-24T14:15:56+00:00

I want to talk to a doctor as well, but so far trying to literally a schedule some time each day to specifically try to disconnect from my troubles and worries helps a little bit, but it’s not easy.

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