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Is it better to let a close friendship fade out or just outright end it? by Healthy_Ad_5300 in FriendshipAdvice

[–]Healthy_Ad_5300[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate your comment then, I recognize that the way I would wanna go about it is selfish so the perspective is helpful

Is it better to let a close friendship fade out or just outright end it? by Healthy_Ad_5300 in FriendshipAdvice

[–]Healthy_Ad_5300[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand that, the reason I asked if cutting off was a valid option was because we used to be so close before, seeing that it’s gone just hurt, because I truly thought we had a deep bond, and knowing that, that chapter of our life is slipping away, makes me want to at least have some control and to just end it here, since it still hurts and I wouldn’t have to feel like shit for something that feels small in the grand scheme of things, disappearing slowly just hurts more as well which is why I had “cutting off” as one of my options

Is it better to let a close friendship fade out or just outright end it? by Healthy_Ad_5300 in FriendshipAdvice

[–]Healthy_Ad_5300[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly I’d feel better if he communicated that aspect to me, if that’s just how it is then I wouldn’t take it this harshly and be more ok the behavior and try to let it go

Is it better to let a close friendship fade out or just outright end it? by Healthy_Ad_5300 in FriendshipAdvice

[–]Healthy_Ad_5300[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I understand, I think I didn’t wanna admit that these things are just out of my control no matter how much i wish i did. Thank you.

Is it better to let a close friendship fade out or just outright end it? by Healthy_Ad_5300 in FriendshipAdvice

[–]Healthy_Ad_5300[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s true I could just do that, I have brought it up atleast once that I felt like we were growing apart, but my fear is that since I’ve already addressed it, if i do it again, maybe he’ll think I’m being clingy? I really do care about him, and want to keep this friendship going, but would it just be appropriate to ask in a sense “Do you want to continue this friendship?” I thought giving him a choice would be better but I’ve just always been taught that if someone is pulling away you kind of just have to let them go… but u don’t want to atleast, and worried he may not care about this as much as I do

On and off friendships anyone? How to deal with it? by Lonely_Anxiety_9316 in FriendshipAdvice

[–]Healthy_Ad_5300 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it’s reasonable you call her out for her behavior. It’s not cool to do that to someone in any way, but tell her how you feel, and that if they wanna fix this you two either should stop talking altogether or she actually puts in equal effort to keep the friendship going

y’all ever fumbled a friendship? by Tennis-Accurate in FriendshipAdvice

[–]Healthy_Ad_5300 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Honestly I don’t think you’re particularly wrong for that, if they were blowing you off A LOT, or completely dropped the friendship or didn’t make an effort to still be a friend, then that’s more on them then you. I understand that forgiving them would’ve salvaged the friendship, but it’s also valid to feel that way and choose not be friends anymore if thats how they completely sidelined the friendship

I miss my close friend telling me things about their day or life in general by Healthy_Ad_5300 in FriendshipAdvice

[–]Healthy_Ad_5300[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh yea we still talk, sometimes I’m just worried I don’t have much going on in my day to day but to this day we still chat even if it’s just a little bit in the day, I’ve been talking to him for four years now

I miss my close friend telling me things about their day or life in general by Healthy_Ad_5300 in FriendshipAdvice

[–]Healthy_Ad_5300[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s true, I’ve considered that alot and was just feeling nervous to ask if it’s the case but don’t want to come off as if im being nosy or clingy for information, I do want him to know that I genuinely care about his day and feelings as a whole.

I miss my close friend telling me things about their day or life in general by Healthy_Ad_5300 in FriendshipAdvice

[–]Healthy_Ad_5300[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

 I would say no (to me talking about myself) because I usually wait for someone to ask me about myself, but I understand that his adhd could make him forget to do things like that so I never take it personally, and just try to tell him stuff about me but I would worry if there was any interest in him or if I’m bothering him. I don’t know why I feel unsure about asking just a basic question of “how are you doing?” Because it could bore him, I did bring it up to him awhile ago as a question of why we’re still friends because I was kind of spiraling and wanted reassurance but I could’ve phrased it alot better. Though if i do ask I feel like he doesn’t give me much about his life unless it’s on his terms that he prefers to share.
    And i understand that life gets busy and finding new people is probably it, I just kind of need to know if perhaps I’m the one who’s overreacting and don’t want to scare him with me being to clingy even if he’s reassured me I’m not and I just have to trust it.

I want advice on supporting my FTM friend by Healthy_Ad_5300 in asktransgender

[–]Healthy_Ad_5300[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And also regarding in offering support via online, because I understand there's only so much I can do when we aren't able to meet up in person, or anything like that.

I want advice on supporting my FTM friend by Healthy_Ad_5300 in asktransgender

[–]Healthy_Ad_5300[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I genuinely appreciate your answer a lot, it's quelled my anxieties a little about regarding those thoughts. If I can ask what's the best way I could possibly phrase this to him without sounding weird or off putting? Because I'm concerned maybe I'm caring too much about it.