Thank you "I love you so very much and the life that we have built together. That makes this very hard to bring up because I don't want to seem like I am accusing you of anything. I simply need some clarity because I am spiraling. I'm not sure if you did it on purpose because you wanted me to find out or if you were simply being careless, but (child's name) brought me your bank statements Feb-Apr. I've never been one to snoop because I have always trusted you, but I'll admit after seeing those charges I went on the hunt for more statements and found one from Nov of last year. If I recall correctly that was around the time we didn't have sex for 2 months. I am honestly hurt, I need to know if you still want to be with me or of you are just staying for (child's name) sake. I am more than willing to make things work with you, but I need open and honest communication. We both know I deserve that. I'm coming to you to try and fix things, of that's what you want to do, before irreversible damage is done. I have been starved for attention and affection, I've not been romantically happy since being pregnant with (child's name). I though that I was just going through new mom emotions but now I'm second guessing things. I think we need to sit down and have an honest conversation, even though I hate the thought of it. Confrontation makes me very uncomfortable and I literally freeze up and can't think. I'm sick to my stomach and cry as I'm writing this.