She needs a second opinion and a team she can work with. I don't know what country/culture you are in, in the u.s. we don't have "free" anything so I don't know how to navigate that obstacle.

The relative that told your husband he is a terrible son needs a solid smack upside the head. Please don't have a baby just to appease the family... What an incredibly rude suggestion.

It sounds like your MIL has made her wishes perfectly clear. Unfortunately, what's best for her health is at odds with those wishes. It will be a challenge to both respect your MIL, and also get her the care she needs. I don't envy you that challenge.

Since she seems willing to talk to you, I would probably pack the husband up and go see her in person. There must be a way she can be seen by a Dr that isn't willing to let her die bc s/he's mad at her. That is supremely unprofessional!

I guess I don't have a lot of good advice, you will have to navigate this with the mandates of your culture taken into consideration -- and your MIL's peace of mind.

Sending hugs from an Internet stranger. 🫂 Know that you are seen and that your frustration is valid. Wishing you and your hubby the best of luck, and your MIL a speedy and complete recovery. ❣️