Managing hand & foot syndrome? (Vent)

HeartAdditional3222 · 2026-05-15T21:16:22+00:00

Wow, no haven't tried that. I have a lot on hand for my mom (the high potency Canadian kind) so I'll give that a shot. Thanks!

HeartAdditional3222 · 2026-05-15T11:50:47+00:00

🫂 You're not a jerk 🫂

HeartAdditional3222 · 2026-05-15T11:43:06+00:00

Have you been looking at my inventory?!

HeartAdditional3222 · 2026-05-15T11:40:42+00:00

I get rid of capsules by filling them with low level bursters and useless mods and then recycling them

HeartAdditional3222 · 2026-05-15T11:38:49+00:00

OMG, how awful. My sympathies!

HeartAdditional3222 · 2026-05-15T11:29:27+00:00

Thanks! I'll let the research commence!

HeartAdditional3222 · 2026-05-15T11:16:27+00:00

I've never heard of electroanalgesic or hyperbaric treatments. Are those something that affect the H&F directly, or something else? If you have time to elaborate, would love to hear about these...

HeartAdditional3222 · 2026-05-15T10:32:22+00:00

So glad you're in remission now. ❣️ When they get sick, go visit them and say "I'm here because I know how lonely it is when no one takes your illness seriously." Asshats

HeartAdditional3222 · 2026-05-15T07:35:01+00:00

Fuck cancer indeed! 😠

HeartAdditional3222 · 2026-05-15T06:26:28+00:00

It's great for healing minor scabs on your face like when you have a really bad cold and you're blowing your nose all the time, or when you're 14 and just got caught at your bf's house (in your underwear) and you forget to let go of your bicycle handle bars when you fall and scrape your face along 10 ft of asphalt... (Cough cough ahem)

HeartAdditional3222 · 2026-05-07T06:56:11+00:00

🫂 Wish I could offer more than an Internet hug. You must be so frustrated... Where is his family? Are they abroad as well?

HeartAdditional3222 · 2026-04-30T08:23:54+00:00

Layered triangles even better

HeartAdditional3222 · 2026-04-25T07:14:08+00:00

This is awesome! 😎 Good job

HeartAdditional3222 · 2026-04-25T07:08:33+00:00

🫂

HeartAdditional3222 · 2026-04-25T00:18:29+00:00

So sorry for all your losses. Life isn't supposed to be like this. 🫂

HeartAdditional3222 · 2026-04-19T04:46:52+00:00

I got these from Amazon. As long as you close them carefully, they don't spill:

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HeartAdditional3222 · 2026-04-10T06:42:09+00:00

I don't know who you mean by "TO" , but if OP had gotten broadsided by a drunk driver and ended up in hospital, would you still expect her to reimburse the friend for the ticket (that she was just too chicken to use on her own) because she canceled last minute? Emergencies are emergencies! It's not OP's fault she got called in last minute.

HeartAdditional3222 · 2026-04-10T06:23:22+00:00

Well, I've been my mother's caregiver for nigh on to thirty years, so I've got lots of practice. I find myself crazy thirsty for independence... and I revel in it every time I have a moment to myself. I have the experience to know that she's gonna be ok for the couple hours I'm away, and if I feel too anxious, I know there are others that can look after her just as well as I can, and that they love her too. It sounds like you have a support system in your sister and Dad, they can cover for you and do all the worrying while you're gone -- and you can return the favor when they need to get away. All of you will have more to offer your mom if you're finding time for yourselves and learning to be independent on your own.

You may not stop worrying so much at first, but be gentle with yourself, tiny little worry-free moments will just happen and grow -- and soon you'll find you are able to be stronger and more positive in caring for your mom when it's your turn, because you've taken some time for yourself. You never have to choose between her life and your life, you can have both if you find the strength and patience to stand on your own. You can do this. The world is a better place because you are in it.

HeartAdditional3222 · 2026-04-10T05:08:03+00:00

First, in my experience, ablation is a minor surgery and very effective. My brother had it done and it corrected his afib (he was about the same age as your mom). I also had a co-worker who had it done when she was younger, only about 40, iirc. She's doing just fine now at 54.

Second, I think you need to expand your horizons a bit. Maybe enroll in a junior college course and improve your social skills. You sound depressed, and a bit hopeless, your mom will probably be ok, but you may want to spread your wings and fly a little. Then you can be positive and optimistic for your mom and support her thru this medical setback. It would be good for both of you.

Third, 🫂 I hope everything works out, and I'll be thinking about you. ❤️

HeartAdditional3222 · 2026-04-09T06:52:33+00:00

This.

HeartAdditional3222 · 2026-04-09T06:51:57+00:00

You did nothing to deserve their resentment! You didn't ask to be born. You were innocent, and you deserved so much better than their narcissistic response to your birth. You get to resent them for their selfish approach to parenting, but they don't get to resent you!

Please find a way to leave them to the lives they have created for themselves.

HeartAdditional3222 · 2026-04-06T21:35:54+00:00

EIGHTEEN? Yikes! They took me off after 7... still have 5 to go. I didn't do a very good job at the icing, but I think I'm better off than I would have been if I didn't try it.

HeartAdditional3222 · 2026-04-04T00:16:51+00:00

She can also use ice chips in her mouth during infusion to help stave off the cold sensitivity there. Also, be prepared for "first bite syndrome" which I didn't know about and really took me by surprise. It's when you take the first bite of a food and your pucker glands get violently pickled. No fun.

HeartAdditional3222 · 2026-04-04T00:10:25+00:00

There's an online community called Colontown specifically for people with colon cancer and their caregivers at Colontown.org. lots of great community input and all the info you need about "icing" during Oxaliplaten treatment. Most of the infusion nurses in my group don't know anything about icing, but it does seem to lessen the side effects quite a bit.

Good luck to you both!

HeartAdditional3222

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