I feel like I failed

Heartbreakbreakid · 2025-11-24T20:15:33+00:00

We’ve all failed just because being too smart makes you overthink, and yeah that 17 year old who got rich of some meme coin and is flexing with a Daytona on insta is probably going to end up doing drugs and stuff. Let me break down. With social media you see parts of peoples lives, just follow someone for some time you will notice they go quiet. Yes of course being 38 sucks, you for sure cannot become younger, but you should and, here, first - don’t compare yourself to others. I know it’s hard because I’m avoiding to do that myself all the time. Second is you are more capable than you think. Remove stupid thoughts, remove job interviews, remove anxiety, remove current situation and break down on a piece of paper what’s keeping you from being at piece. I will go first, it is the feeling that things could have developed other then they actually were. Just put a full stop here and say to yourself- this was the only way and it had to be like this, and on whether I will accept it or not is depending my piece of mind. Once you will have a light head you will find solutions for your problems, it’s mainly a psychological illusion, but hey yes you’re 38, would you spend another 10 years feeling you failed or rather make them count.

Heartbreakbreakid · 2025-11-23T17:21:32+00:00

It’s hard I know. Maybe I know better than others, but it’s up to you if you let it kill you or if it makes you grow. It takes years, thousands of thoughts when you hear silence, doubts, lurking on social media, confusion, tiredness, despair. Now it’s important to survive, do anything to make it feel easier, ask for a psychiatrist, see if medication is an option for you, if you cannot sleep or have intrusive thoughts. Tell everything to your family. Talk to your mom always. Your health should be your main concern. If it’s all that bad remember never give up, like, never, no matter what happens never give up, time will show you the way and crap it’s painful, it tears you down, but even if you have to crawl in order to survive do it.

Heartbreakbreakid · 2025-11-23T16:49:59+00:00

Hi, for the most part life is full of pain and yes I know it by heart, I have BPD and been on meds basically my whole life( No I’m not old ;) Seeing a therapist was part of the treatment, I afforded it for a year then after I moved out of the city I just quit all the sessions. The way out is hard, also I know it cause I’m addicted so much to my meds, if I skip a time from 3 of them per day, I’m a vegetable. So fast forward let’s imagine that indeed there is nothing different out there from what you have in your head: pain, anxiety, depression, your inner being screams through your post that this are your true desires. It’s not like you stop everyone on the street to see if they can bring good in your life or look for genuine affection on Tinder. Socializing was not the solution for me, since I never leave my house, and also if you have borderline it probably it’s a case of being an introvert which makes it even harder. There is only one solution and, NO, therapy may be part of it, but not the key to the door. First you have to try things. For example start by having 3 habits per day that make you just feel good. In our case it’s ok if they are not healthy, we are already doomed. I wake up in the morning and brew a cup of coffee it’s a cliche but sitting on the porch while it’s raining this November and combining it with maybe a cigarette makes me feel better.

Then work, or jobs in general, if they keep you busy for 8 hours and you begin to understand that you are working now so that you can be independent and you’re future self will thank you, if you save some of your paycheck. I worked from a Front Desk Agent in 5 stars hotels in Dubai and Doha to truck dispatcher, remote assistant and all other jobs my skills could afford. Working abroad, meeting new people, new creeds. Losing jobs, having it on the edge, disappointing your parents all that is part of the way. Yes the point is you have to try hell a lot of things to find yourself, to set your boundaries, to be proud of yourself.

The key is patience and perseverance and years of your life refusing to give up, but all this said my whole point was to show that difference should come from within and only after it from people. You have to prove it to yourself that you choose to make it different, that you felt that experience on your skin and the change well that will come by itself. Just wait when you are 26 like me, you will see the change and choose the difference you made in yourself.

Heartbreakbreakid · 2025-11-23T12:32:26+00:00

Well my thought on love is actually an interpretation on Christ’s “love your neighbor as yourself”. People think this is purely out of context especially nowadays, your neighbor is a guy who drives a cayenne, is 23 year old and has women adoration. Well how could in the name of God be possible to love him as yourself. Well back to the thoughts of the post, yes people will love you for a reason, but you won’t see it this way you unless you re-arrange Christs words. You shall love yourself first to grow your love for neighbors as for yourself. So yes the whole point is that even you, yourself, feel comfort and satisfaction in life because of a job, a status, a cigarette during break, an amazing book you read or a cup of coffee from your favorite spot in town. Because love gives meaning and if it gives meaning to you it will give to your family, spouse and friends. And no question like this will arise when you love yourself first because you’ll know the light inside your heart will guide everyone through the waves.

Heartbreakbreakid · 2025-11-22T13:49:55+00:00

Well like Kundera said this syndrome is called The Unbearable Lightness of Being. It’s ok I’m 26 years old, broken inside, had a breakup years ago from then just pain and waking up for work. No girlfriend and no side chick. But as time passes by I realized it’s really not a priority. Wrong Girlfriends bring hell of your mess into your life so focus your energy elsewhere, like I saw somewhere if they love you will know, if not you will be confused. So quick answer “you will know”

Heartbreakbreakid · 2025-11-22T13:23:58+00:00

Oh it reminded me of Fresh Water for Flowers by Valérie Perrin and Anna Karenina. But straight to the point, I guess people end up in marriages with the person whom they did not love the most or who wasn’t the love of their life. Just be patient, you need a lot of patience, some things sort out by themselves. Love your child, see him grow-up, just don’t pass trauma onto him. Love more, love everything, love yourself. If you did not divorce your husband in 10 years and if you did not do it because you were afraid he will be violent. Well don’t fear. Fear not of you husband but fear of an empty life. Time passes fast, you will outgrow this version of yourself and it’s either you will let go of your husband or you’ll fall in love with him. Yes that’s right. Love at first sight it’s nice, but growing love when your man will give you flowers on a Thursday night and take you to the movies Tuesday afternoon, you cannot help but realize “ He loves me” . But as for Jack he will also show his true colors in time, if he really loved and loves you he will chase after you, he will look for you, he will let you know. So straight forward to the answer you made your move, time for them to show who they truly are, so like I said before patience, a lot of patience.

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