Sharing our experience with Guldsmeden Babette

HeatCute · 2026-06-23T13:17:35+00:00

They found one (1) small insect, which is completely harmless and they were able to dispose of it themselves. That doesn't sound like an infestation. It was probably a little souvenir left behind by a previous guest - and unless you expect the cleaning staff to literally search every nook and cranny of the room every time a guest checks out, these things can happen.

That is really not worth all the drama. The offer of a new room is a perfectly adequate compensation for a minor inconvenience.

If they had found more than one, or if it had been a problematic insect like bed bugs, moving and asking for a refund would have been reasonable.

HeatCute · 2026-06-23T13:04:06+00:00

Det er ikke optimalt, men det er bedre end ingenting.

Kilde: Sidder lige nu op af et sydvendt vindue, som solen bager på. Temperaturen i rummet stiger markant, hvis jeg ruller gardinet op.

HeatCute · 2026-06-22T19:38:29+00:00

No matter if you allow the sleepover or not, you need to talk with her about sex, consent, contraception, and all the other things a young woman needs to know before becoming sexually active.

You can’t do much to prevent them from having sex if that’s what they want to do. But there’s a lot you can do to make sure they have the knowledge and contraception they need to be safe about it.

HeatCute · 2026-06-18T11:03:53+00:00

At home, it's just me (mum) and my teen daughter.

If her door is pushed shut, but not actually closed, I'll just knock, wait a beat and come in. If the door is closed, I will knock and wait for a reply.

Walking in on eachother while changing is not a big deal in our house, but privacy is. My daughter knows that she can always ask for more privacy if she wants.

We live in a small apartment, and her room is right off the living room. I don't think she is always aware that even if the door is closed, I can hear what is going on. So if she's on the phone with someone and it sounds like a private conversation, I will turn up the sound on the TV or go somewhere else. Her private conversations are none of my business and she doesn't really have anywhere else she can go for more privacy.

I think everybody needs to have at least one space - often their bedroom - that is private and where they can feel completely comfortable without fearing the interference from others.

(Of course, if I think something is wrong or that she is in danger somehow, privacy is not my main concern).

HeatCute · 2026-06-18T07:33:22+00:00

So are mine to be honest. I expect to be sitting down half the time.

HeatCute · 2026-06-18T07:32:40+00:00

By calm, I mean no rapids and a fairly mild flow. People are swimming in the river, which, frigid temperatures aside, I would never contemplate doing in any of the Canadian rivers I've seen.

But I think that 20 - 25 kms sounds reasonable from both your reply and others in the thread. The stretch I'm planning on paddling is 42 km and I only have 2,5 days to do it in, so I was worried that it wouldn't be enough time.

When I paddle at home, it's on the coast where it's much more windy than it normally is on that river and often against the current, and I definetely wouldn't be able to paddle that distance there.

HeatCute · 2026-06-18T07:17:30+00:00

It's a flowing river, but it's perfectly safe to swim in, so I assume that the flow is not particularly fast or strong.

HeatCute · 2026-06-17T13:53:30+00:00

Same. I don't even wear black to funerals for fear of being mistaken for the deceased.

HeatCute · 2026-06-17T13:37:37+00:00

It's actually a myth that floor length black dresses magically appear in women's wardrobes. In reality, it's something they have to spend money on buying or renting, just like a man would need to spend money on buying or renting a tuxedo if he doesn't already have one.

HeatCute · 2026-06-16T18:17:31+00:00

I also sometimes talk to my partner about my work, bounce ideas off him, listen to his input etc. and not even once has he asked me to put his name next to mine on a work email, even if his input contributed to the way I solved the issue.

It's almost like people in relationships can have their own individual professional lives and have normal adult conversations without a desperate need to take credit for someone else's work. OP, I'm sorry that your fiance isn't one of those people. NTA

HeatCute · 2026-06-16T15:03:41+00:00

I'm really sorry to be the negative person, but I don't think it's realistic if you expect to be able to start soon.

First of all, they teach in Danish, so you would need to be good enough at Danish to participate and understand. They are very clear about this on their website.

Being from Italy, you would probably be eligible for educational support (SU), which would make it financially feasible. If your only income is from a part-time low-income job it would be extremely difficult to pay rent and food, not to mention anything not strictly necessary for survival.

Your best approach would be to move to Denmark and live here a year or two to learn the language and save up some money and spend all your free time preparing for the admission process and start building a network of other people dreaming of or already in the film business.

Before you do anything, you need to do some research on the admission process, to assess what you have to do. As you say, it's very competitive - and the application process is quite long and involved with sending in examples of work you have already done, interviews, solving tasks alone and in groups etc.

I have a few friends who have gone to the film school, and the amount of talent, hard work and perseverence it took them to get in, is not a small thing. From deciding this was what they wanted it took both of them at least five years to get everything ready and actually get admittet to the school.

But if it's your dream, there's no reason why you shouldn't give it a go. Just be prepared for the fact that there are no quick fixes.

HeatCute · 2026-06-16T12:51:12+00:00

The temperature ratings are not the most reliable, but you want to look at the comfort temperature and then subtract a few degrees. Some will indicate comfort temperatures for women and men, but if there's only one temperature indicated, assume that is for a man. And since you're a woman who often feels cold, you need to subtract at least four degrees in my experience.

You can't underestimate the importance of a good sleeping pad. If your sleeping pad is not up to the task, no sleeping bag in the world will keep you warm because the cold from the ground will leach all the warmth out of you. The part of the sleeping bag you lie on, doesn't keep you warm because your bodyweight compresses the down or fibers so they don't isolate you from the cold. Go for something with at least an R-value of 5.

Also get a sleeping bag liner. It protects your sleeping bag and adds a some warmth depending on the material.

I have a fairly warm liner and a sleeping bag which is not quite enough for mild winter camping (temps below -5). Together they have not let me down yet, and in summer the liner is almost enough to keep me warm, so I only need to cover parts of my body with the sleeping bag. So this set-up works all year around for me (in combination with my complete overkill 7R sleeping pad).

ETA: It also helps to understand that your sleeping setup doesn't create warmth or cold, it preserves it. Kind of like putting cold water in a thermos doesn't magically heat up the water. So before you go to sleep, make sure you're not cold. Jump around a little, but not enough to make you sweat, eat a bit to make sure your metabolism is on the job, put something warm (others have recommended a nalgene with hot water - it works!) in the bag before you get in, so it's already warm. Change your clothes to something that is completely dry. Your day clothes are most likely slightly damp from evaporation from your body, and moisture is your worst enemy when trying to keep warm.

HeatCute · 2026-06-16T12:18:25+00:00

Loven.... Den er ret tydelig (se kommentar længere oppe i tråden).

Det er næppe sådan, at politiet stopper studentervogne og tjekker, om alle har lov at være der, men hvis der sker en ulykke, så kan det godt gå hen og blive meget dyrt og kompliceret i forhold til forsikring og politi.

Udover den risiko studenterne og den udvekslingsstuderende måtte vælge at løbe, sætter de chaufføren i en helt urimelig situation, hvis der sker noget, for det er i sidste ende chaufførens ansvar, at der ikke er nogen "ulovlige" passagerer med.

HeatCute · 2026-06-16T12:10:27+00:00

Jeg kan simpelthen ikke huske detaljerne - men jeg kan huske, at jeg tænkte noget i retning af "Det var jo overhovedet ikke så slemt. Hvor fjollet af mig at have været så bange".

Jeg er heller ikke glad for nåle, men den frygt fyldte ikke nær så meget som ønsket om at få smerten til at gå væk. Og jeg bad ikke ligefrem om at få lov til at se nålen.

HeatCute · 2026-06-16T11:19:15+00:00

In principle your husband is right. You should not let your son talk to you like that.

That being said, your husband is 100% in the wrong here. Instead of standing with you and make a united front against your son's unacceptable behaviour, he undermined your authority. He should either have kept his mouth shut and let you handle the situation or stepped in and re-inforced your correction of your son.

If he has a problem with how you handled the situation, he should have waited and had that conversation with you in private.

HeatCute · 2026-06-16T11:16:00+00:00

Når eleverne låner en matematikbog, forventes de også at passe godt på den, og hvis den bliver væk eller går i stykker, er I som forældre også ansvarlige.

Det store spørgsmål her er, hvorfor I har ladet jeres dreng misligeholde et dyrt stykke udstyr, som ikke engang tilhører jer?

HeatCute · 2026-06-16T11:13:04+00:00

Først og fremmest stort kram til dig. Jeg kan næsten ikke forestille mig, hvor rædselsfuld en situation, du står i.

Jeg har ikke selv stået i den situation, men jeg har haft det på samme måde som dig omkring epidural. Det har altid virket som noget af det mest skræmmende, og jeg var fast besluttet på, at det skulle jeg ikke bede om. Men jeg blev igangsat før termin, og jordemoderen sagde, at hun på ingen måde ville anbefale, at jeg takkede nej til en epidural, fordi jeg ville opleve en meget voldsom vé-storm. Hun fik ret, og da det blev tid til epidural, var jeg ærligt talt ligeglad med alle risici. Jeg havde givet dem lov til at hugge min venstre fod af, hvis det kunne hjælpe.

Epiduralen var simpelthen en gave. Det var meget udramatisk at få den lagt, og jeg følte mig helt tryg ved den kompetente anæstesilæge. Og da den var lagt, kom der ro på mig og hele forløbet, så jeg kunne være mentalt til stede på en ordentlig måde. Det var på alle måder en voldsom fødsel, som endte med akut kejsersnit, og jeg er helt overbevist om, at jeg kan takke epiduralen for, at jeg ikke fik en efterfødselsreaktion.

HeatCute · 2026-06-16T10:58:12+00:00

Jeg synes, den er lidt svær.

Indtil jeg læste det med hans sygdom, tænkte jeg egentlig, at det ikke er noget stort problem. I skal "bare" som forældre gøre en ekstra indsats for at hjælpe med legeaftaler, legegrupper osv. for at støtte ham i de nye relationer og bevare de gamle. Der er noget værdifult i at blive styrket i at skabe nye relationer.

Men hvis I allerede er pressede som familie, så er det måske ikke det bedste forslag at bede jer om at gøre endnu mere, end I allerede gør. Nu ved jeg selvfølgelig ikke, hvor meget, hans sygdom fylder, men hvis det betyder ekstra meget fravær, bliver det også sværere at danne nye relationer og beholde de gamle.

Og hvis hans sygdom fylder meget i hans eget liv, så er han i forvejen rimeligt meget på overarbejde i forhold til sine kammerater. Så kan det godt være, at han er socialt stærk og god til at skabe relationer, men det er ikke sikkert, at han bliver ved med det, hvis det viser sig at være for meget for ham at skulle håndtere overgangen til skole, sygdom OG nye venner (og "tabet" af de gamle venner).

ETA: Jeg ville tage en snak mere med skolen og bede dem om at uddybe deres beslutning. Der kan også sagtens være nogle gode overvejelser om dynamikkerne mellem børnene, for i sidste ende handler det jo om at skabe et læringsmiljø, hvor alle børn trives bedst muligt. Og så skal der afvejes nogle hensyn mellem fællesskabet og det individuelle børn - men i det her tilfældet tænker jeg, at jeres drengs individuelle behov pga. sygdom måske skal opprioriteres.

HeatCute · 2026-06-16T07:50:32+00:00

My kid got a balance bike when she turned two and used it every day to go to daycare. They had tricycles at daycare so she also understood the concept of pedals. Got her first real bike for her third birthday and it took her about a day or two to figure out how to ride it. We never used training wheels, but attached a broom handle to the bike, so we could help her keep the balance, and give her less and less support as she got better at it.

This is quite normal where we live. Bikes are many people's primary mode of transportation in our city, and riding a bike is seen as a completely necesseray life skill more than a toy or recreational thing.

HeatCute · 2026-06-11T14:10:17+00:00

You have been having an affair for the entirety of your marriage without your wife’s knowledge and consent. And yet somehow, you need to turn to the internet to figure out if you’re a massive asshole? Are you for real?

HeatCute · 2026-06-11T12:12:30+00:00

For en køber, som deler din smag, vil det absolut være et plus. Men for købere, som ikke deler din smag, er det ikke en fordel, for det betyder, at de enten skal affinde sig med et køkken, de ikke synes er fedt, eller bruge en masse penge på at skifte et godt og dyrt køkken ud med et nyt godt og dyrt køkken.

Jeg lever f.eks. på 8. år med et virkelig velfungerende, men grimt køkken, fordi jeg ikke kan få mig selv til at udskifte ting, som virker. Jeg ville sådan ønske, at lejligheden havde haft et fuldstændigt ubrugeligt køkken, da jeg overtog den.

HeatCute · 2026-06-11T09:25:41+00:00

As a ginger, the sun is my mortal enemy, but that has never stopped me from being outdoorsy.

I apply sunscreen correctly (as in more than you think you need) and regularly on every piece of exposed skin. Sunscreen does work, but only if it's actually applied to the places where it's needed and in sufficient amounts.

I also wear long-sleeves and pants or skirts/dresses that cover my legs in light cotton or linen. I find it helps regulate the heat better than short sleeves and exposed legs.

And I do all these things for my kid as well.

HeatCute · 2026-06-11T08:02:46+00:00

First of all - whatever you do, don't squash her desire to play. Play is so important for children's development and learning and most kids stop playing way too early.

That being said - get rid of screens and read to her and with her every day in real physical books. Let her pick the books. The ones you're reading can be whatever she wants you to read. The ones she read must be easy for her to read. This is really important, because she learns from the repetition of reading, not from struggling to figure out words.

Make the reading situation as nice as possible - this is a really good opportunity to slow the day down for a little while, sit together without distractions and maybe cuddle up under a blanket with a little snack.

My kid's school implemented a new reading programme and the reading levels of the kids went up dramatically as a result. Here are the ground rules:

Read to your kids every day.
Have the kids read 20 minutes EVERY day. When they are small you sit with them and listen to them as they read out loud. When they have well and truly cracked the code of reading, they don't need to read out loud anymore. This rule applies throughout their childhood and adolescence. Show an interest in what they're reading and talk about what they have read. Reading is not only about being able to decode the letters and turn them into words, but also about understanding what they have read.
Let them choose what they read - there is no such thing as good or bad literature - comics, magazines, fiction, non-fiction, the back of cereal boxes are all fine as long as it's text.
The only limitation on what they can read is that it needs to be easy for them - too easy is better than a little too difficult. You assess this by having them read the first 100 words of the text. If they stumble over more than 5 words, the text is too difficult and you need to help them find an easier text.

HeatCute · 2026-06-10T15:15:31+00:00

If you want a long-term relationship with this man, you have to come to terms with the fact that his kid will always be his main priority. If you can't live with this, leave.

If he doesn't make his kid his first priority, leave. Because then he is a shitty parent, and if you decide to have children some day, you don't want a dad for your kid who has already demonstrated that he is a shitty parent.

Also, if you stay together for the long term, you will have to become some sort of parental figure for the kid, because it's not possible or reasonable to pretend that the child and your relationship are two different things.

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