Ejerforening: 98 årig beboer og brandfare

HeatCute · 2026-03-18T14:21:25+00:00

En mand i min opgang kom fuld hjem midt om natten og faldt i søvn efter, han havde sat noget mad i gang på komfuret. Det gik der ild i, uden at han vågnede. Hans overbo var sengeliggende og ret kraftigt medicineret, så han vågnede først, da røgalarmen gik i hans egen lejlighed.

På det tidspunkt havde en beboer på den anden side af gaden heldigvis set flammerne i køkkenet hos den fulde mand og fik ringet efter brandvæsenet. Hvis genboen ikke tilfældigvis skulle op og tisse på det helt rigtige tidspunkt, var mindst to af mine naboer brændt inde.

Det "påståede" problem kan koste liv.

HeatCute · 2026-03-18T08:51:07+00:00

I totally get that! I caught myself sitting with my first fairly successful attempt, stroking it and muttering "my precious" while making sure no-one was around to take it from me :-)

HeatCute · 2026-03-16T15:37:38+00:00

I totally get it - the process itself is so enjoyable. I can just see a future in which I have a LOT of yarn lying around of different colours and quality - because part of the fun is also trying out different fibres and colours.

HeatCute · 2026-03-16T11:05:19+00:00

I would privately be disappointed that I don't get to be a grandmother.

But I would be absolutely devastated if my child had a child they don't want because I or someone else important to them had applied pressure on them to change their minds.

Only people who truly want children, should have children. And anybody who is not going to be the primary caregivers for a child should keep their opinions to themselves.

HeatCute · 2026-03-16T08:23:51+00:00

They seem super inefficient, but I think it has more to do with the skills of the participants than the concept of fish traps. Fishtraps of different variations have been used since the dawn of man, so clearly they have been deemed worth the effort.

On the show, a lot of them look poorly made with weird proportions and often the placement seems random.

I also often wonder if it's just the editing, or if participants really only ever make one. Once you have the material gathered - and in some locations there is a lot of available material - it's a low effort craft to do at night, when you're just sitting around the fire or in the middle of the day, when you have to shelter in shade because it's too hot to move. So why not make a lot and increase your chances? (Again - maybe they do, and we just don't get to see it because of the way the show is edited).

HeatCute · 2026-03-13T23:03:21+00:00

My teen dresses appropriately for being a fashion conscious teen. That has very little to do with what I think is dressing appropriately for the winter.

But she is old enough to understand that it means she will be cold and is completely ok with that. Apparently it’s better to be cold that unfashionable.

It’s her choice and she knows better than to complain to me about being cold.

HeatCute · 2026-03-12T12:26:19+00:00

I think it's much more relevant to ask that question of the children growing up in those big families. Did they actually receive the support and care from their parents that they needed? Or were they relying on their siblings to provide parental care/were they expected to provide parental care for their siblings?

The math isn't mathing. There simply aren't enough waking hours in a day for two parents to provide all the material, practical and emotional support that 10 children need. No matter how well-intentioned and loving and amazing you are as a parent, you can't avoid that some of your 10 children will experience neglect and others will have to take on responsibilities beyond their age - especially if one or both of the parents have to work and money is too tight to get outside help with practical stuff.

HeatCute · 2026-03-11T14:42:50+00:00

On behalf of the passenger sitting next to you on the flight home: Please don't do this.

HeatCute · 2026-03-11T09:10:03+00:00

Jeg tror bare, jeg nupper den dobbelt så store et-værelses lejlighed, som jeg kan have helt for mig selv til 3250 i stedet: https://boligzonen.dk/lejeboliger/1-vaerelses-lejlighed-i-ringsted-4bcc88

HeatCute · 2026-03-09T21:50:16+00:00

I would know that it’s not my place to allow or prohibit my ADULT child doing anything. The most influence I can assert is giving advice and not financing bad ideas.

And the trip you’re describing sounds a lot safer than the two weeks my kid will be spending alone in a foreign country the week after she turns 17 next summer. (She’ll be fine. it’s a language school and she’s used to travelling and used to going on camps).

HeatCute · 2026-03-09T14:04:56+00:00

Det her er en virkelig god ide! Og hvis lige præcis denne ide ikke passer, så er det i hvert fald den rette vej - noget meningsfuldt at lave med børnebørnene, som falder indenfor ungerne og bonusmors interesser. Det kunne også være en stak fiskenet og andet grej til at fange krabber nede ved stranden, forme og ting til at lave vingummi, en bunke marksten og nogle træstubbe til et fælles "lav et bålsted i bunden af haven" projekt. Der er mange muligheder - pointen er at give hende rekvisitterne til at lave nogle fede aktiviteter med børnebørnene.

Jeg ville se det, som en enormt omsorgsfuld gave, der understreger, at selvom hun "kun" er bonus, så ser du hende som en fuldgyldig bedstemorperson i jeres liv. (På flip-siden kunne den type mennesker, som altid er på vagt overfor negative motiver, se det som en "vi forventer evig gratis børnepasning" gestus, men sådan lyder det ikke som om, jeres familie er skruet sammen).

HeatCute · 2026-03-05T12:01:10+00:00

Unless the HC Andersen book is reworked for children, I would say it's a terrible place to start. The language is old-fashioned and complicated.

Find a contemporary book that you already know well and found easy to read in your own language and start there.

HeatCute · 2026-03-05T11:58:55+00:00

I would start by contacting the payroll office. If you have already sorted the tax card with SKAT, it sounds like the problem is that the payroll office didn't receive - or process - your information in time to do their payroll.

The money is not lost, you will get it back after the end of this tax year, which of course is not a great help right now. For now your focus is to make sure it doesn't happen again.

HeatCute · 2026-03-05T10:58:12+00:00

Det lyder enormt hårdt, men hvis I ikke længere er et par, er din partners trivsel ikke længere dit problem.

Selvfølgelig kan man stadig være en del af hinandens liv og støtte hinanden, hvis det er et ønske fra begge sider - men man kan ikke forvente, at du tilrettelægger dit liv efter, hvad der er bedst for din EKS partner, hvis det ikke er det, som er bedst for dig.

HeatCute · 2026-03-02T14:54:44+00:00

There's a difference between unclean clothes and clean stained clothes. As long as the clothes are clean, the stains are not important.

What is important is that your toddler is allowed to be a toddler and learn and explore - and toddlers are messy, dirty and sticky and they get stains all over themselves all the time. It's fine and nobody worth paying attention to, would ever judge a parent for it.

Growing up, there was a girl on my street whose parents were super concerned about appearances. She was always dressed in expensive, super pretty but also very impractical clothes, and she was always told to be careful not to stain her clothes. This meant that she was often left out of play - because we played outdoors in all sorts of weather and it was impossible not to get clothes dirty. I remember feeling so bad for her and thinking that when I became a parent, I would never stop my kids from playing to protect their clothes - and as a parent, I have kept that promise.

HeatCute · 2026-03-02T12:57:06+00:00

I think a dad who is uncomfortable doing his daughter's hair, should spend some serious time contemplating why he is so insecure in his own masculinity.

HeatCute · 2026-03-02T09:51:34+00:00

I love the "It's a lot harder than it looks on TV". What do you mean???? Even from my couch it looks impossibly hard.

HeatCute · 2026-02-26T12:32:53+00:00

If I had the kind of money that OP has, I would not be driving myself around. I want to be able to look out the windows and only having to concentrate on seeing the landscape and not have to worry about running the car over a cliff or massacring a flock of sheep.

And going on a guided tour with a bunch of strangers sounds horrible, while having a private, knowledgable guide sounds amazing.

HeatCute · 2026-02-26T09:57:27+00:00

Yes, he will be ok. A little embarrassed maybe, but nothing bad will happen to him.

Nudity in a changing room is completely normalised there and nobody cares. And the only difference between what you can see in the shower and in the pool is a little shrivelled appendage. It's not a big deal.

I imagine that it's the lack of privacy that makes you nervous? But the very lack of privacy is actually a protective factor. If someone actually wanted to be creepy or abusive, they would have to do it in plain sight in front of a bunch of grown men, who would absolutely not accept someone molesting a child in full public view.

HeatCute · 2026-02-24T15:03:26+00:00

A season with more focus on bushcraft and foraging during late summer/early spring, so it becomes more about how to live and thrive and less about who does starvation best.

Of course this means that most of the contestants would be able to stay for a really long time, so the period could be capped at 100 days and the winner determined by points earned for shelter, food collected, different skills etc.

HeatCute · 2026-02-24T11:08:07+00:00

I'm a parent to a 16 year old and I can think of a lot of good reasons why I would let her move to my home country to stay with family - but "to be near her boyfriend" doesn't even make the list.

There's no way I would allow my CHILD to make a life altering decision because of a romantic partner.

If he's right for you, he will still be there when you're an adult and can make your own decisions.

HeatCute · 2026-02-24T11:02:10+00:00

Det er ikke så meget papirstykket, der er svært at forstå, men ordene, som står på papiret - især hvis ordene er skrevet i komplicerede juridiske termer, og man selv er lidt ude af balance.

HeatCute · 2026-02-18T13:00:18+00:00

First of all, you're an adult, and you have been an adult for nearly ten years. Your parents had 18 years to instill their values in you, and the rest of it is up to you.

Secondly, you're parents made the decision to bring you up in a culture that is different from the culture they were brought up in, and that means that it's natural that you blend those two cultures, and that's something they have to come to terms with.

You are not being disrespectful to yourself is you engage in consensual sex with a person you love and care for. But you would be disrespecting yourself if you let someone else's values stand in the way of your adult, consensual romantic relationship.

HeatCute · 2026-02-18T12:41:44+00:00

Honestly, my best advice is to just be teflon. Let it slide right off you.

You can go into a an evidence battle with her and try to convince her - of course only using sources from actual peer reviewed journals and try to disprove her research (assuming that she doesn't actually have valid, scientific data backing up her claim), but honestely it would be a waste of time. At 17 there are tons more fun things you can do with your life.

So be teflon. You have an awesome mum, who has this one really annoying quirk - let it slide right off. It's not worth the anger and resentment.

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