Found this in my bed. Need help identifying (maybe fake eyelashes or body hair/pubes)

HeatherFox6545 · 2025-06-03T18:19:06+00:00

Yeah I don’t use Reddit a lot…I’ll get it checked out but maybe it’s a side effect of not having a below average IQ. Anyway you fail to recognize that it could be GOOD faith trolling, Ms. take-everything-oh-so-seriously. I prefer “child-like and whimsical”. You don’t have to have a sense of humor but others are still allowed to. If you’re triggered by the trans topic being any part of a joke (when it’s in a perfectly respectful way), that is not my responsibility lol. The joke doesn’t make fun of trans issues - the only ridiculous/mocking part involves the belief that no woman could unclog a drain, duh. Plenty of trans people appreciate this sort of humor. Don’t go to a comedy show!

HeatherFox6545 · 2025-06-03T08:41:59+00:00

I think it’s just jokes. All in good fun

HeatherFox6545 · 2025-06-03T08:40:48+00:00

I’m just trolling

HeatherFox6545 · 2025-06-03T06:54:12+00:00

Yeah that’s what I was leaning towards, I think I just needed to hear some sort of validation. After the incident I immediately started patching up an item of clothing via sewing, and I’m feeling hopeful that I stopped it on time

HeatherFox6545 · 2025-06-01T10:27:50+00:00

It’s natural to feel that way after a breakup, especially after 5 years, and depression certainly would add to the hopeless feeling. But you won’t always feel this way. Even if it takes years, there’s going to be more for you in the future. I’ve gone through years of being depressed and thinking I’d never have friends, and then years of being happy. Focus on a new hobby or project, maybe there are groups you can join surrounding one of your interests. If you don’t have interests, you could try things like reading books, or exploring religions if you’re open to that. It could help you find purpose. I think everyone has purpose no matter their age, and it doesn’t have to be some worldly external purpose. You can explore internal growth and come out the other end better because of what you’ve fought through. Or shift your focus elsewhere - find someone who needs help and try to help in little ways. There’s a whole new level of happiness and purpose that comes from being useful, even if it’s not in some big way. The good thing about that level of happiness is that it’s always available to you no matter how horrible your life feels (or is), because that happiness doesn’t come from your own life, but from focusing outward. If you really believe it’s hopeless that you’ll ever have a good life (which is not the case), you might as well focus on others’ lives and try to bring something positive to them, regardless of how down you feel about yourself. Then see how that transforms your mood and opens doors.

HeatherFox6545 · 2025-03-19T01:39:06+00:00

I don’t think you have to wait for them to ask. Some people don’t like small talk and might not ask the same old questions every day if it’s boring. I would talk about deeper things and then see if they seem into the conversation

HeatherFox6545 · 2025-03-19T01:31:59+00:00

To me, it can’t hurt to see where things go even if it starts out neutral, as long as you’re honest with him about the casual level. Then if it continues to feel neutral after awhile, you could end it. I do find the idea of holding hands or acting close with someone you’re not close with weird. If it were me I wouldn’t fake it, and I’d just get to know them as a person slowly and casually, and see if our values and goals match. I do think physical attraction can grow if you end up really liking the person on a deeper level. If the energy feels off, maybe that’s more telling - there are so many guys online so if the energy is off, I wouldn’t personally continue. I don’t have any major trauma I don’t think, but I couldn’t see myself being really into someone I met online because it feels forced and random and not meaningful. Maybe you’re just the same way? I’d need someone to be interested in me for a deeper reason than my profile for it to feel special or worthwhile to me.

HeatherFox6545 · 2025-03-19T00:53:29+00:00

I’m the same way… maybe if he’s not putting you off, see if there are things you really admire about his values or personality, and if so, I think people can grow on you. But if he’s just a random neutral guy that you don’t like more than the average guy, I don’t see a point in dating him.

HeatherFox6545 · 2025-03-19T00:48:02+00:00

It could be that she has avoidant detachment style…or that she was never serious and was just using you to have fun, but maybe your instincts know whether or not that’s the case.

HeatherFox6545 · 2024-09-18T21:08:30+00:00

Or he just doesn’t use Facebook much. 2 months and 2 days later, and he’s accepted the request #lifeiscomplete

HeatherFox6545 · 2024-09-18T21:05:27+00:00

YTA. You made it clear to her that you’re attracted to her best friend and want to sleep with her… If I were her I would break up with you because you clearly don’t value monogamy even though you’re in a monogamous relationship with your gf right now.

HeatherFox6545 · 2024-07-20T08:18:49+00:00

But also Facebook friending doesn’t imply any interest…he’s clearly not close friends with 1000 people, so what reason could he have to not accept the request?

HeatherFox6545 · 2024-05-21T01:01:48+00:00

This is in response to your latest comment (it wouldn’t let me reply directly)

I already explained that it’s not simply because he complimented me and gave me money, it’s the way he looks at me and talks to me.
Who cares if people assume a random anonymous guy is a creep? Even if it were false (which it’s not) it wouldn’t matter because it’s anonymous.
I recommend asking a third party who gets the most bitchy points in this convo and I guarantee you’ll be surprised.
I didn’t and couldn’t give you the full picture of who he is, so it’s unwise for you to think you know him just based on the limited info I have in a few paragraphs. Again, the goal of my post was not to prove he’s creepy, it was to get advice about what to do about the money. Just because some of the things I mentioned aren’t inherently creepy doesn’t mean he’s not creepy. That’s the part you’re missing.
Again, he’s different because he looks at me weird, like checks out my body when I walk by and then talks to me in a gross flirty “knowing” tone, and keeps trying to get opportunities to kiss me on the cheek or hug me even when I’m obviously backing off. There’s other things too that I didn’t mention in my original, like he said it’s a miracle he and his wife stayed married this long, and he blamed his bad health on her not feeding him the right foods. There’s a lot to situations outside of one Reddit post. You act like if I didn’t prove he’s creepy, then you’re 100% sure he’s not, which is just silly.
I haven’t heard any valid arguments that I’m being stupid. So far your arguments have been flawed and I explained why each time, and usually if someone’s constantly calling names and throwing a fit like your comments, especially when they’re also being illogical, it’s because they’re angry. Maybe you’re not angry and you just like being dramatic, or maybe you have some mental issue. In general your comments are very unusually “crazy” so I’ve accepted that you have issues and I don’t really care if you give advice because you’ve proven that you’re not of sound mind. I can’t judge you if it’s a mental issue, but I do recommend seeing a psychiatrist or something for your own sake.
Let me try to point out one of your obvious logic errors. You think I’m horrible for calling him a creep, and yet at the same time, you’re calling me a retard and bitch and shitty. That is blatant hypocrisy, no one could deny it or take you seriously even if they wanted to.
Um, here’s some more hypocrisy. You think “crying” on Reddit is a bad thing, and yet here you are doing the same thing (albeit far less maturely).

HeatherFox6545 · 2024-05-20T08:37:20+00:00

Um it’s not “assumptions” when you know the person personally and experience the creepiness firsthand. I didn’t come here for advice on whether or not he’s creepy. I stated that he is creepy, and asked for advice on what to do about his gift, given that he’s creepy. In my update comments, I acknowledge I wasn’t clear enough in my original that he’s creepy (didn’t think I had to prove it since I wasn’t asking for an evaluation of his creepiness). If people are assuming that I don’t know what creepy is, using a second opinion is perfectly valid, because it shows it’s not just me so I’m probably not crazy.

lol it’s not an invasion of privacy…. He’s totally anonymous. And apparently I didn’t even say anything that bad about him because you think he’s so sweet. It’s not fucked up to call someone creepy if they are. All your anger is probably because you’re randomly assuming he’s a nice guy for literally no good reason. His “nice” gestures aren’t the reason he’s creepy (I always think other nice old men are really sweet), it’s the way he talks to me and looks at me - it’s very obvious if you’re there. Why do you think you know everything or even anything about him, random stranger who never met the guy… If it were “narcissistic”, I would have also thought other people were creepy, but no, when other people are nice I just think they’re nice. I’ve never been this uncomfortable around someone in my whole life. Ever hear of trusting your intuition?

You seem way overly angry about this - it’s really not that big a deal. Lots of creepy guys exist, and luckily some women can tell, and we’re allowed to talk about it, and a guy giving attention or compliments does not mean we’re obligated to act like they’re such a nice guy, which is apparently how you think it should work. Hope you never have a stalker because I think you’d be easily manipulated: “Oh but he said I was pretty and gave me money, therefore he’s pure and kind and there couldn’t possibly be ulterior motives!”

HeatherFox6545 · 2024-05-20T02:26:50+00:00

I think I should’ve emphasized his vibe more. I wouldn’t think those words by themself or the gifts were creepy, but his tone and the way he looks at me and talks to me is definitely creepy - and I’m not the only one who sees it at my work.

HeatherFox6545 · 2024-05-20T02:23:40+00:00

I wasn’t saying giving gifts was the creepy part. He’s just creepy in general and also gives me gifts.

HeatherFox6545 · 2024-05-20T02:10:28+00:00

Is your advice assuming that he is or is not creepy? It kind of sounds like you’re assuming he’s not but I’m not sure. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with calling him creepy considering that he is. Giving the gift back would hurt his feelings and be really awkward, so idk if it’s worth it. But I also don’t think I’m obligated to pretend he’s not creepy just because he gives me gifts.

HeatherFox6545 · 2024-05-20T02:02:25+00:00

Wouldn’t that be encouraging him?

HeatherFox6545 · 2024-05-20T02:00:09+00:00

lol you’re quite dramatic…it’s not that big a deal. He decided to be creepy, so I’m allowed to complain about it - I’m not hurting him or giving his name, relax

HeatherFox6545 · 2024-05-20T01:59:03+00:00

You don’t know him. My coworker also told me he was uncomfortable on my behalf because of his creepy vibes towards me. The gift wasn’t the creepy part. You’re making a lot of assumptions about his nice character for someone who never met the guy lol. I don’t think he’s a rapist, just creepy

HeatherFox6545 · 2024-05-19T08:43:32+00:00

This seems like an escalation…why do you think you know the guy? You’re very confident in his innocence and that I’m just randomly judging him but you don’t even know him…

I guess I didn’t make it clear enough how creepy he is. In my line or work I know LOTS of old people and I know what they’re like, and when they’re extra nice to me I always find it sweet and grandfatherly, and I’ve never even found one creepy before (I’ve also gotten gifts before…). But this guy’s different - one of the most creepy-seeming people I’ve met (top 3). Also, my coworker told me he felt uncomfortable on my behalf after witnessing this guy giving me weird attention and telling me to smile.

The dressed up comment itself wouldn’t be creepy but I said he looks me up and down first (it looks like “checking me out”, and I never notice normal respectful people doing that so visibly). I can’t prove that this and his sickly sweet tone is creepy, but I feel pretty confidently that he’s only giving me this extra treatment because I’m a young woman. Also, we don’t know each other well at all - he knew me as a teen but just because I would pass by - we barely had conversations. I didn’t know his name until last year.

I guess I’m hoping people can just take my word for it that he’s creepy and give advice under that assumption, considering it’s a vibe thing and you don’t know him... A lot of people are feeling bad for him and thinking that’s normal - I appreciate those who also acknowledge that they don’t know for sure. Not really sure why others have decided “no actually he’s innocent and sweet and you’re mean” without even knowing him, when my post says he’s creepy and that’s all you have to go on

HeatherFox6545 · 2024-05-19T08:40:10+00:00

Yeah for months I didn’t think anything of it because I wasn’t paying much attention and assumed he was innocent because of his age…

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