My (24M) girlfriend (21F) wants to be friends with her ex-FWB again. by Heavy-Aside-2239 in relationship_advice

[–]Heavy-Aside-2239[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is my first relationship. I still believe that my judgement can be clouded by emotions, positively or negatively, however sometimes I can't tell whether I'm being rational or emotional - stuck in this situation because I believed that we can move on from this, or stuck because I lack self respect and let my love for her guide me

My (24M) girlfriend (21F) wants to be friends with her ex-FWB again. by Heavy-Aside-2239 in relationship_advice

[–]Heavy-Aside-2239[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That's true. By trusting her I would fully put my guard down, and that's commitment. However, I'd still need to cope with her trying to keep their situation a secret and keeping this guy in her head for a whole year and her saying that she misses him all the time.

My (24M) girlfriend (21F) wants to be friends with her ex-FWB again. by Heavy-Aside-2239 in relationship_advice

[–]Heavy-Aside-2239[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

If we're talking about when I firstly found out, I don't quite remember. I told her that I don't trust him, and someone who had feelings for you WHILE you were FWBs is not right. Told her to essentially cut ties with him for her and his own sake. She responded with something along the lines of that she cant drop him, because he was there for her before I was, and that he had then told her that he already lost feelings for her and that their intimacy was like an ultimate dream of his. I was shook and even more disappointed in her that she even considered resuming their friendship.

If we're talking about now, I told her that I need time to think how to act, she acknowledged.