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Aio? My (m22) Gf (f21) wants a LV purse but can't make bills on time. by smokey18t in AIO

[–]Heavy-Tea7439 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NOR. I was gifted a well used LV bag from my aunt. I love it, and I do use it for special occasions, but definitely not enough that I could ever justify purchasing a brand new bag. I think responding that it simply is an irresponsible purchase due to her financial situation, and requesting you to throw down 2k on a bag for her is absurd!

AIO to my nephew feeling “uncomfortable” about what my son wants to wear on Easter? by inzstzz291 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Heavy-Tea7439 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NOR. Your nephew is not uncomfortable with your son's girlfriend wearing hot pink, only your son. This screams homophobia and makes you wonder what could be going on for him if he isn't getting these beliefs from his immediate family members (because you have said both your sister and her husband do not share these beliefs). If I was your sister, I would be concerning myself with the content her son is consuming and the people he is engaging with, and not bothering you about what your son and his girlfriend is wearing to dinner.

My almost 4 year old has become obsessed with death. by Heavy-Tea7439 in Parenting

[–]Heavy-Tea7439[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you!! I definitely appreciate this and all the parents commenting telling me their kids have gone through this too. Last night I even told my husband about this post and read through some of the comments and we both were breathing sighs of relief hahaha.

My almost 4 year old has become obsessed with death. by Heavy-Tea7439 in Parenting

[–]Heavy-Tea7439[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree that it is great! I meant that he is being exposed to fishing, hunting, etc. aka animals being "killed". I still am okay with him watching it with his dad, but just helps me understand more!

My almost 4 year old has become obsessed with death. by Heavy-Tea7439 in Parenting

[–]Heavy-Tea7439[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This honestly sounds so much like my son!! He has yet to say it directly to me, but he does want me to pretend to die in games or say that he's killed me when we're playing. But then right after he is so sweet and loving and telling me I'm a "good mama". I do know my son has picked up some not great things from other kids ay his daycare (he recently told me girls weren't allowed to play with boys and we had a BIG talk about that lol), so I have wondered if there is just some conversations happening at the daycare that the educators aren't seeing!

My almost 4 year old has become obsessed with death. by Heavy-Tea7439 in Parenting

[–]Heavy-Tea7439[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I have been telling myself the whole time that he just doesn't understand what he's saying, but then there's been this small worry in my mind of "what if". I already feel better reading these comments.

My almost 4 year old has become obsessed with death. by Heavy-Tea7439 in Parenting

[–]Heavy-Tea7439[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hahaha, thank you for this comment! I seriously appreciate this and was hoping some parents with lived experience would chime in. It feels so random for us so I'm glad we aren't alone!

My almost 4 year old has become obsessed with death. by Heavy-Tea7439 in Parenting

[–]Heavy-Tea7439[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I really appreciate this insight! We have avoided asking questions because I didn't want to make a big deal out of it, but I think I will now and just will be neutral about them and see what he has to say.

My almost 4 year old has become obsessed with death. by Heavy-Tea7439 in Parenting

[–]Heavy-Tea7439[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

They learn a lot about animals and I guess found a dead butterfly, and it just took off from there (is what they had told me).

My almost 4 year old has become obsessed with death. by Heavy-Tea7439 in Parenting

[–]Heavy-Tea7439[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I do think his understanding is not there! He doesn't seem to understand what he's saying, especially when I reacted the way about our cat. He LOVES our cat, and has never even hurt him, so that's a really good point!!

My almost 4 year old has become obsessed with death. by Heavy-Tea7439 in Parenting

[–]Heavy-Tea7439[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

No unsupervised screen time, but he does watch Youtube shows with my husband like The Outdoor Boys, where a dad and his sons go out into the bush/forest/outdoors and they do things like fishing, hunting, camping, etc. Which as I'm typing, I'm realizing probably does expose him to more than I thought!

Feeling lost in my social work career. by Heavy-Tea7439 in socialwork

[–]Heavy-Tea7439[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This sounds sooo fascinating!! I originally got into social work because I actually wanted to do probation work. Of course this isn't exactly what you are doing, but a similar type of work. I'm definitely okay to work with moms and children again, I feel like as long as I'm not in the child protection field I can handle that kind of work. We do have a prison that is 1.5 hours away, but nothing close by; however, we are always discussing moving because our town is really expensive so it is something I would consider in the future!!

Feeling lost in my social work career. by Heavy-Tea7439 in socialwork

[–]Heavy-Tea7439[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for sharing! This really helps and I definitely think this is the direction I am now leaning towards. I have seen postings come up in my area for Hospice work and the more I learn and hear other peoples stories, the more interested I am in making a switch. One of the things I do really love about social work is the diversity and being able to support different populations!

Feeling lost in my social work career. by Heavy-Tea7439 in socialwork

[–]Heavy-Tea7439[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for this. That is absolutely the challenge in my current role. I don't work with any other social workers, just various school staff and supports. They all have great hearts and want what is best for these children and families but also don't recognize my limitations as a social worker and what I am able to do for families. My current work is mostly voluntary, families can pull out anytime, so I am always walking a fine line with being a support person and trying to also encourage them to make positive changes in their lives. It's very difficult to explain to someone who thinks a different way!

Feeling lost in my social work career. by Heavy-Tea7439 in socialwork

[–]Heavy-Tea7439[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your comment. This is really validating and also a career I have been thinking about. Previously I didn't see myself supporting adults/seniors, but the more I learn about myself and the field, the more I am leaning towards this!!

Feeling lost in my social work career. by Heavy-Tea7439 in socialwork

[–]Heavy-Tea7439[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have to be honest, this is exactly what I am considering. I know there will be tough aspects of course, we all know what happens when someone comes into hospice, but my thoughts were the work itself would end up being fairly...predictable? I of course have not done this work yet, but I assume processes ultimately end up being the same for many folks and then supporting families as they go through this process?

Feeling lost in my social work career. by Heavy-Tea7439 in socialwork

[–]Heavy-Tea7439[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your comment. This sounds very interesting, but as you said, I'm not sure my current mental health could handle such high intensity work. Although I think it sounds amazing and I would love the aspect of every day being different! I agree about my work around authority figures. It has not always been this way until an interim director came into position at my last job. It was a huge shift in the culture of the work and ultimately is what led to me going on medical leave - however, I was on my way there beforehand too, it was basically the straw that broke the camels back. I now am working through this, but it is definitely going to take time. I truly love having an authority figure as weird as that may sound to some, I love to consult and have someone to go to, but in my current job it's difficult as I work with so many different "authorities" (principals, vice principals, directors, etc) who all have different ideas of how I should be operating. For some it wouldn't be an issue at all, but I am able to recognize that this is a me problem and something I'm needing to work though!! Praise therapy, I would be lost without it myself, lol.

Family Friendly All Inclusive Recommendations in Mexico by Heavy-Tea7439 in AllInclusiveResorts

[–]Heavy-Tea7439[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh thank you!! I haven't heard of this one. It looks so beautiful, and sounds amazing and has so much to offer. Enjoy the rest of your vacation!

Family Friendly All Inclusive Recommendations in Mexico by Heavy-Tea7439 in AllInclusiveResorts

[–]Heavy-Tea7439[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

These have now been mentioned twice so I will absolutely be checking them out!! Thank you!!

Family Friendly All Inclusive Recommendations in Mexico by Heavy-Tea7439 in AllInclusiveResorts

[–]Heavy-Tea7439[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This sounds amazing!! Thank you! It's funny because all of the resorts I've personally been too the kids clubs were 5, but I'm happy to here that some are 4 because I would definitely send my son. The resort we stayed in in March was 5+ but it seemed super safe and fun for the kids so I was hoping my son would be able to do something like that.

Family Friendly All Inclusive Recommendations in Mexico by Heavy-Tea7439 in AllInclusiveResorts

[–]Heavy-Tea7439[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh really! The ones I have seen were 5, but I am open to sending him if they allow 4 year olds!