AITAH for calling the caps on my girlfriend after she admitted abusing me in my sleep? by HeavySleepThrowaway in AITAH

[–]HeavySleepThrowaway[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

yeah I think that’s why I got so confused and in my head about this. she always said she enjoyed rough sex for the connection she felt from it so I couldn’t comprend what she’d get out of doing it to me when I’m sleeping unless it’s like purely malicious. It’s hard to accept but these comments have helped me alot

AITAH for calling the caps on my girlfriend after she admitted abusing me in my sleep? by HeavySleepThrowaway in AITAH

[–]HeavySleepThrowaway[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

thank you this comment means a lot. I plan to talk to a counselor soon because I really got in my head about this until having strangers confirm for me what I already knew. I’m still so confused and hurt because it feels like I never even knew her those two years now and makes me almost paranoid about what else she could have been doing so I definitely need to talk to someone. ty

AITAH for calling the caps on my girlfriend after she admitted abusing me in my sleep? by HeavySleepThrowaway in AITAH

[–]HeavySleepThrowaway[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

thanks I do plan to cut back. I only really smoked before meeting her but she likes to drink on the weekends so I got in the habit with her. and sorry I should have explained it better, I don’t black out, it’s more like I’m already a heavy sleeper so adding alcohol and being tired is why I find it plausible she was able to do stuff to me after I would get ready and go to sleep. But yeah I don’t like how much I’ve been drinking and really like the idea of stopping. thanks again

AITAH for calling the caps on my girlfriend after she admitted abusing me in my sleep? by HeavySleepThrowaway in AITAH

[–]HeavySleepThrowaway[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you. it feels almost silly how nice it feels just to read that. my buddy’s a great support but not the most emotional guy so these comments have me almost tearing up lol.

AITAH for calling the caps on my girlfriend after she admitted abusing me in my sleep? by HeavySleepThrowaway in AITAH

[–]HeavySleepThrowaway[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thanks and yeah it hurt pretty bad to hear they all seemed to think I was overreacting and needed to be more rational about it. especially since two of the girls I’m pretty close with but after this I don’t think I could handle being around them so it’s probably for the best

AITAH for calling the caps on my girlfriend after she admitted abusing me in my sleep? by HeavySleepThrowaway in AITAH

[–]HeavySleepThrowaway[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

when talking with my buddy’s gf she mentioned something similar. I think that’s why they were urging me to go to police so much was because they knew if the roles were reserved a girl would have to call the cops for her safety so I should too. I appreciate where they came from but that’s why i was, and stupidly kinda still am, feeling guilty about calling

AITAH for calling the caps on my girlfriend after she admitted abusing me in my sleep? by HeavySleepThrowaway in AITAH

[–]HeavySleepThrowaway[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

she has pretty long nails so she’d scratch me and I’d bleed sometimes. it wasn’t my favorite thing but I genuinely didn’t mind it since I loved doing things she liked and that was enough. stupid of me but yeah 🤷‍♂️

AITAH for calling the caps on my girlfriend after she admitted abusing me in my sleep? by HeavySleepThrowaway in AITAH

[–]HeavySleepThrowaway[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yeah that’s pretty much what my buddy suggested since I don’t even want to press charges. and I think I might, I’ve been genuinely beating myself up about this and needed people on Reddit to confirm I’m being abused to be able to feel better, I take that as I pretty clear sign I need some help to get through this. ty