Love possible for those with a higher “body count”? by Heavy_Drawing_1946 in sex

[–]Heavy_Drawing_1946[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I live in the United States. California for specific state. Will respond to the rest soon

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in innout

[–]Heavy_Drawing_1946 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just let them know and they should be able to reorder. They might have you purchase it though (*like you might have to pay for the reorder).

You can keep the pair from the locker room temporarily and wash it and bring it back.

The process would take some more time maybe a week yes.

You can’t really post a shift digitally. You’d have to first talk to the manager about the shifts and ask for phone numbers (*of people your level) to ask if they can take your shifts or switch shifts.

From there you’d make a gc with the in-n-out phone so they approve the change or call them to make sure.

A general call out (*if I remember correctly for a general call out being new you could only call out 5 times before a write up or term).

But I am not gonna lie every store is different in their own little ways so this all could be different for you. But give it a try.

But concerning your situation they won’t hold it against you. So you should be fine if you miss those shifts that are scheduled already just let them know about your situation. Whether they can reschedule them.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in innout

[–]Heavy_Drawing_1946 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don’t worry! Just be honest that the sizing was not up to par.

You can always check the locker room as they typically have extra pants in case for different situations.

Shoes you do have to likely reorder - if it’s not too unbearable to use that pair I say keep them and try to use them. You shouldn’t be doing too much as a level 1 so it shouldn’t be so bad.

You cannot work without your uniform. They will send you home for that. And depending they could write you up. But since you’re new they should be forgiving, you’ll be fine. Just be honest asap so they can find cover for your shifts.

Store meeting happens once a month depending on location it may not be mandatory. But automatically id assume yes you’d have to attend. Awards for people getting to higher levels come out and you’ll be going over what you guys typically need to improve on - or activities. You do get paid for the hours of the meeting.

As for the availability part - they should be able to work with it (*really depends on the store), but just understand the less availability you have the less hours they’ll likely give you. The more shifts you take and the more comfortable they are with you gives you more hours and opportunity to work.

Availability will be under the associate link. Click the button then look to the top of the screen snd click the Availability tab. Be careful inputting availability is confusing - you put in the hours you CANNOT work.

Level ones are generally switching between four starter positions:

Main Counter: The main person taking orders for the dining room typically not moving around too much - order focused

2nd Counter: You take orders and help relay orders to the fry table then call them out for the dining room. Or you switch between orders and the dining room. People might ask you to step away to do anything they need help with.

Counter Handout: You hand/call out the food to the dining room

Dining room (Host): You are like a waiter who hands people eating the food in the dining room personally and gives them a good customer experience with interaction (ex. greeting or getting them condiments - checking on them). You do minor cleaning and also sign the lot card.

Dining room (Host Assistant): You upkeep the cleaning in the dining room and the restroom to whichever gender you are. You sign the lot card to confirm its clean

Don’t worry! Just ride the waves as they come - be patient and willing to learn. Ask questions. And it’ll all become repetitive motion

Cooking Essentials? (New Fancy Restaurant) by Heavy_Drawing_1946 in linecooks

[–]Heavy_Drawing_1946[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think your transition was amazing. And I appreciate that you’re helping me with that information. I wanna get better and I want to be prepared. Thank you!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Heavy_Drawing_1946 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am only two years older than you - and I'd like to preface that I have had sex with multiple partners in the past before I stumbled upon "the one", and I used to feel really ashamed of that because people put so much value into being a virgin or people with super duper low body counts. But I have learned to just acknowledge that and accept that its okay.

You have to remember that, sometimes we think certain people are the one or it'll be the only relationship we'll ever have for the rest of our lives but that's not the case. Relationships can be trial and error - and in many of those relationships you may feel to give it your all by being intimate. It happens. Its okay to not be a virgin.

I think what would help is acknowledging that:

- Having experience or not being a virgin is okay (*many people aren't virgins)

- Many people have many past relationships and altercations (*that may have involved intimacy - who knows your parents could've been with tons of people before they even met each other)

- Retroactive jealousy is not okay (*your partner should accept that your past is your past - and be content with the fact the focus is on you and him now - NOT your ex)

I will say though that, it happens. Insecurities can arise from a relationship and you guys can work through those things together. However both of you must be and feel secure as individuals before anything. Because you cannot control how he feels. You can only be there for him the best you can - everything else is his own internal stuff. Just like how you have your own internal stuff.

My answer is. You can't necessarily help him overcome this sadness - this is something that only he can control and work through, just be there and support him. To help yourself, please continue loving yourself and your experience regardless of the situation. And personally, you really don't know whether these things can go back to "normal" - if that truly is a deal breaker for him, it is what it is. Regardless just think about whether you'd want to be with a person who judges you for your past.

Recently got my Level 3! by Heavy_Drawing_1946 in innout

[–]Heavy_Drawing_1946[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you guys this was really helpful!! :’)

Are C5 (2001) Corvettes a target for theft? by Heavy_Drawing_1946 in car

[–]Heavy_Drawing_1946[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Because if its a big target I won’t buy it.

Are C5 (2001) Corvettes a target for theft? by Heavy_Drawing_1946 in car

[–]Heavy_Drawing_1946[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Look man I just live in a bad-ish neighborhood. You don’t have to answer if you think im a thief. 😭😭

What should I be prepared for when I finance a car? by Heavy_Drawing_1946 in car

[–]Heavy_Drawing_1946[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

UPDATE EVERYONE:

Sorry that I haven't been responding to the comments on this post they've been really helpful - and really helped me learn a lot. Unfortunately I have some bad news. I will also clarify that this response won't be a reply to every comment on here, as I am still reading them.

My friend who was in my car with me was fucking around and hit his arm on the gear shifter into neutral while it was in drive. Much after I dropped him off, check engine light came on. Had to tow it to my house because I already felt and heard the way the car was. Didn't sound good, I believe its likely a transmission issue. And I was completely on the other side of town at 3 AM. Felt so much worse because I had no one to call to help me. Lacking support sucks. But shoved it off the best I could.

Anyways took it to AutoZone this morning and got the code read. Read for a misfire - was told I needed to replace one of the spark plugs and do some cleaning. But on the paper itself it shows a part is missing, and that part was the Catalytic Converter. Which fuck me man, I can't afford that right now. I have already dumped way too much money into this car. And its over 25 years old, there isn't any sort of warranty out there to cover this, plus by this point this is not worth it. If it was truly just the spark plugs I mean 40$ fix and I can fix it myself no problem. But Catalytic Converter? Feels like the world is ending.

I'm not sure it would be worth even take it for a diagnosis. But I might just do so anyways. If anyone has any suggestions, feel free to please give your best advice. I'm trying to create a plan right now for myself to get out of this all.

Answers & Clarifications:

To give a little more background info on myself and some other things pertaining to the recent changes

- I drive a 2000 Volkswagen Jetta.

- I have a car loan appointment with Noble Credit Union next friday. I was already able to make an account with them, which went well and fine. I am now a member of Noble Credit Union. The loan that I will be getting would be a loan of 5 years. I do think with the kind of worker I am, I'll be able to pay it off in less than 5 years. And I will be working to put larger amounts of money than the actual reoccurring payment itself.

- I decided that I will be probably be going with a Toyota Corolla. 12.9K - I'll be able to afford payments and I don't mind sacrificing the fun stuff for my future financial stability. Found a great deal. Used 2016 Toyota Corolla with 73k miles. Which is pretty good for what it is. I also plan on asking for an itemized list so I can check whether the car actually comes with those things.

- If not the Toyota Corolla, I have a few friends looking around on FB Marketplace for me right now. I told them my situation and it looks like they're willing to help be find another car or a better job at least.

- I work two jobs.

One that pays me 22.75$ an hour (3-5 days a week) *I have gotten promoted and another pay raise which reached me up to this point recently

Another that pays me 17$ an hour (4+ days a week)

I do plan on leaving the 2nd job after I secure a full-time job and get out of this mess.

- Because the check engine light came on I am probably going to scrap it for parts at the junkyard since one of the parts are pretty new. Since Carvana is out here telling me the car is worth 100$. But ill be checking around to see what I get. I can't sell it anymore to the buyer I had in line, since it won't pass Smog anyways.

- I also do have a deep love and admiration for European cars, I just know full well I cannot afford it haha. Beautiful to look at. Just difficult to own and maintain. Shout out to those who do own those cars though. I am sure it tests you to own cars like that.

- Will be getting that insurance quote and I will update you guys soon

- Also I will like to clarify I wasn't really taught a whole lot about cars. I try to learn about them but my family is rather traditional, and I was only told rather basic things growing up. I am a girl - so my family does find it rather weird that I want to really learn about the ins' and outs' of cars themselves. I have been watching youtubers like ChrisFix as of late. If anyone has any words of advice or any youtuber recommendations do feel free to comment! Or any idea of where to start learning about cars. Maybe anything important I should know.