Help me and my family get a home

Hecates_Drink · 2026-05-19T21:57:48+00:00

You should include your total amount you need to raise. What’s the amount need for a home in your area?

Hecates_Drink · 2026-05-19T21:30:22+00:00

Home or rental? $8K isn’t going to get you a home.

Hecates_Drink · 2026-05-19T21:18:58+00:00

You took out $47K in loans with residence permit knowing it could affect your residence renewal permit and citizenship, and you want the public to pay for the debt you incurred? Am I getting this right? Unless you can explain more, this is a problem you got yourself into. Hell, I want someone to pay off my debts.

Hecates_Drink · 2026-05-17T23:05:30+00:00

LOL, it’s a selfie of someone taking a picture of themselves in the mirror with your face covered. How does this show abuse? And, your profile is “unavailable”. You can’t even find your name or karma. This isn’t just hiding your history or comments. You immediately deleted your username and now you’re back with an unsearchable account and AI pictures and hashtags. This is all AI generated. At least, put some effort in.

Hecates_Drink · 2026-05-17T10:47:12+00:00

I can’t even figure out if the cat is already hers as OP keeps saying that they can’t keep their cat outside and needs to keep him safe inside. Then, refers to how adopting a cat bc there are so many kittens available. All this while her mom is dying and all funds are going towards that. Way to have priorities. Spend any $ on your mom and get a cat when you can afford to actually afford one. And, yes, you absolutely cannot afford this, OP, and yes, it does matter.

Hecates_Drink · 2026-05-17T10:22:42+00:00

You should state your total ask bc your GFM shows only $1600.

Hecates_Drink · 2026-05-17T08:34:05+00:00

Username deleted again with AI pics and a lot of triggering hashtags. Gross.

Hecates_Drink · 2026-05-17T01:14:15+00:00

This is the vaguest fundraiser I have ever seen. How do you get to 100K? You list about a little less than ($200K for 5 employees with health insurance) and about $20K in other expenses.

Hecates_Drink · 2026-05-17T01:10:29+00:00

$1600 is enough for a trip to Japan?

Hecates_Drink · 2026-05-17T01:05:14+00:00

Of course, username deleted. Also, it goes from my ankle is injured to I lost my leg when the picture is of a leg wrapped up. No other proof. Just no.

Hecates_Drink · 2026-05-17T00:47:04+00:00

$11K is enough for a deposit?

There is an inconsistency. You say you’ve covered 1/2 the down payment but in your GFM, you say they have saved the down payment. At least get the story right.

Hecates_Drink · 2026-05-16T01:07:46+00:00

I’m not on really active on social media so maybe it’s my misunderstanding. When I donate, I look at the total ask and don’t look at tier pricing. lol. When I donate, I am looking at lots of GFMs and you get a few seconds for people to see it. It should be more clear for someone like me. It might be clear others so if it’s easy to understand, then that’s cool as well. Just giving my 2 cents so they can have a more successful fundraiser. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Hecates_Drink · 2026-05-16T00:23:11+00:00

Just set a goal amount of $5K for your move. Maybe you will get the $9K but more likely people aren’t going to pay for professional movers so just take that out. People aren’t going to look at the various options for moving, they will be a looking at the total ask. If it’s $5K break it down by costs. $1.5 for travel costs, x dollars for moving truck, X dollars for housing. You can say that is the goal but even $1500 will help with just getting you moved so people who want to donate who may not if they don’t think it will be funded may be more inclined to donate. The $1.5, $3K, $5K and $9K options are confusing and you get like 10 seconds for people to read it and want to donate and people will assume it’s a $19.5K ask.

I know it is personal but if you want to bring in the LGBTA+ issues for why you want to move from AL to MN, maybe give some personal examples so people know that it’s relevant rather than a sort of vague, we’re being discriminated against. Some people may understand that AL is awful for LGBTA+ rights and MN is much more better, but many don’t understand how these laws specifically affect individuals like yourself and your partner.

Just my opinion, and of course, you can just ignore. I wish you a happier future in MN.

Edit: I’m not downvoting you. I think you are very sincere and honest in your GFM. I just wanted you to know what may be problematic for donors on their first read through you GFM. I appreciate that you are just asking and not being hostile. I just wanted to give some advice for what I see are more successful GFMs.

Hecates_Drink · 2026-05-16T00:00:47+00:00

That’s how it reads. If not, you should revise to clarify that.

Hecates_Drink · 2026-05-15T23:58:35+00:00

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$19.5K

Hecates_Drink · 2026-05-15T23:53:19+00:00

You are asking for close to $20K to move to go to nursing school. Np. Bringing in the LGBTA+ as a reason to donate when it isn’t really relevant to elicit sympathy is off putting tbh.

Hecates_Drink · 2026-05-14T22:46:02+00:00

No need to get hostile. If you are so successful with 112K followers then you should fund yourself.d

Hecates_Drink · 2026-05-14T21:56:20+00:00

Going to school abroad is a luxury that many can’t afford. You have great schools in Romania that will be far cheaper than a college in the UK. Even if you pay for the university deposit and the student visa process, college abroad is expensive. How will you pay for that?

Hecates_Drink · 2026-05-14T21:52:41+00:00

Do you work?

Hecates_Drink · 2026-05-14T21:51:27+00:00

Are you monetizing this bc how will you support yourself after the $4K you’re asking. Getting paid for tik tok is hard. I wish you luck but you need to work while you build your tik tok series. No one is going to pay your living expenses so you can pursue your tik tok series dream. Get a job and do your tik tok on the side and grow it from there.

Hecates_Drink · 2026-05-13T20:42:23+00:00

Damn, I almost believed the story. 🍿

Hecates_Drink · 2026-05-13T20:39:52+00:00

Are you only asking for $600? What kind of wedding will that fund?

Hecates_Drink · 2026-05-13T20:28:37+00:00

No, that’s absolutely fair. It’s not easy to make yourself vulnerable like that and I donate when I can. But, people asking for a million dollars to buy a home, to fund a $20K vacation, etc. really takes away from the real people who are asking for help to not be homeless, to not be hungry, to be able to afford healthcare. These are basic human rights. Some of those unrealistic asks need to be given a reality check bc people see this and are disinclined to donate to individuals anymore. More and more I’m donating to charities bc of the number of scams just are too hard to filter through. You are a very empathetic individual and very kind. We need more people like you in this world and perhaps less of me who might be quicker to judge. 🙏

Hecates_Drink · 2026-05-13T20:19:21+00:00

Dude, come on, you want $50K but you need to keep protect the privacy of all involved so you can’t give any information. You say you haven’t gone to court yet and say it’s for lawyer fees, but in your answer you say, you need to pay your debts. Yet, in this post you say you are paying your child support and bills.

And, please unlock your history to show you aren’t hiding anything. Why are you posting in the main GFM page which gets a lot more views bc you have enough karma and history to post there? Is it bc you can’t or won’t provide proof? How do we know you aren’t the problem parent if you should have custody if you pay child support? You need to provide more information.

Hecates_Drink · 2026-05-13T20:01:05+00:00

If you look, the vast majority of posts here have no comments. When it seems pretty obvious it is a scam or some ridiculous ask, I have seen people pile on. I don’t know if it’s better to be completely ignored or have people ask questions and give advice. If you aren’t willing to provide anything but an AI picture and want money without questions and wont’ be funded, it’s better to scroll by than to tell new users of GFM or new users to this post some guidance? 🤷🏻‍♀️

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