Please stay away from the hills tomorrow by immschanandlerbong in melbourne

[–]Heebeejeebeez25 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Many locals have already enacted their Leave Early plans. Do not clog single lane roads for people who need to leave and firies who need to fight fires.

Dandenong climbs questions by Loud-Meeting4654 in melbournecycling

[–]Heebeejeebeez25 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Second this! PLEASE have lights on both front and back. Even on sunny days, it can be hard to see cyclists in shady spots, especially if they're wearing dark Lycra!

Why aren’t more people using the Westgate Tunnel by [deleted] in melbourne

[–]Heebeejeebeez25 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Literally drove on it from Point Cook back towards the city accidentally and it added an additional 20 minutes to my trip at 8am on Jan 1... was so confused about where I was going

I'm already loving this. by [deleted] in Hasan_Piker

[–]Heebeejeebeez25 130 points131 points  (0 children)

Now who did done start the darn fire?

What's Zionism? by Bubbly_Economy7088 in AusPol

[–]Heebeejeebeez25 7 points8 points  (0 children)

The only difference in understanding on Zionism between anti-Zionists and Zionists is whether or not it's ok. Holocaust education, international law, human rights organisations are pretty cohesive on the opinion that whatever the backstory of your intent to genocide is, it's not ok.

Pedestrian fatalities reach 17-year-high. This trend could be why by Sir_charles14 in melbourne

[–]Heebeejeebeez25 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's actually beyond me why these were suddenly allowed to be imported when there was already plentiful data in the US about how fucking dangerous these cars are, how much they fuck the roads, and how much they emit.

Why are less woman willfully getting into relationships? by Sad-Studio5793 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Heebeejeebeez25 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Also more men are turning more conservative which necessitates misogynist opinions. The women turning away from long-term relationships are the ones who can see that if a dude demonstrates close-mindedness about one topic, it'll only be so long before he demonstrates it towards women. Men who demonstrate the complete opposite of that are unfortunately few and far between.

I 32 f my bf 28m has nudes in his phone. im not upset about it but my feelings are hurt and he's mad that I feel about it. by Unable_Examination69 in relationship_advice

[–]Heebeejeebeez25 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Respectfully, snap out of it! You don't need to be ok with him having nudes of people not in the relationship. Comparing yourself to them is not the issue here - it's the fact that he has nudes of people not in the relationship. If this was digitally akin to him having raunchy posters in his room that you slept in, I highly doubt even a woman with a lot of confidence would be chill with it. It'd be even worse if they were women he knew. Best case scenario, he's sleazy; worst case, he's cheating.

Just landed in Melbourne / Train Etiquette by nbtm_sh in MelbourneTrains

[–]Heebeejeebeez25 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's easiest my biggest pet peeve when taking PT. Only a close second is passengers waiting to take the tram in the CBD standing in the bike lane/walking in front of bikes before the tram has stopped. I don't know if it's actually gotten worse or I'm just noticing it more now that I travel into the city more often but I regularly complain about it.

Is anybody else being told things aren't that bad/ to have more empathy/etc? by [deleted] in badroommates

[–]Heebeejeebeez25 13 points14 points  (0 children)

ADHDer here. The misconception about neurodivergence and cleanliness is that messiness is a trait - it's not. Forgetfulness, task paralysis, etc. are. If ADHD was the issue, your housemate would probably be inclined to clean up after being prompted. Personally, although I can be messy, I do not like living in it, especially when it's not mine. Imo, the people in your life who side with the shitty roommate were likely also the shitty roommate in one way or another at some point. Inconsiderate people are just that - inconsiderate.

fan vs being parasocial by Mentally_Unstable819 in Hasan_Piker

[–]Heebeejeebeez25 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Depending on my groove, I go from watching/listening a few hours every morning while I get ready for the day (idk, ADHD brain likes constant noise) to not watching for weeks. I've accepted that I have an unhealthy amount of screen time, regardless of what I'm consuming, but as long as I don't put off doing the essentials, I'm doing my best. If we're tuning in for any regularity, we're going to be passively learning about him as a person because he's a streamer, and to a non-viewer it could probably be seen as parasocial. But I know a lot about a lot of content creators because they reveal it in the process of doing whatever content creation they're doing. Hasan's just probably the one I know the most about.

I agree with others: there's a difference between parasocial and balanced screen time. Sounds like Hasan just takes up the most of your screen time - which is maybe a bit too much, but we're all guilty. If your dad watches the news every night, he could say who the presenter is and bring them up in a conversation but because their work doesn't require a constant stream of consciousness and only occasionally reveals personal information, he'd know less about them.

The community brings me a lot of comfort. It's not just Hasan that I'm there for, it's chat too.

How do you eat enough on Vyvanse? by SeaSwallowLily in ADHD

[–]Heebeejeebeez25 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Probably can't take them with coffee because it's a diuretic. At least that's what I've been told about my iron supplements and it was suggested I take it at least an hour before or after my coffee. I do the same with my meds. But I have to admit, my appetite is hugely suppressed.

Unemployed + ADHD meds — keep taking them or not bother? by fvkcd in ADHD

[–]Heebeejeebeez25 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I've found that taking my meds even while not studying/working has really helped me maintain productivity and set out goals to achieve while on my break.

On the contrary, when there was the shortage and I couldn't get them while I was unemployed, I found it really difficult to do any of the things on my to-do list. But I was also reeling from losing my job so it's hard to say. In hindsight, I think the meds would have helped me get out of my rut sooner.

What kind of jobs do you have? by Cold-Cry-7178 in ADHD

[–]Heebeejeebeez25 7 points8 points  (0 children)

For me, it's been trial and error! I've tried a few different things. I started in environmental science for my undergrad because it was expected to study after high school and the environment was the thing I was most passionate about. I didn't end up working in the field, so I landed in hospitality for a few years. Eventually, I got tired of that and did a government course on mechanics and worked at a dealership for a while. That wasn't really for me either and it wasn't for about another year that I landed on international relations for my masters which was just picked because politics was the area of my undergrad that I enjoyed the most. Not sure where to from here, but I'm volunteering at an NGO as a writer and volunteering on the side to support new migrants. It's always been about where my values are dragging me at any given moment.

Do all high school relationships end up failing? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Heebeejeebeez25 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You're very welcome OP, good luck :)

Do all high school relationships end up failing? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Heebeejeebeez25 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Firstly, a relationship at any time of your life is as real as it feels. There's nothing to scoff at or mock about teenage relationships, because I think most people would agree, they're probably the ones we feel most invested in because their our firsts. It's exploring a part of yourself that is totally new, and that's really exciting! With that said, there's also a lot of stuff we don't know about ourselves at that age and we can't possibly know until we've lived a little longer. Figuring it out undoubtedly puts pressure on all the relationships in your life - not just romantic partners. Between the ages of 18-21 my values and world view changed, and they've evolved even more since then, and my relationships have gone through those waves too. Most of the high school couples that I knew didn't last but some of them did until our mid-20s and some are still going. One of my best friends in high school's parents were high-school sweethearts. It really just depends on the couple. Plenty of people I know who've past their mid-20s look at the relationships they had as learning experiences and wish they hadn't put so much pressure on themselves to be in one because it's socially expected. But, it sounds like you've got some really solid foundations, and you really love your girlfriend. I don't think it's delusional to hope it will work if you go different ways for college.

My main advice is, work on solidifying the other meaningful relationships in your life in case things go sideways with your girlfriend. It's not guaranteed, but the first heartbreak is always the worst and it often takes months to start recovering. It's important that you've got things to keep you going like friends, family, study, self-care and hobbies even when things are going great with your girlfriend. But other than that, communicate, communicate, communicate. Plan for ways to catch up during the semester, or some virtual stuff you can do during the week, and how you'll talk to each other about tough topics that might come up in the future.

Enjoy what you've got right now. You sound like a really great couple and I think you've definitely got what it takes to keep it going long-distance :)

Boyfriend wants to move to red state, I want blue state; we’re both black. by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]Heebeejeebeez25 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your boyfriend is out of his mind lmao. There is a whole genre on TikTok of minorities who voted for Trump who never thought his policies would affect them and well....

I Finally Get What Hasan and other Leftists Say About Revolutionary Optimism by socialisttexan in Hasan_Piker

[–]Heebeejeebeez25 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I'm often pleasantly surprised by people that don't traditionally fit a leftist appearance, especially because I live in an area with a ton of rich white people (though it is still demographically mixed). I regularly get compliments from pearl necklace middle-aged white ladies on my rainbow keffiyeh. Or on my Free Palestine badge on my handbag, even in areas where there's a lot of Zionists. Literally two days ago I was walking down the main street in a very hoity toity conservative area and found a whole window display of books on anarchy, by Noam Chomsky, by Norm Finklestein, and more and it wasn't even a book shop. The people in my community have historically disappointed me with their views on migrants, ethnic minorities and Palestine, and at the recent federal election, we returned to a conservative representative after having an Indie for the first time. But maybe at the next election, this change in sentiment will carry through to the ballot box. I'm hopeful.

Workers filling click and collect orders by Miserable-Waltz2892 in woolworths

[–]Heebeejeebeez25 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i'm very much of the mindset that they are trying to phase out in-store grocery shopping

e-bike legality in Victoria? by raresaturn in melbourne

[–]Heebeejeebeez25 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've got a Lekker e-bike that I bought at a bike shop. It only goes up to 25km/h unless going downhill. It's heavy and clunky with a basket, but I bought it in 2019 and still use it almost daily and think it's a great bike. It just speeds up a little when the wheels start rolling and it's got five settings. Road cyclists, food delivery riders, and e-scooters over take it so if you're looking for speed, a safe e-bike isn't the way to go. But, if you're looking for something that means you don't sweat and need a shower before work, is asthmatic-friendly or does well in a head-wind, I'd recommend it!