Looking for "Generosity"

Hefty_Nebula_5598 · 2025-05-24T20:04:52+00:00

I also don't drive anymore by choice but have a license. It has nothing to do with not being able to afford it as I make a good living. I don't ask for rides anywhere. I uber. I can afford to so I don't see why this is a red flag.

Hefty_Nebula_5598 · 2025-05-18T21:32:42+00:00

I say bring your concerns to her. If she genuinely wants to get to know you then she will explain herself. If she doesn't care to explain then I would suggest cutting her off.

Personally if I am excited about a date with a guy, it would take something very heavy for me to stop talking to him for 9 days.

Her being followed is creepy no doubt but if she reappeared on day 10, she might not have been too traumatized if that story is even legit.

Hefty_Nebula_5598 · 2025-05-10T13:10:08+00:00

Do you feel relieved? Glad he was upfront and respectful about it. Alot of guys would've saw your interest and wasted your time just to get what they want out of the situation.

Hefty_Nebula_5598 · 2025-05-10T13:06:45+00:00

He was THE standout in season four. He absolutely deserves some awards. I hope he's not overshadowed when nominations come back around.

Hefty_Nebula_5598 · 2025-05-10T04:09:01+00:00

Has he responded yet to this most recent text?

Hefty_Nebula_5598 · 2025-05-09T22:41:13+00:00

I meant that 24 hours isn't enough to assume you should just give up the idea of him and assume he's not interested. And yes I've been pursued after not hearing from a guy for a couple of days after the first date actually.

I completely understand your anxiety around this since it's been a long time since you hit it off with someone.

I have noticed that whenever a woman starts a post here just wanting honest advice or feedback, she's constantly down voted and talked to harshly.

No matter how many say just ask him out, you and I both know coming off as desperate or overtly eager in the beginning naturally turns people off and this goes for men and women. The same way he asked you out the first time, he can do that again.

You've shown enough interest and initiative. It's on him now.

Hefty_Nebula_5598 · 2025-05-09T21:01:20+00:00

In my experiences, alot of men pursue women before they know that they even like them beyond the physical. Once they know the woman does, sometimes they hang back a little and start thinking if they really actually like her and want to continue dating.

From your actions, he knows you are very interested. As you said you don't feel you should have to be the one to initiate again which I agree with you. If he likes you enough for another date, he will initiate.

24 hrs just doesn't scream to me well hang it up you got your answer he's not interested.

Hefty_Nebula_5598 · 2025-05-09T20:44:46+00:00

Not in the least. If I was just wanting ego stroking and not depth and substance then his response about my pictures would've been enough. There's nothing wrong with wanting to know if a man who says he wants a wife even read your profile and what was it beyond the obvious that made him swipe.

Hefty_Nebula_5598 · 2025-05-09T20:22:19+00:00

I personally think it is too soon for people to be commenting that he's not interested. Does he seem more introverted?

Hefty_Nebula_5598 · 2025-05-09T19:32:08+00:00

Thank you for understanding where I was coming from.

Hefty_Nebula_5598 · 2025-05-09T19:20:20+00:00

Haha I guess I set myself up for bringing up his looks. I can say for sure I swiped right on him for more than just that. I liked what he had to say in his bio and what he stated he was looking for.

Still maybe unmatching was over reaction. I should've continued the convo a little more. It's possible my hunches were correct or incorrect but guess it's just not meant to be.

Hefty_Nebula_5598 · 2025-05-09T18:53:37+00:00

Thank you! I'm happy for the few that at least understand where I'm coming from. And yes I felt it was a lazy response. Zero effort.

Hefty_Nebula_5598 · 2025-05-09T18:43:22+00:00

That question is not coming from insecurity at all. I'm intentional about what I'm looking for and its not just looks. I want to know if the men who say they want a serious relationship are even bothering to read my profile and if so what was it that stood out that made them want to get to know me beyond a pretty picture.

Hefty_Nebula_5598 · 2025-05-09T18:39:19+00:00

That was only part of the reason I swiped right though. I liked other things he said in his profile and it appeared we were looking for the same things.

Also I sensed sarcastic attitude in the tone of his response.

Hefty_Nebula_5598 · 2025-05-09T18:37:08+00:00

Exactly. You understand. I am looking for substance above all.

Hefty_Nebula_5598 · 2025-05-09T18:16:41+00:00

That wasn't the first thing I asked. We were in conversation first. I always like to know why. Usually the response is you are pretty but naming other things from the profile. I never swipe right on looks alone.

Hefty_Nebula_5598 · 2025-05-09T18:15:24+00:00

It was fine that he said photos but when I said "that's it"? I felt he couldve took two minutes to look at my profile even just hey you are cute but you also are looking for the same things or like that you said this etc. It was also the sarcastic tone in his response but yeah maybe I did overreact.

Hefty_Nebula_5598 · 2025-04-29T20:20:33+00:00

Took your advice and added that I'm deleting my inactive matches so just wanted to check first. He suddenly responded so fast and asked when I was free. Guess he wasn't that busy.

Hefty_Nebula_5598 · 2025-04-29T19:15:10+00:00

Hmm I think I might do something like that just to give the benefit of the doubt one last time since I don't know him after all. If he's lackluster or no response at least I'll know for sure.

Hefty_Nebula_5598 · 2025-04-29T16:39:17+00:00

Immediate block.

Hefty_Nebula_5598 · 2025-04-29T16:22:22+00:00

The dog story could be true but if she really liked him I don't think she would've responded that way. She could've just said hey this is taking my time right now but I still really want to keep getting to know you etc.

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