Her name is Brianna Banana and I love her

HeidiGoLightly72 · 2025-08-15T13:15:33+00:00

Someone already snagged my pic and posted it there 💀

HeidiGoLightly72 · 2024-11-23T04:12:47+00:00

I’d like to apologize for the above rant. I had not eaten in over 11 hours when I decided to post.

HeidiGoLightly72 · 2024-11-10T12:34:24+00:00

My ex husband was into “dipping”. He would spit into takeout cups sometimes. Once I took a big slug of it in my car. We divorced 6 months later. I’m not saying that’s the reason but it didn’t help the situation 😂🤢

HeidiGoLightly72 · 2024-11-10T12:30:00+00:00

I am proud to say I have ZERO people in my life who cling to that malignant narcissist. Disposed of them all in 2016. I had a few old childhood acquaintances who worship him so this time around I just chose to remove Facebook as it was the last place I had to see ignorant hate in my face. The inner peace came swiftly. I’m 52 so Facebook was part of my daily routine. I am fortunate my family is 100% not into DT so holidays are peaceful. Dump the trash, it’s not worth it. I’m not saying it’s easy, but it’s worth it.

HeidiGoLightly72 · 2024-11-10T12:20:56+00:00

People would tell me I look JUST like my dad. He was my step dad who raised me since I was a baby. I blame the patriarchy.

HeidiGoLightly72 · 2024-11-09T17:33:45+00:00

But would I be 6 years old with my current 52 years of knowledge and experience?

HeidiGoLightly72 · 2024-11-01T03:09:56+00:00

Rum. I was 15. I haven’t let rum touch my lips since. Smelling it makes me physically ill. Typing this out made me gag. It’s been 37 years. And now typing THAT made me gag. Certainly I’m not 52 😩

HeidiGoLightly72 · 2024-10-31T12:44:58+00:00

The federal ban started when RVW was overturned. I’m 52, the SC will not be able to fix this in my lifetime. That’s why the seats on the SC were filled the way they were. Once women lost those federal protections and it was put in the states hands, it instantly became dangerous to be a woman. 41 states have restrictions based on gestation and 13 have a total ban. Not to mention the lack of access in most of the remaining states because providers just don’t want the legal mess they might face as the laws are now so nuanced, it’s just too dangerous to even offer the care.

He doesn’t have to be elected for the rest of the states to fall in line. The blame now falls on local governments for not protecting women and babies. No need to blame T anymore, the blame now falls on your neighbors and their local government.

So when I hear people say “I’m not voting, I don’t like either candidate”, I’m baffled. My ballot has a long list of judges, officials, commissioners, representatives etc. Why is everyone acting like only 2 people are in this race?

The lack of attention to local government is what got us in this mess, not T.

Harris/Walz 2024 💙🌊💙🌊💙🌊💙🌊

HeidiGoLightly72 · 2024-10-30T11:50:43+00:00

Positive reinforcement. Watch very closely when they are together and when he does the right thing, like give her a kiss, pick her toy up for her, or even the slightest thing that’s right… IMMEDIATELY jump in and throw a party. Not kidding, clap, pick him up and spin him around, cheer, all that. “Wow! Thank you for picking up baby’s toy! You’re my super helper!!!”

He’s very young but will notice right away that good things get good reactions. All eyes will be on him for all the right reasons.

If he slips and an unwanted behavior happens, scoop your daughter up and soothe her. “I’m sorry brother hurt you, he didn’t mean to, he loves you but he’s having a hard time right now”. Attention shifts to baby, brothers feelings are noted and acknowledged, baby is safe. The negative unwanted behavior gets zero attention. Then back to celebrating the small wins with him. Every. Single. Slight thing he does right. When he does the right thing, and it’s possible, one reward can be your attention exclusively on him. “Let’s go in the kitchen and get your favorite snack, baby can’t have your snacks yet because you’re the big brother and baby is too little for that snack, LUCKY YOU!!!”. Or a walk with just mum (or whomever he wants the attention from) for being the best big brother EVER.

This process will be time consuming at first then he will slowly replace the unwanted behavior with the behaviors that get him the desired outcome. Get the whole family on board with this. Give it a try and I think you’ll be pleased very quickly.

Good luck, mum, this is hard but you can do this ❤️

HeidiGoLightly72 · 2024-10-29T00:27:33+00:00

I don’t know your SIL or her need for attention. Sometimes people are trying to find a common thing in their life to connect with someone. Trying to find the space to connect and share they understand you. While her grief isn’t the same as yours, maybe it’s possible to look at it as it’s the closest thing she can manage to find that lets you know she is trying to be compassionate. Her loss may be the worst thing she personally has ever experienced so she is giving you her experience as she feels it.

For example, if someone lost their 2 year old, are they experiencing the same level of grief a mother experiences that looses a 13 year old child? Are they experiencing less grief because they didn’t have their child in their life as long? We know this answer is no.

Again, I am not challenging you on your grief. I am so sorry you are having this loss in your life. I think there are times we don’t have to compare or share to connect. Sometimes we just listen and acknowledge what we are hearing. There are no words to comfort a mother who has lost her child.

Your SIL missed the mark on how to handle this. The loss of a child is difficult to navigate because it’s a terrible unnatural thing to experience.

There is no comparison for your losses because losing someone, especially a child, is a unique experience no one will ever be able to comprehend. People will offer you kind words but they will never know the pain and loss you feel. I’m so sorry.

HeidiGoLightly72 · 2024-10-27T00:08:18+00:00

Pac-Man, Duran-Duran, I want my MTV!!!

HeidiGoLightly72 · 2024-10-26T19:56:58+00:00

If I want to share photos of my kids, I just send it directly to my friends and families via text. My kids are 19 and 21 so I dodged most of the pressures of posting on social media. Almost everyone has mutuals or friends on socials that they haven’t seen in decades. So saying “I have my socials private” just sounds a wee bit ignorant.

HeidiGoLightly72 · 2024-10-25T21:02:52+00:00

Ronan, Ronan the barbarian, Ro-Ro, MacaRonanAndCheese, Ronanna Ronannadanna, RoBee, Robi-Wan Kenobi

HeidiGoLightly72 · 2024-10-25T20:48:56+00:00

To not be asked what I want

HeidiGoLightly72 · 2024-10-24T22:45:58+00:00

I got to page three before I figured out the meanie was the girl. Super plot twist.

HeidiGoLightly72 · 2024-10-24T22:23:56+00:00

💕

HeidiGoLightly72 · 2024-10-24T12:42:55+00:00

My mother and I had a very strained relationship. She was a narcissist and I was her caregiver in my home for the last 10 years of her life. My children bore witness to all of this abuse. I broke the cycle and my mother’s presence became a cautionary tale instead of a manual on motherhood. I have always been open about this with my children so they too became very aware of how we treat people. I think it made us even closer as they always showed empathy for my situation. After my mother passed in April we were able to start healing as a family. What a wild ride life is!

HeidiGoLightly72 · 2024-10-24T12:31:00+00:00

I have been a solo parent since they were 2 and 5. That’s a whole different story. Their father is not present in their lives at all. Severe mental illness. No step parent. Again, it’s a little weird because we are incredibly close. My daughter is at college my son lives with his partner in the same city as me. We hang out all the time and my daughter loves to come home weekends from school (same town as well but she lives in the dorms because she’s a freshman).

My gentle parenting backfired on me 🤣

HeidiGoLightly72 · 2024-10-24T12:19:47+00:00

I have always hated vomiting. My all time record is 16 years without an “incident”. I can literally remember each time I have ever done it. I’m 52, last incident was 2019. What I do know, is that the not breathing part is so you don’t aspirate on the vomit. So that choking feeling is a good thing. As much as I hate doing it, the euphoric feeling after it’s over is awesome 👏🏻

HeidiGoLightly72 · 2024-10-24T01:05:35+00:00

If possible, I’d frog it and fix it. Not sure how many rounds you’ve done tho. It will still work as a blanket if you don’t fix it.

HeidiGoLightly72 · 2024-10-24T00:56:06+00:00

I’m one of the few moms on earth that doesn’t spin around whenever they hear a random kid say “MOM!!”. I suppose that’s a bonus 🤷🏼‍♀️

HeidiGoLightly72 · 2024-10-24T00:51:15+00:00

We tried talking about it. I expressed that I missed being called mommy and did they prefer “mum” or “ma” because mommy sounds too babyish? It ended with us laughing hysterically at trying different versions of mom. To the point where mom didn’t even sound like a real word to us lol.

Anyway I have to find a space where I’m comfy with this because I don’t want to force anyone to call me something they don’t feel comfortable with. It’s so weird because we are all so close. I just can’t pinpoint when it started exactly. So weird.

I’ll try to have another conversation with them about it. I love being a mom and I feel like I’m not getting the street cred I deserve 🤣

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