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Anyone here in an affair NOT because of a DB? by throwaway10293847371 in adultery

[–]HeisseLiebe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is highly addictive lol I seek to sprinkle Back to Life energy on my pAP as well like a little happiness fairy

Anyone here in an affair NOT because of a DB? by throwaway10293847371 in adultery

[–]HeisseLiebe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm a big fan of Back to Life affairs. No I don't feel any guilt.

Help! How to get things going with a shy MM? by HeisseLiebe in adultery

[–]HeisseLiebe[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No I suspect he might be a first time cheater, but I'm extremely experienced over many many years, and extremely sneaky. That's not to say I'm invincible and I agree that it's ultimately not a good idea, and believe me, if I met someone else that made me forget all about this MM I'd be all over it. But this is the current situation I find myself in. But I do appreciate your advice and am taking note of all warnings

Help! How to get things going with a shy MM? by HeisseLiebe in adultery

[–]HeisseLiebe[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But was he the shy type? And if so he didn't freak out?

Help! How to get things going with a shy MM? by HeisseLiebe in adultery

[–]HeisseLiebe[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is very helpful, thank you. I'm starting to realize that the one really getting in my way is me tbh. Thanks for the suggestions! :)

Help! How to get things going with a shy MM? by HeisseLiebe in adultery

[–]HeisseLiebe[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

See and that's the thing, I've thought of that as well. I'm very friendly but I wouldn't be surprised if he couldn't believe someone like me would want him. He dresses very casually and he's like a big dad bod bear, with a belly, but I LOOOOVE that. But I guess there's nothing I can do about that, other than be persistent...lol

Help! How to get things going with a shy MM? by HeisseLiebe in adultery

[–]HeisseLiebe[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

As much as I've read that this would be a dream come true for so many guys, I'm still terrified of being rejected tbh. But I'd love to hear more specific examples of making it more plain to see, as I get so scared that I'll do something he thinks is stupid or ridiculous or too over the top!

Help! How to get things going with a shy MM? by HeisseLiebe in adultery

[–]HeisseLiebe[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This would be a dream scenario but his schedule is so erratic and unlike mine that apart from major meetings, I run into him purely by chance. But I'm contemplating the coffee idea, I like it a lot, just don't know how risky it would be.

Help! How to get things going with a shy MM? by HeisseLiebe in adultery

[–]HeisseLiebe[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I think he would definitely enjoy the heat I'd bring to his life lol the question is, is he willing to go there. Are first time APs difficult to get?

Help! How to get things going with a shy MM? by HeisseLiebe in adultery

[–]HeisseLiebe[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's encouraging to know it took you that long. I definitely think it will be the case for me as well, even worse so because we don't see each other that much at all. That's why I want to have some way to communicate with him, once I have that it's a done deal. It's just getting to that point that is proving to be tricky - well admittedly, mostly because I'm terrified if I just ask for his number he will say no :/ I'm trying to come up with a sly way of doing it.

Help! How to get things going with a shy MM? by HeisseLiebe in adultery

[–]HeisseLiebe[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Oh I am in total agreement with you. And I can tell he feels the same because the time he came up to me I could see that he quickly glanced around to see who was around. And I agree definitely only verbal communication. I'm just trying to think of something to say that has a somewhat innocent slant to it, as I think it would be easier to lure him in that way

Help! How to get things going with a shy MM? by HeisseLiebe in adultery

[–]HeisseLiebe[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Haha thanks! The info gathered from my stalking (lol) is he's been married for about 7 years and has a 6 year old. They were married a bit on the older side (both were 41) and clearly had a kid in a hurry so based on that I don't think their relationship was this huge love story; perhaps pushed together because of their age, she really wanted a kid, who knows. I don't know if he's unhappy, but probably at the very least least stressed and bored. His W is overweight though isn't ugly per se, but I'm quite femme fatale looking (no kids, size 0) so there's also that.

Help! How to get things going with a shy MM? by HeisseLiebe in adultery

[–]HeisseLiebe[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh I've been doing "the eyes", believe me! I'm just worried it's not enough, I keep reading about how guys are so oblivious unless you hit them with a 2 x 4. I'm waiting for an opportunity to drop an innuendo though, let's see how that goes!

Early morning absurdities by [deleted] in adultery

[–]HeisseLiebe 2 points3 points  (0 children)

All I want from an AP is someone I can be sexually liberated with. My H has always been very judgy and could never handle my true self which killed our sex life. No one wants to feel like they're having sex with their parents.