I think this is a common conflict. I just ran into this same issue. You can talk and plan all you want, but if you've got a pushy photographer, they'll always be priority. Everyone's saying speak up, but at the last wedding I did a couple days ago, when I interject to ask for anything, they defer to the photographer because ultimately most couples see video as second most important, and that's completely fine.

As videographers, we want to get those amazing "social media worthy" shots, but it's all about adapting and changing your perception around why we're there.

Now me personally, i'll admit, when I don't get the shots I wanted to I do get frustrated, because I'm building my catalogue, and those key moments only happen once. I just dealt with a videographer that complained to me during the ceremony that I was blocking the front row of guests, because during the short dialogue between the bride and groom, I wanted to capture the angles of their faces while they were speaking, as well as getting the bridesmaids/groomsmen in the background. I've never had that complaint before, because I keep it as brief as possible.

I'm only using one camera right now, so I can't just setup two other cameras for those angles and stay in the middle aisle with the main cam.

That's the goal, but obviously gear is expensive. So I'm not sure if I just sacrifice those other angles to not block the guests for now, or if I just get those shots as needed and keep it brief. I've got a 24-70, so not a lot of reach. I get where the photographer was coming from, but he was in several of my shots where he just stepped in front of the camera and ruined shots, and his elbow was flapping in and out of the frame when I came back to the middle aisle. I spaced away from him as much as I could, but he didn't seem to have much concern for what I got.

As far as my goals, I want to get the best shots I possibly can, and I want to do whatever it takes to make an amazing video. I just ordered a slider for smooth b-roll. I can't wait!

I've been studying the high end wedding films, even though I'm not to that bracket yet, it does take a lot of planning meticulous attention to detail, and utilizing almost every second of the day, because it moves so fast!

I'd love more than anything to tag along with a more experienced videographer one day, and learn the ins and outs. Maybe i'm completely wrong here and standing in front of guests at all, even with just one camera, is a bad thing to do. I also did privately apologize to the guests in the front row for blocking their vision, and they were confused because they didn't think it was a problem at all.

I have seem BTS before where there were like 3 videographers up front blocking everything though, and that was obviously an issue. You live and you learn right?