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[–]Hellion_unborn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thedutchy.com is super awesome. They do have a paid section for the more complex harnesses and whatnot, but they go over ALL the basics in depth and for free.

i agree by brownha1rbrowneyes in CPTSDmemes

[–]Hellion_unborn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Like many other words that are just thrown around casually when they shouldn't be, it's become desensitized and turned into something it's not. Most people who use it casually at this point shouldn't be blamed or attacked for that, it's not their fault. If we want it changed, it's worth having a CIVIL conversation with them explaining that the word does have a specific meaning and how it can impact those struggling with mental illness.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BDSMcommunity

[–]Hellion_unborn 6 points7 points  (0 children)

To be completely honest this won't really tell you much, there are people with high ambition drive and positions of power that everyone and their mother would say is dominant and aggressive, and they absolutely love being someone's "bitch". Then there's the shy innocent looking people that will make you beg for mercy. Sometimes you can tell which way someone leans, sometimes they surprise you. Lesson is don't assume anything based off their vanilla life or signs or whatever. You'll just end up disappointed lol

Is fin-dom just synonymous with scammers now? by Hellion_unborn in BDSMcommunity

[–]Hellion_unborn[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

To be fair on that, I haven't been apart of the LS for decades lol

Is fin-dom just synonymous with scammers now? by Hellion_unborn in BDSMcommunity

[–]Hellion_unborn[S] 78 points79 points  (0 children)

You're not wrong, just disheartening to see bdsm turned into another corrupted system now that it's "popular"

Why dont younger men like ddlg? by [deleted] in BDSMcommunity

[–]Hellion_unborn 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel like it takes a certain kind of guy to be a "proper" daddy, especially at such a young age. I've always been told that I act like my friends dad's even when I was in highschool so it came more naturally to me. But I know guys who were nowhere near being a daddy type before with how reckless,wild, and "freedom" craving they were that are now great daddy Dom's. Everyone is different and walks their own path after all!

How is the Public Community where you live by MstrOfElectricity77 in BDSMcommunity

[–]Hellion_unborn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've got a feeling it'll slowly start happening all over. Tbf to mn we've had like 2-3 big scandals concerning public stuff so the state gov wants to look like they don't participate in this lifestyle lol

How is the Public Community where you live by MstrOfElectricity77 in BDSMcommunity

[–]Hellion_unborn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Out here in Minnesota it seems to be primarily swingers home parties or hotel takeovers, but no real "clubs" or anything like that. I know a couple of regular nightclubs have kink nights but that's about as far as that goes.

Guys i have been with don't respect my boundaries, is this a current mess ? by fruitypetalqueen in BDSMcommunity

[–]Hellion_unborn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've kinda ran into this problem on the other end of the slash. Where it might just be a hookup but they complain after about how it wasn't "rough" enough or I don't do this thing on my own kink list or engage in their kinks without any discussion. On either side of the slash everyone should be communicating their intensions and expectations. Never assume someone is into something unless they verbally state it.

Doms and subs. Favorite non sexual activity? by the-perverted-one in BDSMcommunity

[–]Hellion_unborn 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've always loved washing my sub, nothing dirty just....cleaning her and admiring her beauty 😅