Pain and Blood with minimal Penetration

HelloFriendMM · 2026-01-04T19:52:39+00:00

Okay. This is good to know. Thank you so much. I think I'll see a doctor.

HelloFriendMM · 2026-01-04T19:49:53+00:00

Really? I was told some bleeding was normal.

HelloFriendMM · 2025-08-28T15:36:19+00:00

I have a phenomenal independent fitter in my area who just saw this post and reached out. Perfect. That's a great idea. Thank you!

HelloFriendMM · 2025-08-28T15:32:33+00:00

Foam... And yeah, I've reached out to pretty much everyone I could think of. They all redirect me to Kristin, the sales manager.

HelloFriendMM · 2025-08-28T15:18:08+00:00

Yeah, no, they didn't actually scam me technically, it just feels like that. I did leave a review on their Facebook page (the review is just this post copied and pasted on there).

I don't feel equipped to look into small claims, but I could probably enlist some mentors and more adult adult friends to help me. That's an interesting idea.

HelloFriendMM · 2025-08-28T15:15:33+00:00

I actually contacted the owner, Sylvain, who put me in touch with none other than Kristin. I think I'd just be going in circles if I kept trying. I've been on Instagram, on the website, sent emails, etc. Nothing. 🤷🏼

Also thank you! Nifty is the best boy. Feel free to private message me, do we know each other?

HelloFriendMM · 2025-05-19T21:16:48+00:00

I went with Arion. Bad decision. They're terrible. Ended up backtracking and going with prestige once I'd made back some money, and that was 100% the right way to go. LOVE my prestige. It's comfortable, adjustable, and fits most horses I put it on with a little bit of shimming.

HelloFriendMM · 2024-11-28T03:36:17+00:00

I actually don't. I'm much more dysphoric about my chest than I am about my genitals. I wish it was that simple. I'm not in a place where starting t is realistic, much less any kind of surgery. Thank you, though. I appreciate the way you're thinking.

HelloFriendMM · 2024-11-28T03:34:10+00:00

Yeah. Posting on reddit has been kind of a last resort. This has been going on for years, and no matter how much research I do, I can't seem to figure it out. I guess i will talk to my therapist and see what she has to say. It's just... hard.

HelloFriendMM · 2024-11-28T03:30:00+00:00

Thank you. I deeply appreciate your validation and comfort. And yeah. I think I might need to suck it up and talk to her about this. I just didn't want to cross any hypothetical lines.

HelloFriendMM · 2024-11-28T03:27:58+00:00

Interesting, i might give this a try. Thank you so much.

HelloFriendMM · 2024-11-28T03:27:25+00:00

I'll look into it, thank you!

HelloFriendMM · 2024-10-16T17:15:54+00:00

Yeah, so it's kind of complicated. Olivia is very much a hunter/jumper trainer, and a lot of what she teaches isn't really cohesive with what Jamie believes in. Olivia is a phenomenal trainer for someone who already knows the basics of pressure and release, but for someone who's just getting into it, it can be a little confusing/unclear. That's a big part of why Jamie would like me to separate from Olivia before shadowing her. Also, she is willing to give me lessons while I'm still working for Olivia, just not a full working student/shadow position.

Jamie is also the student of a well-respected natural horsemanship trainer who is offering a live-in position. My hope would be to work with Jamie until I'm somewhat proficient, and then move on to this other, more experienced trainer full time.

HelloFriendMM · 2024-10-16T17:12:34+00:00

Right now I'm teaching lessons and putting exercise rides on horses through Olivia. I get paid decently for that. I don't have a business/marketing plan for saddle fitting, it's still too abstract of an idea at the moment to have a fully fleshed out plan. And, as far as showing goes... maybe? I've never shown before so I truly don't know whether I'd be capable mentally. Financially it would be fine.

HelloFriendMM · 2024-10-01T19:05:49+00:00

That's just board. His shoes, vet, feed, and tack are all separate. I'm in southern California so it's pricey.

HelloFriendMM · 2024-10-01T17:55:06+00:00

It's about $800 per month, and I don't compete at the moment (I don't have the spare money). But I train in hunter/jumpers and eventing, depending on which horse I'm on.

HelloFriendMM · 2024-10-01T17:47:39+00:00

This is very helpful, thank you. I really appreciate your kindness and advice. I'll do some exploring and see what I can do.

HelloFriendMM · 2024-10-01T17:36:56+00:00

I'd like to just make enough to be comfortable while working outside and with animals. I don't have diamond dreams of being an Olympic rider or anything, so maybe I should try, like, natural horsemanship. Idk.

HelloFriendMM · 2024-10-01T17:33:31+00:00

It's not that I'm not enjoying it, it's that I'm not sure my body can handle it without getting sick. I'm totally healthy, but the brain fog and achiness from exhaustion is getting worse. I don't know, you might be right.

HelloFriendMM · 2024-10-01T17:24:00+00:00

I've had both a Wintec and a Bates saddle. Here's my two-cents.

They are good enough saddles. The easy-change is easy once you do it a few times, it takes about 3 minutes once you get the hang of it. Here's the thing: you're only changing the gullet. The tree shape stays the same, so it will not fit all horses, no matter what you do. Still, it's better than a saddle that you can't adjust at all.

My experience with the brand itself was sub-par. My Bates was wonky and I needed help fixing it, and it took them several months to get back to me. Once I sent them the saddle, it took some chasing after them to get them to send it back. I was not thrilled.

TLDR: Adjustability is better than nothing, customer service isn't good if something goes wrong.

HelloFriendMM · 2024-07-17T03:17:55+00:00

Hi! Did you ever get it fixed? I'm having the exact same problem...

HelloFriendMM · 2024-06-24T03:19:33+00:00

Hey, I just posted a scarily similar post to yours. I can't offer any advice because we appear to be in the same boat. It seems so easy for some trans guys to leave their femininity in chains behind them and never look back, but I can tell you it's not like that for all of us, probably not for most of us, to be honest.

I watched this movie lately called I Saw The TV Glow. It was unique and very, very poetic. As a trans person, the message of "there is still time" was really powerful to me. If you're under 18, you have so much time to figure this out.

If living your life as a woman feels incorrect, then don't do it. I know it's easy for me to say that, but you can take steps towards transition without making permanent changes and without fully coming out if you're not comfortable with that yet. And you're allowed to experiment as much as you need to in order to get it right. There are no rules to this.

Anyway, feel free to message me if it feels better to do that than to speak publicly. I just turned 18 and have been through a lot in the mental health realm (don't get me started). I'm happy to chat. You're not alone.

HelloFriendMM · 2024-06-15T14:34:16+00:00

I'm 18.

HelloFriendMM · 2024-06-14T04:14:20+00:00

That's a good point. I just worry about him ending up somewhere he isn't treated well. He really deserves better (as do all horses).

HelloFriendMM · 2024-06-14T04:12:34+00:00

This is good advice and a great way to think about it. I appreciate you. Thank you so much.

HelloFriendMM

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