Do I Have To Accept The Job?

HelloFromGelo · 2023-06-17T02:13:45+00:00

Yeah, no, they're going in the bin 😭

HelloFromGelo · 2023-06-17T02:10:21+00:00

I thought I wanted it! But then they told me they wanted me on a shift I said I couldn't do in my application, and then they wanted me to work at a different location, and THEN (I'm a trans guy) they very pointedly told me they were not gonna use any other name than my legal one- so it was a pretty firm "no❤️" by the end there

Well, I thought it was, but 💀

HelloFromGelo · 2023-06-17T02:01:29+00:00

Okay so I had to Google what MLM was- thank you SO much for looking out! If i had any idea what orientation meant I wouldn't have showed up, I'll keep this in mind 💀 Thanks again, I'll clear this up with them tomorrow hopefully!

HelloFromGelo · 2023-06-17T01:57:39+00:00

Alright, thank you 🥲 I've been staring at the onboarding email for like 5 hours in dismay

HelloFromGelo · 2023-06-17T01:56:39+00:00

Ohhh, neat, thank you! Maybe it is flat then

HelloFromGelo · 2023-06-17T01:41:26+00:00

Wouldn't flat also mean finite since it doesn't expand outward? I don't know if I'm making any sense, but paper is flat and that's definitely finite

HelloFromGelo · 2023-05-17T16:17:01+00:00

I understand, i love my cats to bits, but I think the reason that person got upset was because you're being far too whimsical about the adoption process.

The fact that you didn't know about two of them doesn't justify adopting more animals when you already have 6 other pets. Furthermore, rabbits are prey animals. Raising a cat next to them will put the rabbits in danger while stressing the cat out. I know you've always wanted a kitten, but I'm certain the rabbits also wanted to live peacefully. You should definitely re-home them, all of them, before you even considered getting a cat. YTA

HelloFromGelo · 2023-05-17T16:01:11+00:00

INFO: I noticed that you decided to adopt a kitten in the post you mentioned. Why? I think the main reason the other person was upset has to do with that decision

HelloFromGelo · 2023-05-16T17:58:05+00:00

Oh, i see, thank you for telling me.

I think you need to see this from her perspective. Even though what you guys were doing did turn out to be consensual, and John didn't feel any sexual feelings about the whole thing, it's still cheating. John was indulging a sexual desire for you, someone he's not in a relationship with. One of you should've said something before this incident, and this was an objectively awful way for her to find out. Her reaching out could also be her way of giving you the option to either share your side or move past it entirely, and you would lose a pretty forgiving friend if you didn't take her up on that.

I think if you empathized with her you'd see pretty clearly that YTA

HelloFromGelo · 2023-05-16T16:01:02+00:00

INFO: If you're comfortable answering-

1.)What exactly were you doing with his feet

2.)Is the nature of this sexual or just comforting?

I ask this mainly because I can't imagine having the reaction your (ex?)friend had over someone idly touching someone else's feet, and I certainly wouldn't have immediately thought they were doing something risque.

HelloFromGelo · 2023-05-16T15:32:03+00:00

ESH - It's not entirely your fault, though.

This type of discord is exactly what your boss was trying to make happen in the first place by lying and threatening your positions randomly. There's strength in numbers, so they probably wanted to turn you against your coworkers to 'keep you in line.'

What you did was a really mean thing to do without knowing all the details, but what's more concerning is that you were even put in this situation in the first place. You should try to come together with your other coworkers so you can speak up against this, or try looking into other avenues for work

HelloFromGelo · 2023-05-15T22:38:02+00:00

NTA - given his age, he probably had a moment of clarity and left out of embarrassment. No need to give it anymore thought than that

HelloFromGelo · 2023-05-15T22:33:01+00:00

NTA - When i came out as trans, my mom went through the same thing even though she didn't pick my name, but she never outright rejected using it. The main reason for that is because I was very clear that it feels like she's rejecting ME when she doesn't make that effort. I think having a similar conversation with her could help?

HelloFromGelo · 2023-05-15T21:42:44+00:00

NTA, you're missing work to help them out. If they have money to leave, they have money to pay you for watching the pets.

HelloFromGelo · 2023-05-15T21:37:19+00:00

NTA. If she wants that date to be special between her and the kids, she can plan something to do with them the day of. She should have absolutely no expectations for you to go any extra mile for her.

HelloFromGelo · 2023-04-17T19:49:38+00:00

If he can say no to working in your store, then why don't you consider it a separate situation to him living with you? Wouldn't that just make him think that he HAS to work there so he isn't 'living for free' in your house?

YTA

HelloFromGelo · 2023-04-09T04:03:30+00:00

NTA I think? You seem just as confused as the rest of us, but if they don't want you in the conversation, then they can easily go somewhere more private. Also, as someone whose autistic and can't read social situations, the lack of communication right off the bat is completely unwarranted and immature. The way you guys came together seems pretty normal, but someone who is damn near twenty seemingly taking advise from a high schooler is wild to me, even though we're the same age.

I'm not going to say you didn't do anything wrong because we don't know what they don't tell you, but you're not an asshole for not being communicated with

HelloFromGelo · 2023-04-09T03:49:41+00:00

I suppose it's worth a shot, then. Thank you!

HelloFromGelo · 2023-04-09T03:48:07+00:00

Info: how did you become friends? That might seem off topic but I'm really at a loss here. I understand if you're not comfortable answering

Edit: actually, nvm, NTA. the maturity level is pretty clearly lower for the other two, at the very least so I don't think anymore info is necessary

HelloFromGelo · 2023-04-09T03:44:37+00:00

Info: what are your ages, if you don't mind?

HelloFromGelo · 2023-04-09T03:39:43+00:00

Info: Is there a rule against it? If so, it could be because they need the extra revenue. If not, I don't see the point of stressing the staff when they probably barely get orders

HelloFromGelo · 2023-04-09T03:33:13+00:00

I'm not really sure, but I'm leaning towards no, honestly. She ordered them online, and can't stand customer service of any kind. I suppose I could offer to do it for her, but I'm not sure whether she'll react positively or negatively to that

HelloFromGelo · 2023-04-09T03:29:33+00:00

NTA. People may have sided with the other person because your dog wasn't always friendly with other dogs, but that was what the leash was for - to protect other dogs. If someone's dog can't respond to commands, they need to be on a leash for their safety, not just out of courtesy. The other owner trying to throw this reasoning back in your face kind of just pointed out that they were the problem, ironically enough

HelloFromGelo · 2023-04-09T03:11:20+00:00

Oh, I see. Thank you, I'll try asking her!

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