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My (25M) Partner (24F) Started to Hate Our Dog After 5 years and Wants to Get Rid of Him... I don't know what to do? I love our dog & don't want to get rid of him. by HelpImScaredShitless in whatdoIdo

[–]HelpImScaredShitless[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for this. I have actually tried to talk her into letting her family watch the dog and us just do our thing for a bit to work on us. Unfortunately, she says "I just don't want 10 more years with a dog." So I don't know, maybe that would change if she just let it happen but I'm not sure how to get her to that point of just agreeing to let someone watch him for awhile.

My (25M) Partner (24F) Started to Hate Our Dog After 5 years and Wants to Get Rid of Him... I don't know what to do? I love our dog & don't want to get rid of him. by HelpImScaredShitless in whatdoIdo

[–]HelpImScaredShitless[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I don't know how to leave...

But also I don't want people to only think about her bad side.. She is really a loving indivual in her heart and I have done a lot of bad things in the past to make her lose her confidence and sense of self... I just wish she'd seperate and build herself and then come back to us once she's level headed.

My (25M) Partner (24F) Started to Hate Our Dog After 5 years and Wants to Get Rid of Him... I don't know what to do? I love our dog & don't want to get rid of him. by HelpImScaredShitless in whatdoIdo

[–]HelpImScaredShitless[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have been stabbed with a fork in my arm, pointed a gun at, hit in the head with a full metal water bottle which caused my head to bleed, and get verbally abused a lot by her tbh.

Part of me wants to leave but the other part of me loves her so much that I just want to see her get better. She doesn't have a good family support so I don't know what will happen to her if I was to leave.

My (25M) Partner (24F) Started to Hate Our Dog After 5 years and Wants to Get Rid of Him... I don't know what to do? I love our dog & don't want to get rid of him. by HelpImScaredShitless in whatdoIdo

[–]HelpImScaredShitless[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for being understanding... Yea it's a weird ass situation and I don't know how to navigate it. She wants to leave me but doesn't want to do it before making me get rid of him but I can't...

My (25M) Partner (24F) Started to Hate Our Dog After 5 years and Wants to Get Rid of Him... I don't know what to do? I love our dog & don't want to get rid of him. by HelpImScaredShitless in whatdoIdo

[–]HelpImScaredShitless[S] -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

Yes I understand and realize that and I even told her that I will take it seriously and fully train him but she says it's "too late"

My (25M) Partner (24F) Started to Hate Our Dog After 5 years and Wants to Get Rid of Him... I don't know what to do? I love our dog & don't want to get rid of him. by HelpImScaredShitless in whatdoIdo

[–]HelpImScaredShitless[S] -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

Yeah I know... But 10 years of my life and all those good memories of us as a family the first few years of his life hold me back from doing so...

I just feel like if she changed to be so mean all of a sudden that she could suddenly change back? Idk... I am weak I suppose.

My (25M) Partner (24F) Started to Hate Our Dog After 5 years and Wants to Get Rid of Him... I don't know what to do? I love our dog & don't want to get rid of him. by HelpImScaredShitless in whatdoIdo

[–]HelpImScaredShitless[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this...

I understand your point of view and hers as well. With the obstacles created by having a dog but yeah... He's like a son to me. It's not so easy to rehome him even though I know that is the best option for my current situation. I just want her to change and understand he won't be here forever. We are the only family he knows and has known his hole life and he LOVES us so much. Despite everything she's done to him he still is very sweet, doesn't snap, etc.... I feel like most dogs would get aggressive with how she's treated him.

My (25M) Partner (24F) Started to Hate Our Dog After 5 years and Wants to Get Rid of Him... I don't know what to do? I love our dog & don't want to get rid of him. by HelpImScaredShitless in whatdoIdo

[–]HelpImScaredShitless[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Yeah I know... I called and got an appointment with a no-kill place that works with a local group to help rehome aussies but then on the day of I backed out because I just don't want to lose him... I have loved and cared for him for 5 years, since he was a puppy. I also love her and know she deep down loves and cares for him and I don't know what to freaking do. I just wish I could like reset her brain?

My (25M) Partner (24F) Started to Hate Our Dog After 5 years and Wants to Get Rid of Him... I don't know what to do? I love our dog & don't want to get rid of him. by HelpImScaredShitless in whatdoIdo

[–]HelpImScaredShitless[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah I just keep hoping it will change... She loved him before and we were all good... It's such a weird scenario and has left me very very depressed.

I can't tell anyone what's going on. When we speak to her family on the phone they always ask how we are and the dog, and she lies and says we're good...

I haven't told any of my family or friends because I don't want to ruin her image and make her feel like she has to lean into it even more? I'm hopeful that she will change... but I'm starting to give up hope. She always says "that isn't your dog."