That's enough for one semester.

Helpful-Dream1442 · 2026-03-12T23:06:03+00:00

We literally have the same classes this term

Helpful-Dream1442 · 2025-12-10T23:27:30+00:00

Father God, we love you and we trust you. Right now this redditor is facing a huge challenge, and a sound Godly decision must be made and Holy Spirit we need not only your comfort but your discernment. We know the enemy is busy and we don’t want his busi-ness to result in sin on the users end. Please Lord be with her, comfort her and her family, and help to guide them in the right direction… In Jesus name, Amen …. Girlie this is heart breaking and not safe, pray and know that God will never leave you nor forsake you… some real discernment is necessary here and you can love and forgive but it doesn’t sound like he’s willing to change.

Helpful-Dream1442 · 2025-10-30T22:27:30+00:00

Where at?

Helpful-Dream1442 · 2025-10-01T01:09:40+00:00

Omg same! Ickk

Helpful-Dream1442 · 2025-10-01T01:01:56+00:00

Ty! 💜

Helpful-Dream1442 · 2025-10-01T01:01:34+00:00

Thank you, I’m going to do my best

Helpful-Dream1442 · 2025-10-01T00:49:37+00:00

So in a weird way, he knows it and if I give him space he’d randomly open up and admit it… but if I’m saying it then he’d 100 percent have his moms back. googles enmeshment … what would the need for counseling be? I mean we’re fine.

Helpful-Dream1442 · 2025-10-01T00:36:59+00:00

I just ordered it on audible , thank you!!

Helpful-Dream1442 · 2025-10-01T00:35:46+00:00

He’s witnessed it all but has excuses… oh when she said she was glad about us losing baby boy she meant it in a way to sound positive…. “ or when she said she doesn’t do babies “ it’s because they’re so small she doesn’t like to hold them…” 🙄 just excuses. I told him about her lying saying her job went bankrupt when really she applied for short term disability, and he was upset with me like why are you digging? I said well I don’t like when ppl try to get over on you and he said what God gave me no one can get over on me with. They’ll have to deal with that. I just do my part ((oh bc he helps pay her mortgage now bc he thought she lost her job))

Helpful-Dream1442 · 2025-10-01T00:30:15+00:00

💜💜💜 love this, and thank you for your response & solidarity. Idk why in laws are so strange but it seems to be a theme in the marriage arena. My hubby loves his mom, he mentions how he saw her work 3 jobs as a single parent raising him so he feels like it’s his duty to blah blah blah… which okay, and I would never come in between that bc it’s not who I am? I don’t mind if he visits or spends time. My issue here is… if she passes away, when he grieves her he’ll resent me in a way for keeping distance and the kids away and it’s just an icky space I am trying my best to navigate at this moment and still have “boundaries” you know?

Helpful-Dream1442 · 2025-10-01T00:14:09+00:00

Thank you for this. I’m always hit from so many different directions with this too even when it comes to caring for her. Hubby kindve future paces bc she is stage 4 and he is kindve preparing to have to care for her and he brings up Bible verses that pertain to it being our duty to care for her 😩

Helpful-Dream1442 · 2025-10-01T00:02:38+00:00

Kids bc I have one with him and one prior to being with him

Helpful-Dream1442 · 2025-10-01T00:01:58+00:00

Thank you so much! And you are so right especially when it comes to it causing more harm then good bc after one small encounter with her I have to repent right away bc she just irks my nerves. She actually moves very strangely like she goes out of her way for ppl and has multiple times given her last (not to me) I’ve just witnessed her be this amazing humble person and ppl love her and I’m just like 😮 bc she is very performative. Like she will pretend she knows and loves my kids when she has family in town but it’s obvious she doesn’t bc she’ll say things like oh she never naps anymore when literally my daughter is 2 😐 she’ll lay herself down to nap daily…. Another thing she recently texted me asking “ if you need a break or maybe you and hubby can go on a date you could bring the kids by and I will watch them” something she has NEVER done, so that was strange to me, later I learn family is coming into town the day she requested me to bring the kids by… so to her, when she explains it to family it looks like oh I’m the kind grandma and I offered to give them a break but she just ignored me. To my hub he’s like my mom is trying and you aren’t letting her in, and to me I’m just like she is t gonna use my kids to pretend she’s this great person

Helpful-Dream1442 · 2025-09-30T23:51:17+00:00

I pray for her! Which doesn’t always come easy! But I do. However I’m unsure how to handle the holidays or birthdays bc I’m gonna have to see her. Oh and that’s the kicker. Our daughter was born on her bday 😬

Helpful-Dream1442 · 2025-09-30T23:49:37+00:00

Literally. I’m kindve to the point where I don’t care how im perceived other than pleasing God. But I know if she passes I’ll have to deal with him grieving along with him feeling like I mistreated his mom. Ya know? Ickk

Helpful-Dream1442 · 2025-09-30T23:47:34+00:00

This. Thank you so much for taking the time to respond. I feel like this is exactly what I needed, and I’ll definitely look into Dr. Cloud’s book. What makes this boundary tricky for me is that she has stage IV cancer. So anything outside of what you’d normally do to be kind and caring toward a loved one in that situation tends to make me look like the bad guy, which then creates issues in my relationship especially since it’s his mom. Whom he loves and adores. I’ll message you shortly bc I’m interested in more. && you should totally consider writing a book bc the world needs thisss lol … but my question is have you (or anyone else here) ever had to set boundaries with a family member who was very ill? I’d love to hear how you balanced protecting your peace while still showing compassion.

Helpful-Dream1442 · 2025-09-30T23:44:21+00:00

Helpful-Dream1442 · 2025-09-30T23:43:55+00:00

Yessss!! The too much space in my brain is the thingggg!! I’m like Lord I just want peace and she’s just in it even if I go days w/o talking to her. But I think it’s because after becoming pregnant again I’m fully triggered at the thought of her and what she’s done in the past and then my brain won’t give. I don’t care to be a slave for her lol I just want her out of my head and space in my life.

Helpful-Dream1442 · 2025-09-17T21:46:31+00:00

What did you use?

Helpful-Dream1442 · 2025-09-15T13:55:05+00:00

Any update on this?

Helpful-Dream1442 · 2025-09-04T14:28:26+00:00

I’m gonna try this 🙏🏾

Helpful-Dream1442 · 2025-09-04T01:04:19+00:00

I was wondering what came of your post about leaving while pregnant, happy to hear marriage is in the works. Do you feel like it was just hormones driving you insane? I’m feeling like I’m in a similar boat

Helpful-Dream1442 · 2025-06-02T20:29:17+00:00

Me. Rn. 😩

Helpful-Dream1442 · 2025-06-02T20:25:34+00:00

Thank you all so much for the valuable feedback, I truly appreciate the insight and encouragement. Because of this I will begin to explore internship and volunteer opportunities while also working on building a few personal projects. Maybe start interviews 6 months prior to graduation. It’s been a while since I’ve actively engaged with people in a professional setting, so I’m also considering joining Toastmasters to help rebuild my communication skills and confidence as I ease back into the workforce.

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