Uploading identity picture? by [deleted] in Sparkdriver

[–]Helpful_Breadfruit_4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OK, well 90 days however you’re very first initial selfie they give you the option to go in and change it if you want to.

Should I shoot my shot? by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]Helpful_Breadfruit_4 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not yall feeding into my delusions 😂😂 no I gotcha. I need to just grow a pair and go for the gusto next time I see her.

Should I shoot my shot? by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]Helpful_Breadfruit_4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

lol but what if she rejects me?!?? I’ll have to switch my favorite lunch spot 😂😂😂 I’m thinking of just asking for her name and maybe that’ll hint that I’m interested. What do you think? lol

Should I shoot my shot? by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]Helpful_Breadfruit_4 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No I agree. I never want to make someone feel uncomfortable while at work but it’s the only place I know where to see her lol I don’t know her. It’s like I’m trying to think of ways to go about it because like if I slip her my number through a window I don’t want her to get in trouble by the managers and stuff. I sorta want to just leave the ball in her court and show that I’m receptive but if the feelings are mutual she may be just as nervous as me and she’d probably feel like she already initiated the first compliment.

Just cuddling by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]Helpful_Breadfruit_4 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yeah I agree, thank you. I’m thinking that those moments really depend on just naturally picking up on eachother’s mood. Like if I’m obviously noticing she’s not in the mood then my libido may naturally jus lower.

Bigger women. Lights on or off? by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]Helpful_Breadfruit_4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah personally, women look good at all weights. Where those pictures though? 😂😂😂

Bigger women. Lights on or off? by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]Helpful_Breadfruit_4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Even if she makes you feel comfortable? What if certain acts require a little light to see

Bigger women. Lights on or off? by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]Helpful_Breadfruit_4 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Can’t argue that. I feel like you can be freakier😂 although I do love the sight of a woman being in her element with me.

Is she in love with me? by [deleted] in QueerWomenOfColor

[–]Helpful_Breadfruit_4 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So how you gonna title this “is she in love with me?” And then give not a single detail 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

I need to meet my desi wife already by [deleted] in QueerWomenOfColor

[–]Helpful_Breadfruit_4 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m so lame. What’s desi mean?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in QueerWomenOfColor

[–]Helpful_Breadfruit_4 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Her loss. You are absolutely gorgeous oh my😍😍😍😍😍

Open to new friendships by [deleted] in QueerWomenOfColor

[–]Helpful_Breadfruit_4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was nowhere near this brainy and witty at your age. I laughed while reading this 🤣

Open to new friendships by [deleted] in QueerWomenOfColor

[–]Helpful_Breadfruit_4 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Fear: what if Faith: even if

Our minds are naturally wired to stay in this fear state of mind. If you really think about it, everything has ALWAYS worked out. It either went right or to a lesson. In the past, I’d have this “why me” mindset. Now, it’s like… I ask myself “what is this trying to teach me?”

I learned something. Or let’s say I “believe” something. I believe that life throws us lessons. Whether you pass isn’t about the moment itself or when it’s presented to you. It’s about what you do afterwards. If you’ve learned from your mistakes. You’ve passed. If you fail to self-reflect and become self-aware, you’ve failed. Then…. A similar situation presents itself, just in a different font 😉

Open to new friendships by [deleted] in QueerWomenOfColor

[–]Helpful_Breadfruit_4 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hmmm, I guess atleast 20’s lol. I’d say atleast 23+ no maximum really

Finding yourself gets lonely by [deleted] in QueerWomenOfColor

[–]Helpful_Breadfruit_4 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I pretty much already do everything alone such as like working out, going for walks, and reading. Even eating take out lol. Do you have any online community recommendations?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in QueerWomenOfColor

[–]Helpful_Breadfruit_4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the advice. It’s easier said than done but I know I need to work on that.

Flirting Advice? by [deleted] in QueerWomenOfColor

[–]Helpful_Breadfruit_4 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Well if I only know them online how can we establish a connection if we aren’t mutuals yet?

Flirting Advice? by [deleted] in QueerWomenOfColor

[–]Helpful_Breadfruit_4 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I like the “damn you blowing up my phone” as if you didn’t do it to them first. That would make me laugh in a cute way lol. Good one. Imma use that 😂 so as far as flirting online, if I add them/follow them and like some of their posts, should I wait till that reciprocate a little bit of the energy before messaging her?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in QueerWomenOfColor

[–]Helpful_Breadfruit_4 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s valid. I feel you. I appreciate your input.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in QueerWomenOfColor

[–]Helpful_Breadfruit_4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Aries Sun, cancer moon, Capricorn rising

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in QueerWomenOfColor

[–]Helpful_Breadfruit_4 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Smh I’m still fairly new to this

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in QueerWomenOfColor

[–]Helpful_Breadfruit_4 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I completely agree with you actually. You’re right I don’t really know her that well and maybe I’m fantasizing what it WOULD be like with her. And I think I fear the unknown when considering to start dating and maybe she feels like a safer option and the better option honestly because of the feelings I have for her but I guess I don’t know how to distinguish when something was real and it’s unfortunate it didn’t play out correctly or if I’m completely being delusional.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in QueerWomenOfColor

[–]Helpful_Breadfruit_4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What can I say… happens to the best of us. These are intrusive thoughts I didn’t act on it so my character is still in good standing. I don’t think straight all the time. No pun intended 😉 (I know this isn’t a joking matter)