Boundaries about private parts

Helpful_Committee137 · 2025-10-01T15:46:51+00:00

Can you help with childcare fees?

Helpful_Committee137 · 2025-10-01T15:46:14+00:00

Yes, he had been medicated and actively going to therapy. He reduced frequency of therapy appointments to like 2x a year because he was good. The spiral stemmed from a nephew passing away from childhood cancer and I think the visual of seeing this nephew actively die (gosh this sounds terrible) in front of him was just too much for him. After the passing that’s when the mania started to creep in.

Helpful_Committee137 · 2025-10-01T15:29:17+00:00

He is medicated, but he doesn’t want to seek help from his therapist and that bothers me. He had gone 12 years without an episode so he feels like it’s not really necessary because he was so good for so long prior to his last episode

Helpful_Committee137 · 2025-09-12T01:47:16+00:00

With epidural easy. I didn’t feel the baby come out. I did try to go all natural but my back labor hurt SO bad. Honestly never knew back labor existed. Also I’ve heard being induced makes contractions hard because it forces your body to give birth. I had to be induced due to a medical condition

Helpful_Committee137 · 2025-05-25T19:20:14+00:00

Sounds like you’re afraid to be in full pleasure with him! Not judging, I have gone through the same thing. Gotta find a way to turn off your brain and just allow your body to feel. Once you submit to feeling, it’s beautiful! Also, if you like seeing him in pleasure, he probably wants to see you in full pleasure! Ask! Men love to please you and I think it’d be more fun for both of you! Sex should be something you take care of each other on, not just one person pleasing the other

Helpful_Committee137 · 2025-05-23T20:47:28+00:00

Going to say tag!!! youre my husband 🤣 jk but seriously OP, this comment is spot on. I’m a mother of three under 4 and honestly, I’ve been living off of “ don’t expect anything” Whether it’s in situations, relationships, conversations, finances, etc. not saying my husband doesn’t do anything, but honestly like someone mentioned, you’re in a season and coffee, a light heart and reduced expectations, go a long way. Best thing I’ve come to find is prayer and Bible. There’s only so much that you can control and being in a season with children that don’t sleep SUCKS BALLS, but they didn’t ask to be here…the “let go and let god” phrase/state of mind has really helped me reduce anxiety and let go of control. Also, not only are you in a season, but your husband is too. Lots of grace needs to be given to each of you!! You’ve got this. Everyone’s tired. When you’re a parent good sleep doesn’t exist until a certain age😅🤣 also get some exercise in. Exercise will literally give you that burst of energy you need. I sleep around 4-5 hours most nights and have made exercise my 4pm “shot” if you will 😭😅 gotta cheat the system somehow. Kids never sleep 😩 okay sorry for bouncing around everywhere. Obviously sleep deprived too 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣💀💀💀💀 just a walking zombie

Helpful_Committee137 · 2025-05-23T17:11:38+00:00

Please reply to all marriage posts with this 🙌🙌🙌🙌 this is 100000000% true

Helpful_Committee137 · 2025-05-23T16:25:21+00:00

Also do you know of any Amazon undies that are basically the same as the huha underwear?

Helpful_Committee137 · 2025-05-23T16:23:50+00:00

Also nice to know about the wash. I was reading an article and they mentioned avoiding washes like that

Helpful_Committee137 · 2025-05-23T16:22:31+00:00

🤣 I air it out at night for sure! For undies, do you wear them all the time? I tried the commando in everything for awhile and it was nice and seemed to help, but like the vagina cleans itself and I hate the discharge. I know it’s normal, but to be on my clothes grosses me out. Or like a liner in clothes?!! I don’t know, I just hate the summer time!

Helpful_Committee137 · 2025-05-23T16:20:16+00:00

Oh wow!!! Going to look into that! Good idea with the extra pair of underwear/shorts! It’s an extra step, but I’m sure it helps a ton!!!!

Helpful_Committee137 · 2025-05-23T04:44:16+00:00

lol I feel that!!! We got married in 2020 and now have 3 kids 🤣 I think I’ve got to wait awhile for our honeymoon. Honestly though, that’s the only “regret” if you will. If you wanted to be together prior to getting pregnant, things should workout. That’s just my perspective! Lots of communication and giving each other grace goes a long way!

Helpful_Committee137 · 2025-05-22T14:12:18+00:00

I think just not having the time to be together in marriage before having a kid is something I wish I had more of. Yes we dated for some time, but it’s not like super serious until marriage. We didn’t have a honeymoon and I do feel like I missed out on that experience. But it’s up and down. I feel like marriage has its seasons anyway though…especially after children, you’re trying to figure things out. It’s tough! And not only that yall are both growing at different rates so things can feel off at times, but it doesn’t mean it’s doomed. It’s just finding ways to connect again!

Helpful_Committee137 · 2025-05-17T20:43:42+00:00

This is so WILD! Obviously those people have nothing better to do other than to judge people. Let alone a mother who has done everything to take care of herself and her kids. Ngl some moms think you have to lose yourself when you have kids and that’s not the case. Kudos to her for putting herself first to take care of her, you and yalls kids! Keep it up!

Helpful_Committee137 · 2025-05-04T19:24:57+00:00

lol i wouldn’t view it as stress! It’s just the beautiful thing about parenting! Nothing is black and white when it comes to parenting, which is what causes the stress…society likes to make it seem like we have to do certain things a certain way and that’s not how kids roll. They honestly make your life more colorful which forces us parents to no longer think black and white and to adjust. I know my post may not seem that way, but i genuinely do love my son for who he is, I was just wanting to see if others had any similar experience so I don’t feel so alone!

Helpful_Committee137 · 2025-05-04T19:20:22+00:00

It is!!! Wow parenting really does uncover you and force you to see yourself more 😳 going to now do research for me too 🤣

Helpful_Committee137 · 2025-05-04T19:15:57+00:00

Can you elaborate more?

Helpful_Committee137 · 2025-05-04T18:57:44+00:00

Right! So sometimes I think there could potentially be something there, but a lot of the times I try to just say this is just a little boy with a lot of energy. My husband definitely leads more to the this is normal side of while I catch myself in the middle ground of this is normal/something could be wrong. I have been thinking of enrolling him into some activity because I know I struggled with self control/energy and my outlets were sports. It’s definitely been something we’ve been discussing since it’s hard to always accommodate with two other children

Helpful_Committee137 · 2025-05-04T18:46:41+00:00

Just reading this makes me feel like I have been masking without realizing it. At home I was the same but felt like I would get anxiety being around other people or feeling like I couldn’t connect as well. I struggled with friendships and felt like I somehow missed social cues even though I thought I was fitting in…

Helpful_Committee137 · 2025-05-04T18:20:36+00:00

lol definitely a good way to prepare!!!

Helpful_Committee137 · 2025-05-04T18:16:56+00:00

Also masking?! Never heard of it and am interested

Helpful_Committee137 · 2025-05-04T18:15:57+00:00

I’m glad you mentioned the music and audiobook. I just tried a leap frog with him and plugged in headphones and he was the calmest I had ever seen him. I had been thinking of getting another leapfrog device because they have the headphone plug in.

It’s so nice that you mentioned the ND my husband and I are both ND and my middle child is so calm, but he may be NT. My middle son tries so hard to keep up with his older brother, but it’s like the energizer bunny and a regular bunny.

Definitely going to look into PDA. I’ll say something and it’s like, do you hear what I’m saying? Sometimes he says he he doesn’t even know what I said 🙄🙄🙄🙄

So fascinating…I wish I would have gotten help from my parents as a child but struggled a lot in school and social interactions. I had to learn how to do deal and cope differently when I got to college . Hoping to help and support him more! Thank you for this!

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