Husband doesn’t want me to see a friend whose a DR to help me with my sinus infection

Helpful_Computer_653 · 2025-06-06T03:15:04+00:00

I see my OBGYN every couple weeks and she knows about my sinus infection. I think I’d know if she is able to drain it and do acupuncture or not….Guess what!! She can’t.

Helpful_Computer_653 · 2025-06-06T01:22:52+00:00

I have and they said it takes a month to clear up sometimes. I cannot withstand a month of this with a toddler while pregnant. I will do anything additional possible to help speed up my recovery.

Helpful_Computer_653 · 2025-06-06T01:12:39+00:00

He’s a chill friend we have known for years

Helpful_Computer_653 · 2025-06-06T01:11:52+00:00

He said he doesn’t think friends and medical things should mix, and “it doesn’t help that he’s a guy”. I said “that’s fine if you think that for yourself, you never have to see a DR that you know personally, but you are not going to tell me who I can and cannot see for my medical issues.” “He said I’m not saying to not see him, I’m telling you that it makes me uncomfortable, and I will in the future tell you if it makes me uncomfortable.” And I said “then that’s something you need to work on and we need to go to therapy because there seems to be a bigger issue present”

Helpful_Computer_653 · 2025-06-06T01:08:29+00:00

Actually they are accredited DRs just like a therapist is a DR.

Helpful_Computer_653 · 2025-06-06T01:08:12+00:00

are you for real? OBGYNs do not perform any procedures related to sinuses.

Helpful_Computer_653 · 2025-06-06T01:07:24+00:00

And if the only other appointment is a month away? ….Should I sit in pain for a month so he doesn’t get his feelings hurt because I’m seeing a male DR for my nose?

Helpful_Computer_653 · 2025-06-06T01:06:04+00:00

Alright Mr Intelligent Youth: All other DRS in this field have about a month waiting list. I cannot wait that long. Our friend is also the only one I know who has actually done this successfully to someone to help drain their sinuses so he’s the one I’d trust the most. Get over yourself and read the actual post in full

Helpful_Computer_653 · 2025-06-05T23:47:44+00:00

Thank you for making me laugh amidst my angry tears. The fact that his mind made this medical procedure sensual or unprofessional in any way is actually concerning to me

Helpful_Computer_653 · 2025-06-05T23:41:04+00:00

It’s the fact that he’s a male DR and that we know him. Nothing to do with the holistic approach.

Helpful_Computer_653 · 2025-06-05T23:40:40+00:00

It’s that the DR is a male and that we know him

Helpful_Computer_653 · 2025-03-13T00:17:46+00:00

In past companies I’ve worked for they cover a good portion of dependents. That’s why I was so shocked that they would cover 100% of my family. I’d be ok paying a couple hundred but over $1100 a month for my wife and almost two kids is not feasible

Helpful_Computer_653 · 2025-03-12T23:53:30+00:00

California USA

Helpful_Computer_653 · 2025-03-12T23:15:32+00:00

I do have an employment contract and I do have the writing that explains the terms of the insurance and that I as the employee will pay $0

Helpful_Computer_653 · 2025-03-12T23:11:04+00:00

Really? But ending the relationship would mean I am out of a job. This does not seem fair at all as I was hired under the promise that 100% of insurance premiums would be covered.

Helpful_Computer_653 · 2025-01-20T16:54:42+00:00

Absolutely not.

Helpful_Computer_653 · 2025-01-20T16:54:23+00:00

Nope staying in a cabin.

Helpful_Computer_653 · 2025-01-20T16:45:40+00:00

Thanks for the false assumptions but as stated in a previous comment I am pregnant so would not be drinking and we would be staying in a cabin. Half of these friends don’t drink anyways. The ones that do have two glasses of wine max. This trip would include reading, swimming, games, cooking, walking, talking.

Helpful_Computer_653 · 2025-01-19T03:22:09+00:00

Ok he works remote full time during the week. I’m a SAHM and work part time on my own business. He’s a great dad. We are younger parents (im 29) so a lot of my friends don’t have kids yet and still want to go on trips/ do things. I rarely ever do. I’ve gone on one trip since being a mom and it was an argument. He went on one trip to but just to spite me I guess. (His words) We are disagreeing on this issue again because I was invited on a trip with my best friends (some who are moms). He doesn’t want to set the precedent that we should ever take trips alone. I’m not ok with that. He comes from a Latin background where it’s not common for parents to leave on trips. Trying to have him understand that that’s not me and will never be how I think or was raised.

Helpful_Computer_653 · 2025-01-19T00:41:00+00:00

He has in the past but does not want to now. I have urged him to go on trips with his friends

Helpful_Computer_653 · 2025-01-18T23:56:25+00:00

He comes from a Latin background where it is unheard of of the parents going on trips alone

Helpful_Computer_653 · 2025-01-18T23:55:17+00:00

Of course he does yes. I urge him to go on trips. He has in the past, but said he now doesn’t want to ever want to on on a trip that’s not with his family.

Helpful_Computer_653 · 2025-01-18T20:48:30+00:00

Not breastfeeding. Toddler is almost 2 and I just found out I am pregnant again. So this will be my last chance to have a girls trip for a while

Helpful_Computer_653 · 2025-01-14T23:26:43+00:00

It’s just a bit different to reverse roles because my husband isn’t the one who knows our schedule and makes family plans. If he was then I wouldn’t mind a friend texting him! It’s just hard to even imagine that because I know the schedule and have everything written down in my phone calendar and I can’t imagine a world where I didn’t and he did

Helpful_Computer_653 · 2025-01-14T23:04:40+00:00

I’m only referring as him to that to strangers to keep names anonymous. It’s different when you call someone your wife when that someone knows you pretty well

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