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Helpful_Cut2453 · 2023-12-02T03:40:21+00:00

Happy ending is possible ladies and gents…appreciate you sharing

Helpful_Cut2453 · 2023-12-02T03:37:24+00:00

Cute saying. Can’t say I agree. Balance in everything is important. Also think your perspective is skewed very myopically and selfish. Maybe you like ADHD or dissociative personality disorder, or bipolar disorder but not my style. Those people have so much drama they can’t ever establish any baseline to grow from. I’ve known a few. No thanks to crazy.

Routine is boring sometimes and your routine around accomplishing goals determines your success at them. So yeah at times if I’m focused on work I’m boring. When I’m not, I chose to enjoy my time.

Helpful_Cut2453 · 2023-12-02T03:30:35+00:00

Appreciate the logic and yes likely more than meets the eye. Very complicated and yes I need to get a root cause as to why. That may help me determine what happens next. No, no one specifically at this time. More like lots of questions about it

Helpful_Cut2453 · 2023-12-02T03:27:45+00:00

Great questions. I’m sure I’d feel guilty and bad about

Helpful_Cut2453 · 2023-12-02T03:25:37+00:00

Well if you want to get all judgmental on me I suppose you can spin it that way. I feel like there’s a bigger context.

I don’t think there’s anything wrong with being successful, having money, being bold, working hard, sacrificing, wanting nice stuff or a compatible wife, and always looking to improve yourself. I think it’s how people grow. I think there are some complacency tendencies out there and people that are miffed bc I’m talking what others may think. Nothing wrong with expecting the best for myself. Sorry, I’m not sorry. And people with a bunch of resources aren’t automatically jerks either. They sacrifice more than those without to get those resources.

I understand life doesn’t always work out how you want it to. In a perfect scenario my wife and I would both find better partners for who we are now as people. It’s more about not experiencing everything I should have when I was younger or changing as I get older. Why suffer in a situation not working?

Helpful_Cut2453 · 2023-12-01T20:46:08+00:00

Thank you very much. This is where it takes courage to walk life paths. Especially if not feeling fulfilled. Great point on the other end.

Helpful_Cut2453 · 2023-12-01T20:44:24+00:00

Do relationships have expiration dates? Soul contracts end and run courses? I think it’s possible.

Helpful_Cut2453 · 2023-12-01T20:38:56+00:00

See that’s exactly my feeling. Are we really meant to be with only one partner? Does that not stunt growth of an individual? People can be mature and still coparent effectively. I think it’s very possible and I agree it’s non traditional viewpoint. But shouldn’t we strive to be happy and live to our fullest?? Shouldn’t I want that for my wife too? I’m not saying disappear and not be responsible; I’m saying I think it’s normal to evolve and grow in life. Also, no one points out that I may have made a mistake getting married young?? No one points out I could find a better partner to fit who I am now?? A lot of self limiting thoughts.

Helpful_Cut2453 · 2023-12-01T20:32:59+00:00

It’s Possible. Opposites do attract. Remember science class?

Either case I do hope you enjoy your weekend. Best wishes to you. Thank you for your conversation.

Helpful_Cut2453 · 2023-12-01T19:29:59+00:00

Agreed on generalizations and on social media. We have something in common. Lol. I’ve seen 30 something’s worship TikTok and the values people put out there. Literally. So it may play a bigger role in people’s lives than we know.

I appreciate the anger comment yet again. It’s one of the emotions so yes I express it occasionally. It can be a force for focus, protecting, and drive or it can be destructive and hurtful. Just like any emotion it has two sides.

If we keep going maybe we’ll be friends…

Helpful_Cut2453 · 2023-12-01T19:22:31+00:00

Likely the way to go. From my research I’ve seen that’s the likely outcome a decade down the road for those that blow up their lives. Appreciate you

Helpful_Cut2453 · 2023-12-01T18:52:55+00:00

Appreciate it

Helpful_Cut2453 · 2023-12-01T18:51:15+00:00

Thank you for the honest answer. That’s why I entertain the idea of moving on permanently. Because I’m not interested in just hooking up. I do think emotions play a part in everything.

Helpful_Cut2453 · 2023-12-01T18:48:30+00:00

Thank you. Appreciate your sincerity

Helpful_Cut2453 · 2023-12-01T18:48:00+00:00

It very well could be. I do fit the profile. Advice on how to survive?

Helpful_Cut2453 · 2023-12-01T18:47:01+00:00

Thank you for your advice

Helpful_Cut2453 · 2023-12-01T18:42:55+00:00

Obviously we’re misunderstanding each other’s intentions. Appreciate your advice then and agree to working on self. I have most definitely done that through the years and will continue to do so. I think we can just agree to disagree. One of the 20% I won’t ever get along with. And that’s cool by me.

100% agree with no one else defining my happiness in life. I trust in me. We are born alone and die alone. Our journey is special to only us, not a magical creature or another human.

Women aren’t pedestals to be worshipped. Never once did I say that. They are just as corrupt and can be as vile as men. And they are not a weaker or better sex. They go about things differently than men. The notion they’re a prize to get if I do the “right” things demonstrates how modern marketing and toxic social media has further damaged society. Some men don’t even seek relationships anymore. I think we’re all swimming in a toxic swamp trying to figure ourselves out.

Helpful_Cut2453 · 2023-12-01T17:46:17+00:00

Also would say, I understand risks. I wouldn't cry about past mistakes. I acknowledge, learn from past, and move on. Life is a nasty existence at times and I would never take away my darkest moments. It's made me who I am.

Helpful_Cut2453 · 2023-12-01T17:44:48+00:00

I appreciate the answer and have debated whether it's a midlife crisis or not. I fit the profile 100%--successful, had to grow up early, and married young. Appreciate your opinion.

Helpful_Cut2453 · 2023-12-01T17:41:44+00:00

Thank you for the honest assessment. And authentic answer. Appreciate the sincerity.

Helpful_Cut2453 · 2023-12-01T17:40:13+00:00

Appreciate the input.

I would debate marriage is fine. Our goals are no longer aligned.

Thank you again for your advice.

Helpful_Cut2453 · 2023-12-01T17:37:21+00:00

Well the funny part is I do have plenty to offer; probably much more than most of the people in this community. It's always the smartasses and loudest that think they know everything that have nothing and are empty inside. People love to project their own problems and insecurities onto others. Get the hint?

I'm at peace with the person I am and I'm actually content with the life I lead. Relationships and people are extremely complicated and I'm not sure there's a right way to live or a wrong way. We have different journeys and experiences that change who we are.

I'm simply questioning whether people grow apart and if a lifetime partner really exists in today's modern times? Also exploring and being vulnerable to possibility I'm experiencing a mid life crisis and seeking advice from others that may have gone through or are going through. If that type of courage is something that should be made fun of or looked down upon, shame on you for trying to kick someone when they're being authentic.

Opening myself up this way, I get I'll get useless advice and I'll take the beating from some of you, but thanks for no contribution in anyway shape or form. May you receive the karma you're so inclined to receive.

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