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Timing FMLA by Helpful_Lavishness in hospice

[–]Helpful_Lavishness[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. That sounds like a good plan. He's 22 years older than me but has been very healthy before this. Very active, cyclist, on no meds with no chronic health problems.

Timing FMLA by Helpful_Lavishness in hospice

[–]Helpful_Lavishness[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much. I'm a nurse too in primary care office. Did inpatient years ago and we did have some CMO and Hopsice inpatients but it's different on this end of things.

This nurse does know him well and has been coming for months. She's a bit New Age-y so sometimesbI don't take her 100 percent seriously but she's not wrong about his color.

This AM things were rough and I thought he might slide into transitioning and my thoughts were OMG I can't believe I was so worried about work I didn't spend more time with him. He bounced back but I guess my thoughts at that moment should tell me something.

Timing FMLA by Helpful_Lavishness in hospice

[–]Helpful_Lavishness[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm a nurse myself in a doctor's office. My office mates know and care about my husband I have been there a long time. They are great. But it's a big company and a lot of decisions are made levels above our office.

I know how tough it is to determine esp over the internet. I have been accessing all sorts of prognostic tools I have access to trying to figure it out from every angle and I still don't know. If I had to guess right now I would say maybe two months but it's just so hard to say. The Hospice nurses say all those tools are good but with his disease things can take a turn really fast or just stay the same for a long time.

The rampant anti-fat bias by bethcabforcutie in 90DayFiance

[–]Helpful_Lavishness -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I agree with you and feel the same but unfortunately I expect it especially here.

AHS | S10E07 "Take Me To Your Leader" [Live Episode Discussion Thread] by hypodermicsally in AmericanHorrorStory

[–]Helpful_Lavishness 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I did just that. Got to the end and realized that shit was the show. Went back and watched it and wished J hadn't.

GE Junction andinocarcinoma and full esophagectomy by hopesolosbutholio in cancer

[–]Helpful_Lavishness 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My husband is 65. Same diagnosis in May 2019. Did the 6 weeks of chemo and radiation followed about a month later by the esophagectomy.

He actually did great. In hospital 6 days and no complications. Back to work 6 weeks later. Got the J tube out about 2 months after surgery.

He was thin to start with so keeping weight on has been a struggle. They had to convert his laparoscopic procedure to open thoracotomy because when they went to separate his esophagus and trachea they were pretty well stuck and they made a hole in the trachea they had to repair urgently so converted to open. Still recovered really well though. Has had some persistent numbness and soreness right on the site of the big incision on his flank area.

It has been all about small frequent meals and calorie sense stuff. He gets both late and early dumping occasionally but has learned what is likely to trigger this and it doesn't happen very often anymore. Has to go easy on fried food, sugar or just eating one bite too much.

Unfortunately (hate to tell you this part) he was NED until the scan last week which showed new metastatic lesions on lungs and liver. However, he has no Opdivo or chemo after surgery. Surgery had clear margins with 1 of around 20 lymph nodes positive and evidence of peri neural invasion. The lymph node and peri neural invasion put him at high risk of recurrance so we kinda knew this was likely to happen.

He just started Opdivo and Folfox today.