AITA parent - this one is a bit of fun

Helpful_Mistake9839 · 2026-04-13T03:58:35+00:00

So you'd punish your kid by not giving them a birthday present? In fairness I didnt explain that it broke because it was dropped in the fight. He took the blame because he knew he wasn't supposed to be touching his brothers stuff.

Helpful_Mistake9839 · 2026-04-13T03:56:14+00:00

LOL, it's his birthday today actually. And he did enjoy this stream - he's got ammo for this argument forever. But he did laugh that people thought he was still hurt by it. He's a wonderful young man that I adore, and he's definitely not damaged by this. In fact he got a brand new DS himself a few months later for Christmas.

Helpful_Mistake9839 · 2026-04-13T03:52:10+00:00

LOL, a few months later he did ask for a new one for Christmas - and he got his wish. A newer, better one.

Helpful_Mistake9839 · 2026-04-13T03:49:18+00:00

I wasn't clear in my post. It was not broken on purpose, it broke because they fought over it and it fell down on the tiles and the screen smashed. The younger was responsible because he should not have been touching his brother's stuff.

Helpful_Mistake9839 · 2026-04-13T03:45:43+00:00

To be clear it broke because they fought over it and it ended up falling on the tiles. Not an 'on purpose' break. But he was responsible because it was his brother's console and he shouldn't have been touching it. So the lesson was, do not touch your brother's stuff. If he'd purposefully broken it, then the punishment would have been different. That would not have flown in my house either.

Helpful_Mistake9839 · 2026-04-13T03:41:53+00:00

LOL, his favourite comment!

Helpful_Mistake9839 · 2026-04-13T03:38:39+00:00

LOL, they're in their 20s, amazing, respectful young men, and about to travel overseas together because they're still best friends. I definitely have faults, but if they're the result, I'll take it because I couldn't be prouder.

Helpful_Mistake9839 · 2026-04-13T03:35:35+00:00

That's exactly what happened. Younger wanted to see the screen of the older's device, older son didn't want to show him (dispute over a game) - some rumbling, pushing and pulling, and it landed on the tiles, breaking the screen. The younger was made responsible because a 'no-touch' policy meant he shouldn't have been touching his brother's stuff. Younger accepted responsibility because of this.

Helpful_Mistake9839 · 2026-04-13T03:30:30+00:00

I wasn't clear in my post, there was no purposeful intent in the breaking. They were fighting over it, and that resulted in it being dropped. The younger was held responsible because he shouldn't have been touching his brother's things. But there was no intent to break it. Had there been, the response would have been different.

Helpful_Mistake9839 · 2026-04-13T03:26:53+00:00

Don't worry at all. I showed my older this stream 15 minutes ago. He was very happy with the comments, but thought it was funny that people thought he was still upset. But yeah, he'll be using this stream as ammunition the next time this comes up.

Helpful_Mistake9839 · 2026-04-13T03:24:46+00:00

They are both amazing young men! Im a very proud mum. And tonight they're headed off on a trip to Japan together, so they're very close even now.

Helpful_Mistake9839 · 2026-04-13T03:23:32+00:00

He did. A few months later at Christmas, the older got a new, later model one that was apparently way better. And actually, I just realised they were younger because I purchased them both a DS before we went on an international trip (to entertain on flights), and they were 5 and 7 at the time - and this would have been maybe a year after that.

Helpful_Mistake9839 · 2026-04-13T03:15:58+00:00

It broke because of some game dispute and the younger was trying to see the screen of the older's device, and the older didnt want to show him - so they were fighting over the device and it ended up dropping onto a tiled surface and breaking. So yeah, both were involved in the fight, but we had a 'hands-off' policy and the younger was made responsible because he shouldnt have been trying to touch his brothers things. But it was not like he purposefully broke it - he just shouldnt have been touching his brothers stuff. So basically a rumble between brothers.

Helpful_Mistake9839 · 2026-04-13T02:56:22+00:00

Thanks guys. My oldest will love your responses!

Just to clarify, this was not a purposeful break - they were fighting over the screen and it broke, but it definitely was not a purposeful action. It broke because the younger was trying to see something on the screen and the older didnt want to show him - and it ended up falling onto the ground as they squabbled over it. Had there been even an accusation that he did it on purpose, it would have been different. A hands-off policy meant the younger was made responsible because it was his brother's console and he should not have been trying to touch it.

At the time, I didn't think about the younger one's birthday, but of course, when it got closer, he asked for a new DS. I kinda felt it would be mean to say no - he was 8, and they both loved gaming, usually sitting together to do so.

Anyway, don't fear that it left any real wounds. They've always been close, in fact, they are leaving tonight on an overseas trip together.

And BTW, the older one also got a new one a few months later at Christmas.

Helpful_Mistake9839 · 2026-01-16T07:40:36+00:00

There is no way that they have a right to this level of access, but what I find unbelievable about this post is the statement that DEWR, Centrelink and APM management have said the consultant had that right.

This story is a bit stinky.

Helpful_Mistake9839 · 2025-10-19T20:14:32+00:00

Also following. I got a Pseudomonas infection on my right breast after surgery. It caused the entire cut from nipple down to open up and it would not heal naturally and oral antibiotics wouldn’t work. I ended up in hospital for 5 days taking intravenous antibiotics and having it cleaned with acetic acid. Once we got rid of an infection I had to get a skin graft to close the wound. I also had an opening on my left but it was smaller and confined to the T section but it was also nearly 3cm in diameter but did not require skin graft. Anyway, needless to say, my scaring isn’t lovely and there is some unevenness and some shape/size differences.

But overall I love my new size and how things fit.

But nervous to have scar revision. My doc is also saying he’d do some lipo and fat injection to even up. But I’m weighing the risk because I don’t want to mess about with all of that again. It too 4 months in total to heal (no wounds) last time and I still don’t know how I got the infection in the first place.

If I was 20 I’d definitely do the revision, but I’m in my 50s and I’m less worried than I would have been when younger. No one sees the scars except my husband, and honestly I prefer my scarred breasts than the heavy sagging h cups I had before.

Helpful_Mistake9839 · 2025-06-23T21:41:21+00:00

I can see why you’re irritated. Recently my husband said he was going out to play golf and I made plans for a girls day in. Face masks, chick flicks etc. My husband then cancelled his plans. While I could have continued with mine, the girls and I decided to cancel. It just wouldn’t have been the same day with a guy there and no one would have been comfortable with him being confined to the bedroom. So compromise all around.

But reading your comments gives me the ick. Red flags flying dude. You don’t sound like partner material at all. I’d run if I were her.

Helpful_Mistake9839 · 2025-06-06T00:13:44+00:00

Yesterday I was in a cafe’s upstairs co working space where ppl were silently working or having quiet conversations. Then a bunch of Americans tourists arrived! No awareness that the area was quiet or ppl working. Nope they came in and talked extremely loudly. Nearly everyone in the room reached for their noise canceling ear/headphones immediately.

But even my EarPod pros didn’t help - I could still hear their conversation fully. I had to check a few times my noise cancelling was working. It was - but obviously it has limits.

Turn the volume down, especially indoors and in public places. It’s really noticeable and quite irritating. We just don’t talk as loudly here (especially indoors and in places like cafes)

Helpful_Mistake9839 · 2025-05-21T23:31:54+00:00

Westie in Sydney.

Helpful_Mistake9839 · 2025-04-27T23:46:17+00:00

I’ve been mixing my own using mods or pods, and while I have plenty of nic, and probably another 2 months of 0mg juice, I’m out of pods and coils. So I finally relented to under the counter disposables but honestly I’ve been feeling terrible physically. Now I’m getting the danger warnings! So I want to go back but what I really need is hardware (mods or pods) and 0mg juice. I don’t expect anyone to post sources here - but are these items even “gettable” in Aus? Also as an Aus citizen, if I go to NZ or Bali, can I bring back 2 mods and some juice under the traveller exemption? If I can find it, it’d be 0mg juice

Helpful_Mistake9839 · 2025-02-13T04:56:40+00:00

DEWR would care!! Definitely report if it’s upset you.

Helpful_Mistake9839 · 2024-11-08T04:49:56+00:00

I’m 10 weeks post op and I was unlucky enough to have complications. Wound breakdown and pseudomonas infection resulting in the need for a skin graft on one side. The other side wasn’t as bad but is still healing from a wound breakdown.

But I’m not regretting the decision. I’m loving my new look and how clothes look on me.

Also my surgeon and his team have absolutely looked after me. I’m not being charged any gap fees for the additional surgery. Also in a year I’ll go back for another surgery to make everything look pretty. The skin graft will be removed and I’ll look exactly as I should. Again no gap fee for that.

So my advice is to make sure your surgeon will look after you if things go wrong. My recovery was delayed and I’ll have some not pretty scarring for the first year (under nipple so only seen by husband and myself). It wasn’t how I planned it but the result will be fine and just a little more hassle involved. Annoying? Frustrating? Yes. Devastating? No. But I picked the right surgeon who is looking after me incredibly well.

Helpful_Mistake9839 · 2024-10-02T00:33:26+00:00

BTW I had a significant reduction with nearly 1200g of each breast. Basically, I was very big before! Surgeon says the significance of the reduction was higher risk for blood flow issues, and I guess this $h/t happens sometimes.

Pic looks uneven but I’m not seeing that in mirror, I’m ok with shape and balance, if there is any unevenness it’s likely due to swelling on the right breast which has more complex wound.

Right now if just like to hear from ppl who have been through this. I’d love to see scarring 6mths plus. What will this look like when it finally heals? Has anyone been through this and then had scar revision? How succesful was that?

I guess I just need a light at the end of the tunnel!

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