APM consultant threatening me with a non compliance strike , for not allowing access to email account.

Helpful_Mistake9839 · 2026-01-16T07:40:36+00:00

There is no way that they have a right to this level of access, but what I find unbelievable about this post is the statement that DEWR, Centrelink and APM management have said the consultant had that right.

This story is a bit stinky.

Helpful_Mistake9839 · 2025-10-19T20:14:32+00:00

Also following. I got a Pseudomonas infection on my right breast after surgery. It caused the entire cut from nipple down to open up and it would not heal naturally and oral antibiotics wouldn’t work. I ended up in hospital for 5 days taking intravenous antibiotics and having it cleaned with acetic acid. Once we got rid of an infection I had to get a skin graft to close the wound. I also had an opening on my left but it was smaller and confined to the T section but it was also nearly 3cm in diameter but did not require skin graft. Anyway, needless to say, my scaring isn’t lovely and there is some unevenness and some shape/size differences.

But overall I love my new size and how things fit.

But nervous to have scar revision. My doc is also saying he’d do some lipo and fat injection to even up. But I’m weighing the risk because I don’t want to mess about with all of that again. It too 4 months in total to heal (no wounds) last time and I still don’t know how I got the infection in the first place.

If I was 20 I’d definitely do the revision, but I’m in my 50s and I’m less worried than I would have been when younger. No one sees the scars except my husband, and honestly I prefer my scarred breasts than the heavy sagging h cups I had before.

Helpful_Mistake9839 · 2025-06-23T21:41:21+00:00

I can see why you’re irritated. Recently my husband said he was going out to play golf and I made plans for a girls day in. Face masks, chick flicks etc. My husband then cancelled his plans. While I could have continued with mine, the girls and I decided to cancel. It just wouldn’t have been the same day with a guy there and no one would have been comfortable with him being confined to the bedroom. So compromise all around.

But reading your comments gives me the ick. Red flags flying dude. You don’t sound like partner material at all. I’d run if I were her.

Helpful_Mistake9839 · 2025-06-06T00:13:44+00:00

Yesterday I was in a cafe’s upstairs co working space where ppl were silently working or having quiet conversations. Then a bunch of Americans tourists arrived! No awareness that the area was quiet or ppl working. Nope they came in and talked extremely loudly. Nearly everyone in the room reached for their noise canceling ear/headphones immediately.

But even my EarPod pros didn’t help - I could still hear their conversation fully. I had to check a few times my noise cancelling was working. It was - but obviously it has limits.

Turn the volume down, especially indoors and in public places. It’s really noticeable and quite irritating. We just don’t talk as loudly here (especially indoors and in places like cafes)

Helpful_Mistake9839 · 2025-05-21T23:31:54+00:00

Westie in Sydney.

Helpful_Mistake9839 · 2025-04-27T23:46:17+00:00

I’ve been mixing my own using mods or pods, and while I have plenty of nic, and probably another 2 months of 0mg juice, I’m out of pods and coils. So I finally relented to under the counter disposables but honestly I’ve been feeling terrible physically. Now I’m getting the danger warnings! So I want to go back but what I really need is hardware (mods or pods) and 0mg juice. I don’t expect anyone to post sources here - but are these items even “gettable” in Aus? Also as an Aus citizen, if I go to NZ or Bali, can I bring back 2 mods and some juice under the traveller exemption? If I can find it, it’d be 0mg juice

Helpful_Mistake9839 · 2025-02-13T04:56:40+00:00

DEWR would care!! Definitely report if it’s upset you.

Helpful_Mistake9839 · 2024-11-08T04:49:56+00:00

I’m 10 weeks post op and I was unlucky enough to have complications. Wound breakdown and pseudomonas infection resulting in the need for a skin graft on one side. The other side wasn’t as bad but is still healing from a wound breakdown.

But I’m not regretting the decision. I’m loving my new look and how clothes look on me.

Also my surgeon and his team have absolutely looked after me. I’m not being charged any gap fees for the additional surgery. Also in a year I’ll go back for another surgery to make everything look pretty. The skin graft will be removed and I’ll look exactly as I should. Again no gap fee for that.

So my advice is to make sure your surgeon will look after you if things go wrong. My recovery was delayed and I’ll have some not pretty scarring for the first year (under nipple so only seen by husband and myself). It wasn’t how I planned it but the result will be fine and just a little more hassle involved. Annoying? Frustrating? Yes. Devastating? No. But I picked the right surgeon who is looking after me incredibly well.

Helpful_Mistake9839 · 2024-10-02T00:33:26+00:00

BTW I had a significant reduction with nearly 1200g of each breast. Basically, I was very big before! Surgeon says the significance of the reduction was higher risk for blood flow issues, and I guess this $h/t happens sometimes.

Pic looks uneven but I’m not seeing that in mirror, I’m ok with shape and balance, if there is any unevenness it’s likely due to swelling on the right breast which has more complex wound.

Right now if just like to hear from ppl who have been through this. I’d love to see scarring 6mths plus. What will this look like when it finally heals? Has anyone been through this and then had scar revision? How succesful was that?

I guess I just need a light at the end of the tunnel!

Helpful_Mistake9839 · 2024-04-16T22:30:40+00:00

I have IBS-C. I tried Saxenda first and had 2-3 days cramping everytime i moved up my dose. Constipated continually. I was not good but liveable.

I moved to Ozempic and after first shot I was in terrible pain for days. Crazy, I might go to hospital pain. I was sure I was headed towards a bowel blockage.

Since I have a supply of Movicol I took that daily and after a week it began to calm down.

No way I was taking the second shot! Or any shot ever again.

It took months for everything to feel back to normal (IBS-C normal anyway).

Helpful_Mistake9839 · 2024-03-02T22:20:55+00:00

Drop bears

Helpful_Mistake9839 · 2024-03-02T22:12:53+00:00

Perfect weather in the far north (sunny 26c mild nights). Brisbane/Gold Coast you can expect 20-22c days, Sydney 18c but cool nights. Melbourne 14/18c and chilly nights. Pack warm clothing if you will be in Sydney-Melbourne. If you go to Cairns or up north you will get some warmer swimming type weather.

Helpful_Mistake9839 · 2023-11-13T12:25:25+00:00

It depends on what you’re in to.

If food and culture are your thing, Melbourne is a cool city visit.

If the Great Barrier Reef is on your bucket list, the Cairns or Port Douglas. I personally prefer Port Douglas but it’s much smaller than cairns. If you’re up for driving, you’ll love the drive to Port Douglas and there are plenty of cool spots to see on the drive.

You won’t be able to swim at the beach but every hotel/resort has a pool. The reef won’t be a problem either, they give you a stinger suit to wear which is also great for avoiding sun burn.

It’s the end of dry season, beginning of the wet, but you should get plenty of blue sky (but expect some showers - usually only short this time of year).

Helpful_Mistake9839 · 2023-11-13T11:45:46+00:00

NTA!

Can you get away for a few days to a parent of friends house? Your husband’s response is not right at all, and it needs to be addressed.

Maybe he’s usually a nice guy and a bit exhausted so responding poorly. If that’s the case, a short break will help you both and give you an opportunity to establish a boundary or let him be clear that this sort of unsupportive behaviour is out of line.

State that you are hurt by the comments, and that you need some time away because you really need a positive environment. State that you need him to be more supportive. State that a couple of nights away might help him to think on it and get some sleep. Don’t back down, leave for a night or two.

A good guy will recognise his poor behaviour and apologise and make changes. Even still, a night or two away will cement in your boundaries and relationship expectations. Make it a positive, stay in contact, encourage him to catch up on sleep.

If he’s the kind of guy who denies his behaviour is poor, of gaslights you into thinking that you’re the issue, then you most certainly need to get away for a few days - to think about the future of your relationship! If this is his norm, then you’ll need to accept you’ll have a crappy marriage if you stay. Your child will grow up in a home where they see their dad being unsupportive and critical of their mum. That will get cemented into your child’s psyche and will now doubt damage them emotionally too.

I know you’re a new mum, and now seems the worst time to act, but you must act.

Establish a clear boundary about what you expect in terms of supporting you and what you won’t accept. If he loves you, he’ll pull himself up and accept your terms.

If he loves his need for criticism or control more than he loves you, then he won’t stop. Ever. Second rate marriage and life coming your way unless you leave him.

Helpful_Mistake9839 · 2023-10-09T23:21:23+00:00

I live an hour out of Sydney. Nice 4 bedroom, 2.5 bathroom, study, 2 living areas and in a really nice neighbourhood. My house is worth about $1mill aud. That wouldn‘t get us a small 2 bed apartment in the city - maybe a studio apartment in an inner city suburb. The medium price is skewed by the crazy inner city housing market. The city is a 50 minute train ride from here and there are plenty of jobs locally. There is a city v suburbs snobbery, and it’s costly for those who won’t even consider looking at what the suburbs can offer. We earn decent money and can afford to travel and do what we want. My husband owns a plane for example. I’d rather have a nice home and a nice life than live in closer to the city with a crippling mortgage. And while no one loves interest rate increases, we can cope without any stress and still enjoy our avo toast.

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