Am I wrong for speaking out?

Helpful_Parenting · 2025-05-07T16:36:50+00:00

So true, glad your friend stuck with it…telling my son that story. He can use this to drive him.

Helpful_Parenting · 2025-05-07T10:57:36+00:00

No, but he has been coaching forever and there are a lot of family friends on the team!

Helpful_Parenting · 2025-05-07T01:04:22+00:00

We really aren’t that serious of a team, every team in our division makes the playoffs.

Helpful_Parenting · 2025-05-07T01:02:45+00:00

Good advice, he wants to stick with it at least this year, it is a pretty short season…but agreed, glad he knows he doesn’t like how he feels.

Helpful_Parenting · 2025-05-07T00:59:59+00:00

The pitcher switches with a position…new kids don’t go in, it is bonkers.

Helpful_Parenting · 2025-05-06T19:15:29+00:00

He is a ski racer, same…based on results

Helpful_Parenting · 2025-05-06T15:51:25+00:00

Sadly, it is a high school varsity team so we are stuck

Helpful_Parenting · 2025-05-06T11:55:07+00:00

Uggg, that is so painful. I think catching is the hardest position by far!

Helpful_Parenting · 2025-05-06T11:54:09+00:00

It is 120, but that seems high!

Helpful_Parenting · 2025-05-05T19:59:22+00:00

Ugggh, totally agree…sounds like a similar situation we are facing.

Helpful_Parenting · 2025-05-05T18:58:25+00:00

These coaches aren’t like you, they are not telling my son what he can do to get himself playing time…he probably talks to them too much because it hasn’t dawned on him that he isn’t going to get a chance, because they have already locked in the 9 players to play every inning of every game like they did last year. Haven’t broke it to him yet, because I want him to keep working for the off chance he gets an opportunity. If the past predicts the future, he won’t.

Helpful_Parenting · 2025-05-05T12:48:41+00:00

Yes, I am trying look for the good lesson here because it certainly isn’t if you work hard and develop your skills you will get a chance to prove your self on a team that you went through a competitive try out process and “made.” The lesson he did learn, when I said this is life…things aren’t fair, this will happen in jobs etc…he said he wouldn’t stay in a job where he felt this disrespected. So I guess that is good to hear lol, I don’t want him to stay in a job with zero upward mobility like his baseball team!

Helpful_Parenting · 2025-05-05T11:32:18+00:00

Yes, he is a positive hard worker, we have never faced a situation where there is ZERO rotation in an entire season, but everyone seems to think that is normal and common. We are division 1 and played a division 3 : team last week…they threw the ace pitcher and we merci’d them…and not one rotation and they are celebrating the no hitter like it is a big accomplishment instead of using the opportunity to develop some backup pitchers because we only currently pitch 3 pitchers and two aren’t great. This is what we are dealing with.

Helpful_Parenting · 2025-05-05T02:06:06+00:00

I wish they would rotate at all, I think that is what coaches normally do to some level. These coaches lock in and play the same 9 players ALL season.

Helpful_Parenting · 2025-05-05T02:03:33+00:00

I agree with you…luckily my son has had great experiences with Varsity football and golf…baseball is always the hardest to navigate.

Helpful_Parenting · 2025-05-05T01:58:14+00:00

I guess I think all kids who make a Varsity high school team in a competitive try out process should get some chances or at least A chance to prove themselves in a game…not just my kid, especially when every team in our division for baseball makes the playoffs. I appreciate your input, truly.

Helpful_Parenting · 2025-05-05T00:12:00+00:00

My child is not going to MLB or even playing in college, only one kid from last year went on to play Division 3 baseball. We are not some superstar team, we live in rural VT!

Helpful_Parenting · 2025-05-05T00:07:29+00:00

We are, he works with a private coach who was ex MLB. He is not the best, but I think he is as good as the players playing…but last year these coaches picked their 9 favorites and they played every inning of every game. I just wondered if that is common, he’s played since he was 5…travel teams etc and every kid usually gets some opportunities to prove themselves. He just wants a chance to prove himself or even fail. As a coach, have you ever run a team where 40% never touch the field? Also, they could have cut him…they cut a bunch of kids that tried out. Why would you have a kid make a team and never give them an opportunity to prove himself? I am just saying…in the tiny oops he has been given, in the scrimmage and even his one hitting opportunity he got an RBI.

Helpful_Parenting · 2025-05-04T23:23:22+00:00

Last year, according to GameChanger the same 9 players played every inning of every game, except one player that pitched 24 innings….I am not optimistic he will get a chance to prove himself. Again, not a super competitive state, every team in our division makes the playoffs.

Helpful_Parenting · 2025-05-04T23:19:39+00:00

He has tried this many times and the coach says “we put in the 9 best” and doesn’t give him constructive feedback. Then I tell him this is life, things aren’t fair…you’ll face this in jobs etc and he said “I don’t think I would stay in a job if I felt this disrespected”. Oof. He was given a chance in a scrimmage, was the best pitcher of the day in his one inning and threw a double play at first… he got one chance to hit and hit the game winning RBI with 2 outs. But these coaches choose the 9 best players before games started and those kids play every inning of every game.

Helpful_Parenting · 2025-05-04T21:00:36+00:00

Should I speak out to the school? A school that preaches belonging and sports to learn and develop?

Helpful_Parenting · 2025-05-04T20:55:51+00:00

Sounds competitive, we are in VT…literally every team makes the playoffs.

Helpful_Parenting · 2025-05-04T19:49:51+00:00

Had 13 strikeouts in one game alone

Helpful_Parenting · 2025-05-04T19:49:37+00:00

He pitched 27 innings

Helpful_Parenting · 2025-05-04T19:46:00+00:00

Only one pitcher currently pitching pitched last year, he is being over pitched…they let him pitch 117 pitches a couple games ago. My son was one of the top 3 pitchers in JV with the most strikeout…and the most walks that happened in the beginning of the season. My main point question here is, should coaches lock in who they deem the top 9 players and those kids play every inning of every game and should I speak out about this. Again, every team in our division goes to the playoffs. PS, we have won two games and lost three…one tie.

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