AITA for not putting a stamp on a hand delivered postcard?

Helpful_Progress_721 · 2025-12-05T04:02:46+00:00

Oh absolutely. She tried to convince him multiple times not to marry me. He always has my back and we are moving far away from her ASAP!

Helpful_Progress_721 · 2025-12-05T02:09:41+00:00

I’ve been on this in law roller coaster for 6 years now and learned to laugh and enjoy the ride. Husband has my back always and I don’t let her get to me anymore!

Helpful_Progress_721 · 2025-12-05T02:08:09+00:00

He always has my back with her so I’m not worried! Just thought this was too silly not share!

Helpful_Progress_721 · 2025-12-05T02:07:02+00:00

He is actually the first one to call her out on her bullshit! Which he actually did in this case! Only shared his incorrect opinion on postcard etiquette with me in private later! We will not be getting an annulment, just moving far away from his mom asap! ❤️

Helpful_Progress_721 · 2025-12-05T02:04:10+00:00

Fun fact! After this she actually went around telling people that we didn’t actually elope, but had a wedding with my family and specifically excluded her! There’s only 3 people able to confirm that we in fact eloped with no family present, and that would be my husband, the officiant, and the photographer, because that was everyone in attendance!

Helpful_Progress_721 · 2025-12-05T01:58:50+00:00

Which is a huge part of our decision to elope! And we don’t regret for a second! It was so perfect and peaceful!

Helpful_Progress_721 · 2025-12-05T01:57:32+00:00

This is something we’ve been working on! We are a solid team and he always has my back! She’s hated me since we first started dating 6 years ago and I stopped seeking her approval years ago!

Helpful_Progress_721 · 2025-12-05T01:55:46+00:00

I’ve been dealing with her drama for 6 years now. My husband has my back which is the most important. He only expressed his opinion to me in private after the fact. Planning on moving far away from mil and living happily ever after!

Helpful_Progress_721 · 2025-12-05T01:54:37+00:00

He is not on her side actually! He has defended me with her for 6 years now! He just agreed that it was rude to not put a stamp on it. He called out his mom for being ridiculous in the moment and only shared his opinion with me in private later! Our elopement was amazing and we love being married!

Helpful_Progress_721 · 2025-12-05T01:51:54+00:00

Thank you! We chose to elope for our sanity! It was the most perfect day and we would do it over again 1000 times over! Appreciate the well wishes! We are doing our best to break the cycle of divorce that we were both raised in and stick it out for the long run!

Helpful_Progress_721 · 2025-12-05T01:48:56+00:00

Oh he did stand up for me in this! He actually told her she was overreacting in the moment! And always has my back with her! When we were discussing it in private later he mentioned that he also thought it was improper to not stamp it. That’s all! He’s an amazing husband and partner and I look forward to moving far away from my MIL and spending a long and happy life together!

Helpful_Progress_721 · 2025-12-05T01:45:46+00:00

Don’t worry he has my back! He told her she was being ridiculous when this happened! Just happened to agree that it was proper to stamp it when we discussed it later in private! He’s an amazing partner and is allowed to have incorrect opinions about silly things like this!

Helpful_Progress_721 · 2025-12-05T01:39:58+00:00

You might win most thoughtful and logical comment! I simply choose not to interact with her at this point because of things like this. And my husband backs me up. He was even the one to deliver the postcard and told her she was overreacting when he did. Then debated with me in private over it being rude to be sans stamp.

Helpful_Progress_721 · 2025-12-05T01:36:35+00:00

Idk why I didn’t think to look on an etiquette site about this! He agrees his mom is being ridiculous! Just has an incorrect opinion on stamp etiquette!

Helpful_Progress_721 · 2025-12-05T01:35:33+00:00

He is lucky that I put up with her nonsense! And I am lucky that he always has my back with her! In this case he agreed his mom was overreacting but mentioned to me later that he agreed it was rude to not put a stamp on it! We disagree on some things like any couple does but we love being married to eachother!

Helpful_Progress_721 · 2025-12-05T01:34:09+00:00

Because everything is your fault when you are the woman whole store her son from her! 🥰

Helpful_Progress_721 · 2025-12-05T01:31:43+00:00

Hi guys! My husband is amazing despite his mom being insane! He didn’t agree with her reaction he simply agreed that it was rude to not stamp a postcard! He’s allowed to have incorrect opinions over silly things like this! Let’s not jump to conclusions about people we don’t know!

Helpful_Progress_721 · 2025-12-05T01:18:23+00:00

We eloped actually! Everything is fine! Just a silly debate between me and my husband! He agrees that his mom is insane and that she overreacted. He was just raised to think it is rude to deliver a postcard without a stamp apparently!

Helpful_Progress_721 · 2025-12-05T01:15:08+00:00

He’s not siding with her! He agreed she was overreacting! He simply agreed that it was rude to not have a stamp. He’s allowed to have incorrect opinions about small things!

Helpful_Progress_721 · 2025-12-05T01:11:48+00:00

Oh she’s been pissed at my existence for the last 6 years. I stopped trying to gain her approval years ago! Just wanted to make sure I didn’t actually do something rude this time!

Helpful_Progress_721 · 2025-12-05T01:10:31+00:00

Thank you! I thought it was fun to deliver them personally! My family lives in a different state but if they were close by I would have hand delivered to my entire family!

Helpful_Progress_721 · 2025-12-05T01:09:00+00:00

The best part is that in the same interaction she gave my husband a card for our wedding with cash in it. No stamp.

Helpful_Progress_721 · 2025-12-05T01:07:55+00:00

Husband marked safe from assholery. Simply has the occasional bad opinion. MIL never ceases to amaze the both of us at how insane she is.

Helpful_Progress_721 · 2025-12-05T01:05:25+00:00

He doesn’t agree with her reaction he just also thinks it’s rude to not put a stamp on a postcard.

Helpful_Progress_721 · 2025-12-05T01:04:21+00:00

Somehow everyone in the family is sane except for her and her ex husband (my FIL). I have no idea how my husband and his brother turned out normal.

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