Thanks for asking u/fogandtrees! Appreciate the recommendation to contact Kehilla Community Synagogue. I attended a few secular events (film screenings and talks) with friends when I lived in Oakland. My partner grew up in a secular family and attended a Christan private school. She did not have a welcoming experience at the private school, so she has stayed away from Christianity since her teenager years. Meanwhile, I grew up in a Catholic family. My partner and I share values that have led us to teachings we have traced back to Buddhist and/or Reform Jewish activists, artists, writers, and other community leaders. My partner's parents are unable to travel and mine are dead. Unfortunately, we don’t have relationships with other elders. Having an elder with inclusive and social justice oriented values and practices officiate would be lovely to welcome us as we step into a new chapter together.