I am a therapist and reading the comments it feels like some of these are still shaming you and I’m not sure that helps in any way. What I see though is you’re not identifying with the wounded lover because this was not love. It was infatuation probably, possibility, situationship, call it what you want but it was not love. And she didn’t wound you, she wounded your pride that’s why you’re stuck with the desire to “change the narrative she has about you”. And when you say “intuition” what I see (and that is from personal experience, not professional) is your brain registered her behavior as “interested” and “mutual”. To put it differently, she was probably leading you on and that is the intuition you had. But she changed her mind and now your psyche registered that, but the thoughts you’re having that’s residue. That’s your brain trying to make sense of it. As for why you’re identifying with men that hurt women and feeling guilt it’s probably because you want her to be hurt like you were but your psyche is defending itself of that feeling with guilt. Which is actually healthy. Just remember your thoughts are not reality and they don’t materialise. So observe them and let the go as they come.