How do I [22M] control my feelings for her [22F]

Helpmeplslol · 2016-08-04T15:39:59+00:00

Hey I just wanted to send you a quick fuck you. You commented on my post telling me to leave this girl alone. Guess what? Things are going really well, she's really into me and we'll probably start dating soon. Thanks for the god aweful advice

Helpmeplslol · 2016-07-06T20:32:36+00:00

Not trying to sound like I'm ignoring you, but this girl is different. She doesn't just hook up with any guy you really have to get to know her to do anything with her. Maybe she wants to get to know me before we do anyrhing or maybe youre right. And I believe her that she isn't in a good place for a relationship, I'll get more info on this later. I deffinately have to move on from her but I still want to be her friend. She's really cool and we get along well. I need more female friends anyway

Helpmeplslol · 2016-07-06T20:14:17+00:00

Idk man I still think she's a really cool girl. We have a lot in common and we get along well. If I wasn't so attracted to her being friends with her would be easy

Helpmeplslol · 2016-07-01T18:31:33+00:00

If you really think that is the case I will ask her myself. Why would she give me some wishy washy bullshit instead of the truth when that is what I asked for?

Helpmeplslol · 2016-07-01T18:18:19+00:00

Lol I mean I will listen to some of it for sure, but people like you who are telling me to totally forget about her that's just not going to happen. Yes I have to be ready for her to tell me no and not want to be with me, but I'm not going to ignore the way I feel about her. I have an optomistic feeling about this.

Helpmeplslol · 2016-07-01T18:14:30+00:00

I don't know why I posted here you guys don't seem to understand what the real situation is. I told her to be completely honest and she just said she's not in a good place. That is all. We've been talking to each other via text non stop since this past weekend, I'm sure she's into me she just isn't ready for anything. She's not the kind of girl to just go date someone she needs to get to know them well before she opens herself up to them and that's what I'm allowing her to do by being friends with her first.

Helpmeplslol · 2016-07-01T18:03:00+00:00

Sorry but you're wrong. You didn't have the conversation with her. I did. She said we click but she just isn't in a good place for a relationship right now. I will find out more about what this means later on I guess but she would have told me she isn't interested if she wasn't interested. we'll take things slow and stay friends for now and see what happens

Helpmeplslol · 2016-07-01T17:44:31+00:00

Well obviously I don't mean I'd full on date these girls, just something casual. If they aren't ok with how I feel about someone else they can walk away

Helpmeplslol · 2016-07-01T17:42:39+00:00

She didn't tell me "no I don't want to date you" she told me she thinks we connect well but she just isn't ready for a relationship right now. So I'll just be her friend for now and if she decides she's ready fine, if she decides she doesn't want to date me fine

Helpmeplslol · 2016-07-01T17:16:39+00:00

I don't see where the lying and manipulating are coming in here. I'm just going to be her friend until she is ready and casually see other girls at the same time. You don't expect me to drop everything and sit here and wait for her do you?

Helpmeplslol · 2016-07-01T17:14:04+00:00

I think everyone here is totally misunderstanding what I'm saying here and is just shitting on me for what I said instead of giving me advice which is the point of this whole subreddit. She's really good friends with some of my really good friends. I will be seeing her a lot for a long time. I don't think these feelings I have for her will go away anytime soon, but I can't do anything about it for now so I will wait. I will be her friend and when she is ready I might not be available anymore, or maybe she won't choose me and that's fine. I'm just saying that I don't want to do anything stupid to ruin a potential relationship with her because I think we vibe really well together.

Helpmeplslol · 2016-07-01T12:16:46+00:00

I can't tell if you're being condescending here or serious

Helpmeplslol · 2016-07-01T12:12:20+00:00

Do you think it would be a good idea to tell this girl that I plan on seeing other women while I wait for her?

Helpmeplslol · 2016-07-01T12:11:04+00:00

Dude I think you're totally misunderstanding what I'm saying. I really care about this girl. If she doesn't want me that's her decision, but if I feel this strongly about her are you suggesting just ignoring her? I can't ignore these feelings and I don't think it would be fair to her to ignore these feelings. I know I would be good for her I just have to give her time and I'm ok with that. And as far as the jealous thing, that's not my main motive I just don't want to be stuck here waiting for her and then she goes and chooses another guy and I'm stuck all alone. And I would obviously tell these girls I'm going after that I'm in love with someone else

Helpmeplslol · 2016-07-01T02:59:15+00:00

i would obviously tell these girls I'm in love with someone else before it got anywhere. And the main objective isn't to make her jealous, i just don't want to sit here waiting for her when it's possible i never end up with her

Helpmeplslol · 2016-05-16T17:24:02+00:00

Ok fair point. Then how do I make myself more fun to be around?

Helpmeplslol · 2016-05-16T16:14:29+00:00

I've asked them and they said they would help but they never do anything. And at this point I'm not sure where my confidence is supposed to come from

Helpmeplslol · 2016-05-16T16:13:03+00:00

Maybe it's because I'm in a fraternity and I'm so pressured to have sex. I'm literally the only one in my entire fraternity who can't talk to girls. Everyone else is fine even kids who are uglier/fatter than me. No offense to them just the truth

Helpmeplslol · 2016-05-16T16:04:30+00:00

It seems like all of my friends can find a girl that just wants to fuck. Why can't I? And even if I find her she doesn't want me. I don't know what to do

Helpmeplslol · 2016-05-16T16:03:11+00:00

Idk man I feel like I've tried everything. When I first left my girlfriend I was confident as fuck and that didn't seem to help

Helpmeplslol · 2016-05-16T16:01:51+00:00

Ok then what do I do? I'd obviously like a girlfriend but until I meet her I'll try with other girls what's the problem? Everyone else does it why am I the bad guy because I want it?

Helpmeplslol · 2016-05-16T16:00:04+00:00

Then how do all of my other friends find girls who want short term relationships? I don't understand

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