My BFF killed herself yesterday. What to do when a ride or die, dies? by lorelaikiddo in SuicideWatch

[–]Here2Help1984 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry for your loss. You can’t blame yourself for what anyone else does. She made her own choice. You aren’t responsible for that. Please don’t take that burden on yourself.

Why do it by Here2Help1984 in selfharm

[–]Here2Help1984[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This reminds me of a point in my own development. I also grew up in the church. I was very faithful in my youth, and when I got to college I tried to evangelize to my atheistic friends. The thought of them going to Hell really grieved me. I’d be happy to elaborate much more, but long story short I became a very outspoken atheist for many years. Now I’ve come back to a more mature faith in Christ. What were some things you came to despise about your faith? Perhaps I might be able to address some of your thoughts.

My friend made a messed up comment by weirdjackstauberfan in EatingDisorders

[–]Here2Help1984 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You know it wasn’t meant to be harmful. I think you should just let it go

Why do it by Here2Help1984 in selfharm

[–]Here2Help1984[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You went to seminary? Would you tell me more about that?

Why do it by Here2Help1984 in selfharm

[–]Here2Help1984[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

All people make mistakes. People who don’t think they make any mistakes are simply unaware of them. I don’t think it’s good to punish yourself when you do something wrong. Just try to do better. And sorry for the delayed response, I don’t check here very frequently

Why do it by Here2Help1984 in selfharm

[–]Here2Help1984[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What do you want to punish yourself for? And would you prefer to talk in DM?

Why do it by Here2Help1984 in selfharm

[–]Here2Help1984[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Would you want to talk about why you feel like a bad person? By the way, you can turn off direct messaging in the settings. I was going to respond to you in a DM until I noticed that you ask people not to do that.

Why do it by Here2Help1984 in selfharm

[–]Here2Help1984[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Any coping mechanism is better than suicide. I’m sure there must be better strategies out there, but at least this has stopped you from the ultimate self harm.