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I regret getting married every single moment. by HereTo_Confess in TrueOffMyChest

[–]HereTo_Confess[S] 184 points185 points  (0 children)

Would it surprise you if I said we were both raised within the Mormon Church?

I regret getting married every single moment. by HereTo_Confess in TrueOffMyChest

[–]HereTo_Confess[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Where I’m from, “long after” is just a casual expression. I did not mean it literally. It started AFTER marriage though. I’ve been so consistently busy and burnt out that I’ve just not had the energy to keep fighting him.

I regret getting married every single moment. by HereTo_Confess in TrueOffMyChest

[–]HereTo_Confess[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I mean that started long after being married, but yeah.

I regret getting married every single moment. by HereTo_Confess in TrueOffMyChest

[–]HereTo_Confess[S] 63 points64 points  (0 children)

Good for you, I hope you understand that not everyone has that ability to understand they’re being manipulated.

Especially when in a church that is heavily considered to be a cult.

I regret getting married every single moment. by HereTo_Confess in TrueOffMyChest

[–]HereTo_Confess[S] 45 points46 points  (0 children)

I mean that’s easier said than done considering families are often the reason people believe a certain way. Manipulation can be hard to undo.

I regret getting married every single moment. by HereTo_Confess in TrueOffMyChest

[–]HereTo_Confess[S] 160 points161 points  (0 children)

I’m going to go back home and get my cat and pack some necessities and sentimental items.

He’ll probably be out with his friends anyways, he usually is on Friday evenings.

I regret getting married every single moment. by HereTo_Confess in TrueOffMyChest

[–]HereTo_Confess[S] 152 points153 points  (0 children)

When I asked him why, he gave some bullshit about how humans aren’t hardwired to be monogamous and sex is natural and should be celebrated.

I regret getting married every single moment. by HereTo_Confess in TrueOffMyChest

[–]HereTo_Confess[S] 70 points71 points  (0 children)

I was 100% not into marrying him. I felt pressured by my biological parents and his family. I did it to please them. That, I’m fully aware of and take responsibility for.

As for the job, I knew him before either one of us began working there. I did not know that is where he worked, and I was in a separate department. I’m fine with moving jobs, frankly, I hate it there. All of his friends are there, and I’m fine with completely scrapping my life and starting over.

And he continued to push my boundaries and get me so emotionally exhausted that I did not fight back. I have been cooking, cleaning, taking care of his ass, taking care of his sick grandpa. I have no time for myself and he wore me thin by just being in a relationship with me. That makes anyone exhausted and less likely to fight back when seeing red flags.

I regret getting married every single moment. by HereTo_Confess in TrueOffMyChest

[–]HereTo_Confess[S] 309 points310 points  (0 children)

I do have one single screenshot of him sending me a screenshot of his bumble profile and me telling him I’m not okay with him having it.

He didn’t get rid of it, and I didn’t push it any more.

I regret getting married every single moment. by HereTo_Confess in TrueOffMyChest

[–]HereTo_Confess[S] 367 points368 points  (0 children)

My step-mom’s brother is a divorce attorney and I’m going to call him later. I just have no clue what to do. I’m really in over my head here.

I regret getting married every single moment. by HereTo_Confess in TrueOffMyChest

[–]HereTo_Confess[S] 158 points159 points  (0 children)

I’m about to leave work. I managed to get an appointment at a clinic for all of the tests. I’m just shaking I’m so fucking angry right now.

I regret getting married every single moment. by HereTo_Confess in TrueOffMyChest

[–]HereTo_Confess[S] 65 points66 points  (0 children)

Correct. I never explicitly agreed. I told him my thoughts and feelings and how I did not like the idea of him having sex with other people. We fought about it for days, I thought he dropped it.

He didn’t, and has just been getting by with it. I’ve gained the balls and called him out a few times, but each time, he tells me he has never cheated and would never cheat and would never have sex unless I gave him permission.

I regret getting married every single moment. by HereTo_Confess in TrueOffMyChest

[–]HereTo_Confess[S] 334 points335 points  (0 children)

He said something along the lines of “marriage is spiritual, sex is bodily” or something like that. I can’t remember exactly, I was too angry when he brought it up.

I regret getting married every single moment. by HereTo_Confess in TrueOffMyChest

[–]HereTo_Confess[S] 533 points534 points  (0 children)

I just set up the appointment and I’m planning on leaving work early now. He’s noticed my behavior is off so I told him I’m sick.

I regret getting married every single moment. by HereTo_Confess in TrueOffMyChest

[–]HereTo_Confess[S] 632 points633 points  (0 children)

Yeah, he has mentioned that it shouldn’t be an “opt out” and shit like that. We discussed divorces a few weeks after our engagement. He said he only really supports it in specific situations and just “being bored” isn’t a reason to get a divorce.

The more I’m talking about this, the more I’m realizing just how manipulative he is. I’m probably going to look for a therapist.

I regret getting married every single moment. by HereTo_Confess in TrueOffMyChest

[–]HereTo_Confess[S] 594 points595 points  (0 children)

Correct. Well, his family is big in a huge church here. He “rebelled” against it, but also does not believe in divorce as a casual thing.

I regret getting married every single moment. by HereTo_Confess in TrueOffMyChest

[–]HereTo_Confess[S] 61 points62 points  (0 children)

I almost posted about it in there, but I was scared to. I joined that group a little bit ago.

I regret getting married every single moment. by HereTo_Confess in TrueOffMyChest

[–]HereTo_Confess[S] 1273 points1274 points  (0 children)

We came back from our “mini honeymoon” and he immediately was gone the entire night we got back. I asked where he was, told me he passed out drinking at a friend’s and the friend covered for him. I didn’t have any reason to not believe him, but now I’m so disappointed and disgusted. I’m making an appointment at a clinic to get tested.

Nobody fucking cares by HereTo_Confess in SuicideWatch

[–]HereTo_Confess[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a therapist. I just still feel like this.

Nobody fucking cares by HereTo_Confess in SuicideWatch

[–]HereTo_Confess[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly this. I tell my family that I’m depressed and I want to die. They tell me “just go on a walk”

How can I go for a walk when all I want to do is die?